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onehandle

(51,122 posts)
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 12:28 PM Nov 2012

Kevin Clash, Elmo Puppeteer, Resigns

Source: New York Times

Kevin Clash, the longtime voice and puppeteer behind Sesame Street’s Elmo character, has resigned in the aftermath of allegations — which Sesame Workshop had previously said were unfounded — that he had an underage sexual relationship. In a statement released Tuesday, Sesame Workshop said:

Sesame Workshop’s mission is to harness the educational power of media to help all children the world over reach their highest potential. Kevin Clash has helped us achieve that mission for 28 years, and none of us, especially Kevin, want anything to divert our attention from our focus on serving as a leading educational organization. Unfortunately, the controversy surrounding Kevin’s personal life has become a distraction that none of us want, and he has concluded that he can no longer be effective in his job and has resigned from Sesame Street. This is a sad day for Sesame Street.

Mr. Clash has played Elmo on “Sesame Street” for decades. He was profiled in a documentary last year, “Being Elmo: A Puppeteer’s Journey.”

The sexual accusations were made public last Monday, then later recanted by a 24-year-old man who has remained anonymous. The episode led to Mr. Clash coming out as a gay man, something he had not previously discussed in public. “I have never been ashamed of this or tried to hide it, but felt it was a personal and private matter,” he said in the statement last week.

Read more: http://mediadecoder.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/11/20/k



This sucks.

