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Renew Deal

(81,869 posts)
Mon Jul 8, 2013, 11:12 AM Jul 2013

How helicopter parents can ruin kids' job prospects

(CNN) -- Nicole Williams thought she had found the ideal job applicant -- until a phone call came from Mom.

Only thing was it wasn't her mom; it was the potential employee's.

"She wanted to know everything from where [the job candidate] would be sitting to a review of her responsibilities," said Williams, the career expert for LinkedIn, the professional networking site.

"I withdrew the offer," she said.

This wasn't the only time Williams had encountered the parental presence of a young employee.

She previously had a call from a parent who didn't agree with her son's performance proposal and asked if she could come into her office to discuss. In a presentation in front of new clients, Williams also witnessed a new graduate using the phrase "my dad thinks" as it pertained to the project.

As college students and graduates seek entry into the world of 9-to-5 this summer via internships and full-time jobs, parents that previously helped select their child's course load are turning their attention to their child's employer.

However, what these so-called helicopter parents might not realize is that their hovering ways can undermine their child's advancement, instead of making them soar.
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http://www.cnn.com/2013/07/02/living/cnn-parents-helicopter-parenting-job-search

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How helicopter parents can ruin kids' job prospects (Original Post) Renew Deal Jul 2013 OP
Good advise gopiscrap Jul 2013 #1
I had one of those; my father was a controlling and vicious man. PDJane Jul 2013 #2
Job prospects? Hell, everything! Daemonaquila Jul 2013 #3
I was a high school counselor Mz Pip Jul 2013 #4
I've had parents of high school seniors noamnety Jul 2013 #5

gopiscrap

(23,763 posts)
1. Good advise
Mon Jul 8, 2013, 11:23 AM
Jul 2013

I had helicopter parents when I was young...thank God both of them died by the time I was 15 otherwise they would have been like some of the parents described

PDJane

(10,103 posts)
2. I had one of those; my father was a controlling and vicious man.
Mon Jul 8, 2013, 11:31 AM
Jul 2013

And yes, he ruined a few things for me up until his death!

 

Daemonaquila

(1,712 posts)
3. Job prospects? Hell, everything!
Mon Jul 8, 2013, 03:52 PM
Jul 2013

These idiots wreck their kids, and failing that, they wreck their kids' lives.

Mz Pip

(27,452 posts)
4. I was a high school counselor
Tue Jul 9, 2013, 09:54 AM
Jul 2013

I ran into a few of them. I felt bad for the kids. Their parents would write their papers for them, demand schedule changes so their kids wouldn't have to have challenging teachers then threaten to sue if their demands weren't met.

At some point you have to just let your kid succeed or fail on his/her own merit.

 

noamnety

(20,234 posts)
5. I've had parents of high school seniors
Tue Jul 9, 2013, 11:09 AM
Jul 2013

email me during the school day (when their kid is in school) to ask me to help them do research for their kid's project that they were working on.

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