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Kevin Clash, Elmo Puppeteer, Resigns (Original Post) onehandle Nov 2012 OP
Sad. efhmc Nov 2012 #1
What's the inside scoop on this? AldoLeopold Nov 2012 #2
No -- you aren't right. The controversy was invented by the accuser, looking for a payday. MADem Nov 2012 #5
He recanted the recantation. WinkyDink Nov 2012 #9
He recanted the recantation? AldoLeopold Nov 2012 #11
Yes. WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #39
When? Kelvin Mace Nov 2012 #23
No - you are wrong. There is a second accuser. oberliner Nov 2012 #18
They need to pursue charges then. Step up and step out. MADem Nov 2012 #20
Here's a link oberliner Nov 2012 #59
We'll have to see how this shakes out. MADem Nov 2012 #71
Indeed oberliner Nov 2012 #72
Or maybe, just maybe WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #40
Fair enough oberliner Nov 2012 #60
He was in his forties, but WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #89
Sorry - that's what I meant oberliner Nov 2012 #92
You don't know that. There's a second lawsuit now by another accuser. pnwmom Nov 2012 #30
Catholic priests generally molest prepubescent children, not sexually active teens who seek out MADem Nov 2012 #38
Actually most priest victims were post-pubescent AngryAmish Nov 2012 #53
Thank you. That's correct. n/t pnwmom Nov 2012 #57
No, that is not accurate--between eleven and fourteen years old, on average. MADem Nov 2012 #75
No halfway intelligent person would expect that everyone on an over 18 line pnwmom Nov 2012 #58
I'm going on what I see on the television commercials. MADem Nov 2012 #76
The average age during the decade when this even supposedly occurred, according to the table, pnwmom Nov 2012 #80
I am not saying that anything is "OK" though you seem eager--nay, ANXIOUS--to put those kinds of MADem Nov 2012 #83
Where have I said anything that indicates I think there is evidence he is guilty? pnwmom Nov 2012 #86
You have done nothing but make insinuations in our conversation, here. MADem Nov 2012 #90
I don't think the Vatican has a history of consistently protecting puppeteers... LanternWaste Nov 2012 #46
Ouch tavalon Nov 2012 #98
Nothing worse than the character assassination of a good person. nt Javaman Nov 2012 #3
Or letting a rapist go free because they are famous AngryAmish Nov 2012 #7
Um what? The guy who accused Clash retracted his statement. Javaman Nov 2012 #12
Then another guy has come forward AngryAmish Nov 2012 #14
Ahhh that's different. I had no idea of the others. I'll have to read up on it. nt Javaman Nov 2012 #15
I just assume everyone knew AngryAmish Nov 2012 #16
Don't you have to state that you are eighteen to go on those chat lines? MADem Nov 2012 #21
I was under the impression that it was one of those party-line thingys AngryAmish Nov 2012 #26
Yes--those telephone line things. "Must be 18" is what my TV tells me. MADem Nov 2012 #34
In a bar you know someone (the bartender) has checked the ID's of drinkers. pnwmom Nov 2012 #68
Are those chat lines free, or do they cost x cents a minute? MADem Nov 2012 #70
Clash isn't accused of raping anyone while on a chat line. pnwmom Nov 2012 #67
Again, you meet someone in a bar, do you "card" them later? MADem Nov 2012 #73
He claims he recanted and settled under duress for $125K. targetpractice Nov 2012 #17
I am not one of Polanski's apologists Kelvin Mace Nov 2012 #25
Clash admits relations with the initial accuser, but that the dude was 18 (or 17) at the time AngryAmish Nov 2012 #27
I think Donald Trump's habit of trading in his wives for younger models is reprehensible, too. MADem Nov 2012 #35
What's the heterosexual equivalent of a "chickenhawk?" WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #43
Horndog. Kelvin Mace Nov 2012 #65
If she's 22 years younger she's a mature woman in her 40's. pnwmom Nov 2012 #69
Did I say it was? WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #88
Does "first got together" mean having sex? pnwmom Nov 2012 #95
Uh, okay, I'm sure it was just chaste little goodnight kisses... nt WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #105
Dirty old man? No fool like an old fool? nt MADem Nov 2012 #77
I believe it cradle robber nt WinniSkipper Nov 2012 #93
There are two definitions of chickenhawk Kelvin Mace Nov 2012 #64
I'm not a Polanski apologist, either, but WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #41
He spent time Kelvin Mace Nov 2012 #63
The psych facility WeekendWarrior Nov 2012 #87
Neither of the accusers has said anything about rape. yardwork Nov 2012 #97
But when the accused is a priest here, people are all over it. pnwmom Nov 2012 #31
The priests that invite ire are the ones that are molesting CHILDREN. MADem Nov 2012 #36
Statistically, the large majority of priests accused of abuse abused underage teens, pnwmom Nov 2012 #50
Were they calling phone chat hotlines? graegoyle Nov 2012 #54
Maybe some of them were. But what's the point? Clash's accusers pnwmom Nov 2012 #55
Average age is 12. That's not the same situation at all. MADem Nov 2012 #78
I agree that this sucks, too. Did he jump or was he pushed? MADem Nov 2012 #4
Are you serious? oberliner Nov 2012 #19
As I said upthread, don't you have to be eighteen to go on a chat line? MADem Nov 2012 #22
Even if children represent themselves as 18, it's still up to the adult to KNOW. nt pnwmom Nov 2012 #32
Like Rob Lowe knew? MADem Nov 2012 #37
I don't know anything about that situation. But I've told my own sons that at the very least pnwmom Nov 2012 #48
Don't let your sons go to New York. MADem Nov 2012 #84
Doesn't matter. It's up to the adult to make sure that his or her prospective partner is of age. pnwmom Nov 2012 #85
That's absurd--when an "adult" assumes he or she is dealing with another "adult," there isn't MADem Nov 2012 #91
If Clash, like Lowe, was deceived by minors carrying fake ID's, that should let him off the hook. pnwmom Nov 2012 #94
There are always fake IDs BuelahWitch Nov 2012 #100
Of course. But then the burden of proof is off the adult pnwmom Nov 2012 #103
I don't know oberliner Nov 2012 #61
Unfortunately, according to TMZ a second accuser has come Laurian Nov 2012 #6
"money or revenge"? Because accusing the voice of ELMO is a sure bet?! WinkyDink Nov 2012 #10
I said it "could" be money or revenge. It could also be that the accusations Laurian Nov 2012 #13
People said the same thing about the Penn State coach -- at first. The only thing pnwmom Nov 2012 #47
Not many people. The Penn State coach was molesting little children. MADem Nov 2012 #74
So you think victims of statutory rape are basically asking for it? pnwmom Nov 2012 #81
Let's wait, why don't we, to determine two things. MADem Nov 2012 #82
Sad indeed. SoapBox Nov 2012 #8
Great. Just what PBS needed. WhoIsNumberNone Nov 2012 #24
Gingrich! Sanford! Ensign! Wide Stance! graegoyle Nov 2012 #52
'Elmo' puppeteer Kevin Clash resigns as second man files lawsuit over new underage sex allegations struggle4progress Nov 2012 #28
Those dates don't add up... sweetloukillbot Nov 2012 #44
9 years ago, not 19 years ago nt oberliner Nov 2012 #62
According to one of those articles, the first accuser wants to give the settlement money back now pnwmom Nov 2012 #49
I met him when I worked on the 1st Ninja Turtle movie. AlbertCat Nov 2012 #29
As someone who watched sesame during the clash era alp227 Nov 2012 #33
this is absurd. nt LaydeeBug Nov 2012 #42
He had to resign. He clearly violated the Uniform Code of Muppet Justice. nt eppur_se_muova Nov 2012 #45
I don't care who he is if he was lalalu Nov 2012 #51
Either we're serious about statutory rape laws or we're not. pnwmom Nov 2012 #56
I agree Blasphemer Nov 2012 #66
Kevin Clash Accuser Insists He Didn't Lie and Wants Out of Settlement oberliner Nov 2012 #79
"...the struggling actor model..." BuelahWitch Nov 2012 #101
I wonder if Genia agrees that he never lived in the closet. LiberalAndProud Nov 2012 #96
Here's the thing...ELMO SUCKED! hexola Nov 2012 #99
Does anyone find the timing after Bird Bird was so prominent in the election suspicious? graham4anything Nov 2012 #102
Yeah, it's a good thing this was under wraps until after. Pterodactyl Nov 2012 #104
 

AldoLeopold

(617 posts)
2. What's the inside scoop on this?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 12:40 PM
Nov 2012

I've seen a snippet or two and it seems there is some contraversy about the age of the accusing man at the time of the relationship? Am I right?

On the plus side, this opens up the voice role for Chris Walken who I sincerely hope will accept the job.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
5. No -- you aren't right. The controversy was invented by the accuser, looking for a payday.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 12:50 PM
Nov 2012

He recanted.

This isn't funny. It is a tragedy.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
18. No - you are wrong. There is a second accuser.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:16 PM
Nov 2012

Making a similar accusation.

That's what has led to the resignation.

And the first accuser wants to reverse the settlement and pursue his case.

Seems like the accused is trying to buy people off to prevent the truth from coming out.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
20. They need to pursue charges then. Step up and step out.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:38 PM
Nov 2012

I believe in innocence until proven guilty.

Do you have a link WRT this additional material?

MADem

(135,425 posts)
71. We'll have to see how this shakes out.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:38 PM
Nov 2012

I'm betting none of these charges would have been were it not for that documentary.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
72. Indeed
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:39 PM
Nov 2012

I really enjoyed that documentary and have been an admirer of Mr. Clash for some time. I hope that he did not do the things he is accused of. If he didn't, I hope he is able to clear his name. If he did, I hope he faces the consequences.

WeekendWarrior

(1,437 posts)
40. Or maybe, just maybe
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 03:18 PM
Nov 2012

he's innocent and doesn't want it to drag out in court. Celebrities get sued all the time and settle just to avoid the publicity and everything else. There are people who make CAREERS out of suing celebrities.

If they have evidence against him, fine. But why do we always assume that the accused is guilty?

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
60. Fair enough
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 05:47 PM
Nov 2012

I do think it is worth noting though that he has publicly stated that he had a sexual relationship with this person when the person was only 18 (and the accused was in his 50s). This is, of course, not a crime but it's not like he denies knowing or having a relationship with the person in question, just the age at which it began (This is in regard to the first accuser).

I do agree with you, however, that the fact that civil lawsuits rather than criminal charges are being pursued exclusively at this point is somewhat questionable.

WeekendWarrior

(1,437 posts)
89. He was in his forties, but
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 11:29 AM
Nov 2012

his willingness to admit that they had a relationship at all makes me believe that Clash may be telling the truth.

And as disgusting as some of us may find the age disparity to be, there are many men in their forties who would happily sleep with an attractive eighteen year old and many women as well.

If they are past the age of consent, they're past it and the accusation against Clash should not be colored by the fact that he had a relationship with a consenting adult—if this is what truly happened.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
92. Sorry - that's what I meant
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:47 PM
Nov 2012

Forties, thank you for the correction.

I do agree that he may be telling the truth, but I also don't like the idea of attacking the accusers. It is quite possible that the first accuser was pressured into changing his story - he certainly has indicated as much.

I agree that, of course, there are many men in their forties who would happily sleep with an attractive eighteen year old. I daresay there are also many men in their forties who would happily sleep with an attractive sixteen year old if they thought they could get away with it. I know that the former is legal and the latter is (generally speaking) not, but I think that the two desires are certainly similar in many respects.

I also agree that if he has done nothing illegal and had a relationship with an eighteen year old then he should of course have his name cleared. If either of these young men is lying then they should face consequences for doing so. I am just saying that I would be more inclined to believe that the allegations were false and simply attempts at a money grab if the accused did not actually have a sexual relationship with this person when the accuser was eighteen.

I hope that eventually the truth does come out and that justice is served. On that, I am sure we can agree.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
38. Catholic priests generally molest prepubescent children, not sexually active teens who seek out
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 03:07 PM
Nov 2012

companionship on gay sex phone chat lines.

Clash didn't meet this young man at the county fair, he met him on a "Must be 18" phone sex line (why do people go on those things? To get help with their homework?) --and we don't know if he was of age, or not--those facts seem to be in considerable dispute.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
75. No, that is not accurate--between eleven and fourteen years old, on average.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:55 PM
Nov 2012
http://www.bishop-accountability.org/reports/2004_02_27_JohnJay_revised/4_3_incident3.pdf

Table 4.3.2 represents the age of the alleged victim at the time of the alleged event. If the event
continued for multiple years, this table represents the age at which the abuse allegedly began.
Each alleged victim is only represented once. Therefore, this table does not represent the
duration of abuse or the ages of the alleged victims throughout the time they were abused. For
instance, if a child was sexually abused from the age of three to nine, he or she is represented in
this table at age three.
The majority of victims are males between the ages of 11-17, and just over half (50.7%) of all
individuals who made allegations of abuse were between the ages of 11-14. The average age
of all alleged victims is 12.6. This number has increased over time, however. In the 1950s, the
average age was 11.5; in the 1960s it was 12; in the 1970s it was 12.87; in the 1980s it was 13.2;
and by the 1990s it was 13.87


pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
58. No halfway intelligent person would expect that everyone on an over 18 line
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 05:38 PM
Nov 2012

is actually over 18.

When he met the boy in person it was up to him to check his age. It's always the responsibility of the adult, not the child.

Check out the statutory rape laws in your state. They apply the same, whether the underage person is a girl or a boy.

(By the way, I haven't seen anything in these articles that say the chat lines were for over 18's. I'll have to take your word on that.)

MADem

(135,425 posts)
76. I'm going on what I see on the television commercials.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:57 PM
Nov 2012

Which say "must be eighteen."

Also, I invite your attention to the statistics re: priest abuse found at the link in post 75. Most children were between 11 and 14 who were molested by priests and the average age was 12.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
80. The average age during the decade when this even supposedly occurred, according to the table,
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:30 AM
Nov 2012

was almost 14.

Although I don't know if "average" is meant here as "mean" or "median."

But are you telling me in your opinion it's okay at age 16 but not at age 14?

You don't think statutory rape laws should apply if he did have sex with the boy at age 16?

MADem

(135,425 posts)
83. I am not saying that anything is "OK" though you seem eager--nay, ANXIOUS--to put those kinds of
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:46 AM
Nov 2012

words in my mouth. It's a pretty shitty thing you're trying to do here, too, with your accusatory tone. I must say I don't care for it much.

If you'll look at the link I provided, the average age, according to the report, was 12. I mentioned that solely because YOU were the one who tried to suggest the age was higher.

I can wait for justice. I just can't understand why you want to fry this guy ahead of a judge and jury. What's your motivation? What did this guy ever do to you?

What if he is innocent, and is the victim of a shakedown? What if he was your brother, your cousin, your uncle, your child? Would you be so eager to convict the guy when the evidence isn't even in?

Patience is a virtue. Try it sometime.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
86. Where have I said anything that indicates I think there is evidence he is guilty?
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 01:42 AM
Nov 2012

The average age of boys molested by priests has been rising over the decades. By the 1990's it had risen to almost 14, as you state in your OP.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
90. You have done nothing but make insinuations in our conversation, here.
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 11:50 AM
Nov 2012

I must say, it makes for an unproductive exchange of ideas. You have an attitude about the guy (he should "check IDs" for example--really? Like anyone does that; no one on an "over 18" line is actually over 18? Again--really? Who knew? And all of this conversation about priests--last I checked, Elmo's handler wasn't one of those, so why even drag them into the conversation, in an effort to "associate" him with them?) before he's even been before a judge.

If he's guilty, we'll know soon enough. If he's not guilty, there's no where he'll be able to go to get his reputation back.

The guy suing him for five million has some rather unorthodox photos that have surfaced online at Gothamist. I'll wait for the judge/jury.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
46. I don't think the Vatican has a history of consistently protecting puppeteers...
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 04:39 PM
Nov 2012

"If Clash were a Catholic priest, would you be saying the same thing..."

I don't think the Vatican has a history of consistently protecting puppeteers...

 

AngryAmish

(25,704 posts)
7. Or letting a rapist go free because they are famous
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 12:58 PM
Nov 2012

It seems this Clash person is a chickenhawk.

But this is the DU way. Remember the outpouring of support for another famous rapist, Roman Polanski?

BTW, why do you think Clash is a good person? Because you saw that documentary?

Javaman

(62,530 posts)
12. Um what? The guy who accused Clash retracted his statement.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:09 PM
Nov 2012

and your very odd point is?

on edit: no, I never saw the Doc.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
21. Don't you have to state that you are eighteen to go on those chat lines?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:43 PM
Nov 2012

That's what my television says--"must be eighteen to call" when you see all these sexy young things lounging around in their underwear "just waiting to talk to you."

I think a halfway decent lawyer could defend the guy. Time will tell, though. There's just not enough info to know if this is a shakedown or a problem.

 

AngryAmish

(25,704 posts)
26. I was under the impression that it was one of those party-line thingys
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:56 PM
Nov 2012

And what does it matter? Statutory rape is a strict liability offense. Saying he looked over 15 is not a defense.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
34. Yes--those telephone line things. "Must be 18" is what my TV tells me.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:51 PM
Nov 2012

Are you in the habit of carding everyone you've ever had a relationship--casual or otherwise-- with?

If you meet someone in a bar, don't you assume they are over 21?

There is a defense there, particularly if there was an active intent to deceive.

Rob Lowe didn't go to jail for his misconduct with an underaged girl, one of a pair he met in a bar, and he assumed they were older than they were. And there was a video tape of that encounter!

The lawyers will have to take it on--I don't think the gavel should come down with a guilty verdict just yet, though.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
68. In a bar you know someone (the bartender) has checked the ID's of drinkers.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 08:01 PM
Nov 2012

There is no one to check ID's on a phone chat line.

Statutory rape is still against the law, no matter what happened with Rob Lowe. But he did have the excuse that the girl must have shown an ID in order to be served alcohol. No one has to present ID to go on a telephone chat line.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
70. Are those chat lines free, or do they cost x cents a minute?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:33 PM
Nov 2012

Surely there needs to be a credit card or a charge to a phone bill, or something--and the pressing of a number or some other verification process for the agency hosting to get paid? These things aren't charities, are they?

Obviously the bartender or bouncer didn't check the IDs of the Lowe 'rompers.' Or he or she didn't do a very good job of it.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
67. Clash isn't accused of raping anyone while on a chat line.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 07:57 PM
Nov 2012

He met the boy in person, and that's when he should have verified his age.

And the ages of any other young men he got involved with.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
73. Again, you meet someone in a bar, do you "card" them later?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:45 PM
Nov 2012

I don't think so. Also, he's not accused of having
"sexual intercourse" with the kid--and this does look like the guy is being shaken down.

Clash did not address the new allegations. He said previously that he had an adult and consensual relationship with the first accuser. The divorced father of a grown daughter, he acknowledged that he is gay.

At a news conference Tuesday, Singleton said he and Clash met on a gay chat line when he was 15, and for a two-week period, they had sexual contact but not intercourse. He said he didn’t know what Clash did for a living until he was 19 and Googled his name.


http://www.washingtonpost.com/entertainment/tv/sesame-workshop-says-elmo-actor-kevin-clash-resigned-calling-sex-allegations-distraction/2012/11/20/47b67eb0-332f-11e2-92f0-496af208bf23_story.html?tid=pm_entertainment_pop

Why would "what he does for a living" matter? Do we sue wealthy puppeteers, but not, say, janitors or garbagemen?

Time will tell.
 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
25. I am not one of Polanski's apologists
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:56 PM
Nov 2012

I believe he should go to jail. But then, he plead guilty, then ran from the country. I would hardly call the ranting of a vocal minority of Polanski apologists an "outpouring"

Mr. Clash has been ACCUSED of a crime, but his accuser recanted. Polanski's victim never recanted.

The situation here is different, and until we see actual charges filed and a trial conducted it is unfair to call the man a "chickenhawk".

According to late breaking news accounts, the original accuser has recanted the recantation, and another person has made an allegation. I await the evidence before I will make a final judgement. Accusations of being a child molester are incendiary, and I believe that the burden of proof lies with the accuser, as it does in ALL criminal prosecutions.

 

AngryAmish

(25,704 posts)
27. Clash admits relations with the initial accuser, but that the dude was 18 (or 17) at the time
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:59 PM
Nov 2012

Clash was over 40 I think. By and reasonable standard Clash is a chickenhawk.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
35. I think Donald Trump's habit of trading in his wives for younger models is reprehensible, too.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:56 PM
Nov 2012

I don't know what kind of "hawk" he would be, but it's not illegal.

There's no fool like an old fool. Having a young person on one's arm only makes one look older--but some think they will grow younger by osmosis, or something.

If the kid was "of age," it may be distasteful, but it's not illegal. Also, I don't think, if someone calls a sex chat line, that they are looking for fashion tips or directions to the public library. When you want groceries, you go to the grocery store. When you want clothes, you go to the clothing store...etc., etc., and so forth.

WeekendWarrior

(1,437 posts)
43. What's the heterosexual equivalent of a "chickenhawk?"
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 03:30 PM
Nov 2012

If an older man or woman goes after eighteen year olds of the opposite sex, why don't we have an equally salacious name for them?

Last I heard, Harrison Ford married a woman who is twenty-two years younger than him. What word do we have for that?

 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
65. Horndog.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 06:20 PM
Nov 2012


You make a valid point. I think people's comfort level with the hetero side increases once the female passes 20. Ages with "teen" in them invoke the "ick factor" even when above the age of consent.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
69. If she's 22 years younger she's a mature woman in her 40's.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 08:03 PM
Nov 2012

That's nothing like the disparity between a 16 or 18 year old and a man in his 40's.

WeekendWarrior

(1,437 posts)
88. Did I say it was?
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 11:21 AM
Nov 2012

I simply asked what's the heterosexual equivalent of a chickenhawk?

My comment was about the prejudice against homosexual behavior, as opposed to similar heterosexual behavior.

But, hey, let's talk about Don Johnson and Melanie Griffith. He was in his twenties and she was fourteen when they first got together. What label do we apply to Johnson? Movie star?

And, come to think of it, why isn't he in jail?

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
95. Does "first got together" mean having sex?
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 11:00 AM
Nov 2012

Wikipedia says they began dating when she was 14. It doesn't say they began having sex then. But he wouldn't have gone to jail anyway if Griffith's parents didn't report him.

 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
64. There are two definitions of chickenhawk
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 06:18 PM
Nov 2012

Which was news to me. The first is as you describe, but the other refers to men who have sex with underage boys, and this usage dates to the 60s-70s, my era of cultural education.

I accept that you are using the first definition and that it is accurate in that context and stand corrected.

WeekendWarrior

(1,437 posts)
41. I'm not a Polanski apologist, either, but
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 03:26 PM
Nov 2012

He WENT to jail. He did the time he was sentenced to do.

It long ago came out that Polanski was the victim of a vainglorious judge who went back on his ruling and decided to make an example of Polanski -- a decision that was frowned upon by the assistant district attorney, who felt the judge was overstepping his bounds and has said as much.

I get so tired of hearing that Polanski needs to do his sentence. He DID it. He simply ran AFTER HE WAS RELEASED FROM JAIL, when he heard that the judge had changed his mind and was planning to sentence him to life.

I abhor the crime, but I also value the criminal justice system, which has enough problems without a judge abusing it.

 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
63. He spent time
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 06:13 PM
Nov 2012

in a psych unit in Chino (42 days) being evaluated before final sentencing. His evaluation was part of what would be considered in his final sentence.

Now, he plea bargained, but all such deals are conditional on certain things, and judges are not bound by them unless adhered to the letter. The RIGHT thing to do was stay and appeal his sentence if the judge acted in bad faith, instead he ran and made himself a fugitive.

I am NOT a believer in plea bargains. I think that people should be charged with a crime and then the jury should decide. Anything else is a perversion of justice.

In any event, 42 days in a psych facility is hardly adequate punishment for the rape of a 13 year old child.

Was the judge a dick? Probably. Even the victim thinks so. But one thing is VERY clear, any person lacking Polanski fame and wealth would never have gotten the plea deal Polanski got, nor would he have been able to evade the police as long as he did..

WeekendWarrior

(1,437 posts)
87. The psych facility
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 11:11 AM
Nov 2012

was in A PRISON, and if you've ever been to Chino, you know it wasn't a picnic. Also, the psychiatrists cleared him and said it was very UNlikely that he would be a repeat offender. That eval was supposed to be his entire sentence, if he cleared.

The guy did his time.

EDIT: By the way, currently, statutory rape in California can be charged as either a misdemeanor or felony, based on the prosecutors discretion and is punishable by up to a year in jail. Back in the seventies, when Polanski plead guilty, it was based on a plea deal for considerably less time, and the average sentence for such a crime was far less than a year.

Polanski DID his time and was victim to a judge who honored his own ego over the law.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
31. But when the accused is a priest here, people are all over it.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:47 PM
Nov 2012

Why do we assume this guy is a "good person"?

He has a second accuser now, by the way.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
36. The priests that invite ire are the ones that are molesting CHILDREN.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:58 PM
Nov 2012

Not sexually active young adults who call sex chat lines.

If this guy is accused of interfering with an eight year old, that's a different story. I haven't seen any accusation of that nature.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
50. Statistically, the large majority of priests accused of abuse abused underage teens,
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 04:59 PM
Nov 2012

not prepubescents.

They're in the same situation as Clash.

graegoyle

(532 posts)
54. Were they calling phone chat hotlines?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 05:11 PM
Nov 2012

I'm not saying Clash is innocent. Nor am I saying he is guilty. We do not have all the facts.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
55. Maybe some of them were. But what's the point? Clash's accusers
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 05:31 PM
Nov 2012

are accusing him of more than talking on a chat line.

You're right -- we have virtually no facts.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
78. Average age is 12. That's not the same situation at all.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 11:01 PM
Nov 2012

And these priests didn't meet their victims on a phone sex chat line, either. They met them at church.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
4. I agree that this sucks, too. Did he jump or was he pushed?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 12:49 PM
Nov 2012

I wonder if Children's Television Workshop didn't give him a shove with a platinum parachute, or something.

I don't like that this happened. I get the sense that the cretins that Bush put in during his reign of terror had input into this outcome.

I hope he does something BIG in his post-Elmo career. He's way too talented to just go gently into obscurity.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
19. Are you serious?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:17 PM
Nov 2012

Have you been following what's going on? There are now multiple accusations of similar conduct.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
22. As I said upthread, don't you have to be eighteen to go on a chat line?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:44 PM
Nov 2012

Or, at least, REPRESENT yourself as being eighteen?

MADem

(135,425 posts)
37. Like Rob Lowe knew?
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 03:01 PM
Nov 2012

Not all teen agers look like teen agers. Ones that one meets in bars...or on "must be 18" sex chat lines are usually considered to be "of age."

How much due diligence is required?

It's the rare person who has never--for whatever reason--lied about their age.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
48. I don't know anything about that situation. But I've told my own sons that at the very least
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 04:53 PM
Nov 2012

there should be a driver's license with an over 18 birthday on it.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
84. Don't let your sons go to New York.
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:50 AM
Nov 2012

Plenty of people don't have driver's licenses.

Don't be surprised, either, if your sons don't take your advice while they're in the throes of enthusiastic passion.

I'm no expert on today's "hook up" or whatever they call it scene, but I don't think 'carding before sex' is the norm amongst most "actively dating" people these days.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
85. Doesn't matter. It's up to the adult to make sure that his or her prospective partner is of age.
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 01:18 AM
Nov 2012

Statutory rape laws don't allow an "I didn't know" defense

Very few 16 year old boys look like adult men. Just looking at Cecil's photo now, it's hard to imagine that he looked like an adult at 15. Clash should have been very suspicious on the basis of appearance alone.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
91. That's absurd--when an "adult" assumes he or she is dealing with another "adult," there isn't
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 11:53 AM
Nov 2012

an exchange of IDs happening.

Ask Rob Lowe.

You might want to google the two fellows accusing Mister Clash. Both look MUCH older than their stated ages, and they are, as they say "of a type."

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
94. If Clash, like Lowe, was deceived by minors carrying fake ID's, that should let him off the hook.
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 10:57 AM
Nov 2012

But his lawyers haven't made that claim.

I saw the pictures of the accusers and disagree that they look older than their ages. And they would have looked even younger as teens. Any adult who wants to have sex with someone should know the person well enough to know that he's also a consenting adult -- even if that means asking for an ID.

You don't like that, but that's the law.


BuelahWitch

(9,083 posts)
100. There are always fake IDs
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 02:12 PM
Nov 2012

Several of my friends had them back in the day when we were too young to go to the bar. I would imagine they are lots easier to get now, or to have one made.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
103. Of course. But then the burden of proof is off the adult
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 09:47 PM
Nov 2012

and onto the minor who produced the fake ID.

If the adult doesn't even try to make sure he's dealing with a minor, then he's leaving himself wide open to charges of statutory rape.

Laurian

(2,593 posts)
6. Unfortunately, according to TMZ a second accuser has come
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 12:53 PM
Nov 2012

forward saying he also had a sexual relationship with Clash that began when he was underage. Who knows, these people could just be seeking money or revenge. I think the situation just reached critical mass and his association with Sesame Street became too difficult to maintain.

Laurian

(2,593 posts)
13. I said it "could" be money or revenge. It could also be that the accusations
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 01:11 PM
Nov 2012

are true. How would anyone other than those involved know at this point. The first accuser received a monetary settlement from Clash. Might that have motivated the second accuser? Even if money was the motivation, it does not necessarily mean the accusations are false.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
47. People said the same thing about the Penn State coach -- at first. The only thing
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 04:52 PM
Nov 2012

we know about Clash right now is that we don't know.

MADem

(135,425 posts)
74. Not many people. The Penn State coach was molesting little children.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 10:48 PM
Nov 2012

This guy had contact with people who called in looking for partners on a gay sex chat line. They weren't on that telephone looking for a recipe for pumpkin pie.

Those little kids weren't actively seeking sex on the telephone. They were attacked by a coach in the shower or in their beds with no where to run.

We don't know the details, but on the very surface these two circumstances are not at all the same.

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
81. So you think victims of statutory rape are basically asking for it?
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:32 AM
Nov 2012

That statutory rape of a minor isn't real rape?

Did it occur to you that maybe a teen might be trying to find other gay teens to talk to, not an older man to groom him?

MADem

(135,425 posts)
82. Let's wait, why don't we, to determine two things.
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:40 AM
Nov 2012

First, are these people victims?

Second, was there any rape, statutory, or otherwise?

I don't know anything more about the "quality" or "character" of this "sex chat line" than you do--but I don't think he was looking for teen advice on a line of that nature. You're saying you do? Do "teen sex chat lines" even exist?

As I said, if you want groceries, you go to a grocery store.

You seem eager to convict this guy on the word of two people, at least one of whom came forward after he "googled" the guy and figured out he was that big famous puppeteer, the one in the documentary.

I can wait for the facts to sort themselves out without demanding the guy's head on a plate. If he's guilty of anything, we'll know soon enough without convicting him here on DU, before the gavel comes down.

struggle4progress

(118,282 posts)
28. 'Elmo' puppeteer Kevin Clash resigns as second man files lawsuit over new underage sex allegations
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:24 PM
Nov 2012
Kevin Clash resigned on Tuesday after a second man came forward to say he had sex with the 'Sesame Street' voice actor and puppeteer when he was a teen.
By Robert Gearty , Barbara Ross , Philip Caulfield AND Larry Mcshane / NEW YORK DAILY NEWS
Tuesday, November 20, 2012, 11:39 AM
... According to the suit, Clash met a then 15-year-old Cecil Singleton on a gay chat line in 2003 and soon began wooing the youngster — taking him to dinner and giving the youth money.

“As a 15-year-old child, Cecil Singleton was not emotionally or psychologically prepared for a sexual relationship with a grown man in his 40s,” the suit said ...

Singleton, now 34, suffered “psychological and emotional effects” from the relationship, the lawsuit charged ...
http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/elmo-resigns-new-accusations-article-1.1205034



Voice of Elmo NEW LAWSUIT: Allegations of Sex with SECOND Underage Boy
UPDATE ... 8:40 AM PT -- The accuser's lawyer has filed new court docs, in which the date of the alleged abuse has been changed from 1993 to 2003. The accuser also says he is currently 24-years-old ... and chalks up the mistake to a typo ...
... The accuser -- who is now in his 30s -- has filed a lawsuit against Clash ... claiming the two met on a gay phone chat line back in 1993 ... when the accuser was 15 years old and Clash was 32 ... In the suit, Singleton claims ... although the sex occurred nearly 20 years ago, he didn't take action until now because ... he "did not become aware that he had suffered adverse psychological and emotional effects from Kevin Clash's sexual acts and conduct until 2012" ...

http://www.tmz.com/2012/11/20/voice-of-elmo-kevin-clash-sued-allegations-sex-underage-boy-sesame-street/




sweetloukillbot

(11,023 posts)
44. Those dates don't add up...
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 03:44 PM
Nov 2012

Says he had a relationship 19 years ago w/ Clash who was in his 40s at the time?

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
49. According to one of those articles, the first accuser wants to give the settlement money back now
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 04:56 PM
Nov 2012

and he's recanting the recanting.

He thought he was the only one.

 

AlbertCat

(17,505 posts)
29. I met him when I worked on the 1st Ninja Turtle movie.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:45 PM
Nov 2012

He was a very sweet man.... nice, polite, calm.... I liked him.

alp227

(32,024 posts)
33. As someone who watched sesame during the clash era
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 02:48 PM
Nov 2012

94? to 97, this is some sad news right here. I'll see what the criminal justice system gets out of the accusations before passing judgment. I don't want Clash to be the American Jimmy Savile (JS was a star of a British family show/other prominent media of the 20th century who died in 2011, then this year people came forward claiming Savile molested them as kids).

eppur_se_muova

(36,262 posts)
45. He had to resign. He clearly violated the Uniform Code of Muppet Justice. nt
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 04:32 PM
Nov 2012

(Yeah, I know, inappropriate. But it wanted out.)

 

lalalu

(1,663 posts)
51. I don't care who he is if he was
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 05:05 PM
Nov 2012

molesting minors he should resign and be in jail.


However, I still think names and photos should not be released unless actual criminal charges are filed. Innuendos and lawsuits are not enough because anyone can file a lawsuit for anything. In the meantime the person can be court ordered to stay away from kids while there is an investigation

pnwmom

(108,978 posts)
56. Either we're serious about statutory rape laws or we're not.
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 05:35 PM
Nov 2012

Are some of the comments here the progressive version of "real rape" vs. less real rape?

IF he had sex with underage teens, that's a serious charge, no matter how much we like Elmo.

But we have NO facts here. No evidence that he is an abuser OR that his accusers are lying and out for money.

Blasphemer

(3,261 posts)
66. I agree
Tue Nov 20, 2012, 06:25 PM
Nov 2012

The problem with out of court settlements is that the evidence is never aired in court of law (whether criminal or civil). Of course, I totally understand why a victim would take a settlement rather than have to go to court and I don't think that taking a financial settlement necessarily means that a person is lying. I don't know how reliable TMZ's sources are in this case but supposedly the accuser who recanted his allegation was in tears during the settlement meetings. This is a very disturbing case but some of the reactions are equally disturbing as well.

 

oberliner

(58,724 posts)
79. Kevin Clash Accuser Insists He Didn't Lie and Wants Out of Settlement
Wed Nov 21, 2012, 12:02 AM
Nov 2012

The voice of "Sesame Street" famous character Elmo, Kevin Clash, has a new problem on his hands. Just when he thought that he could quietly resume his life once again and go back to work, a new twist happens in his case.

According to a report from TMZ, Sheldon Stephens, the struggling actor/model who accused the 52-year-old puppeteer of having sex with him while he was underage, insists that he did not lie about his story. He now also wants to undo the settlement deal he signed just a few days ago.

The 23-year-old Stephens also claims that he did not want to sign the agreement in the first place, but was pressured to do so at that moment. He regrets signing the deal and is now talking to lawyers in Los Angeles who could help him undo his actions.

http://www.aceshowbiz.com/news/view/00055644.html#ixzz2CpIm81lb

BuelahWitch

(9,083 posts)
101. "...the struggling actor model..."
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 02:17 PM
Nov 2012

This and the fact that he didn't know who Clash was until he Googled him makes me go, "Hmmm."

LiberalAndProud

(12,799 posts)
96. I wonder if Genia agrees that he never lived in the closet.
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 11:06 AM
Nov 2012

Hiding means different things to different people, I guess.

 

hexola

(4,835 posts)
99. Here's the thing...ELMO SUCKED!
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 12:20 PM
Nov 2012

Sorry...but GROVER RULES!

Elmo represented the commercialized version of Sesame Street...good riddance!

 

graham4anything

(11,464 posts)
102. Does anyone find the timing after Bird Bird was so prominent in the election suspicious?
Thu Nov 22, 2012, 02:50 PM
Nov 2012

and please no "tickle me elmo" jokes

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