Mad And Need To Vent - This is Part of the Reason Women Don't Come Forward

[usedtobedemgurl]

A while ago I outed a predator on social media. When I did, a bunch (maybe forty or more) came forward to say he did the same thing to them that he did to my friend. A pattern emerged that he had been doing this for decades. I told people to see who his friends were and if they were female to please warn them. He dumped every friend he had after I posted that. He has been adding friends back in and every female he adds I send them a message linking to my writing as well as the testimonials of women he has assaulted. There have been some words of thanks and some people unfriended him. Today someone wrote to me saying everything was false, I should be sued and she would gladly fund the guy to sue me for defaming him!

This is a guy, who I have on hard copy, admitting he assaulted a woman. There were tons of females that came forward echoing he had not respected them. One place he used to vacation banned him because of complaints of him assaulting women.

What does it take for some people? If this woman had met me I would have gladly shown her all the evidence of him admitting what he did and saying it was not so bad and he was just having fun.

This is why women do not come forward. They are not believed. They are put on trial. They are threatened. Their past is taken apart and they are left victimized a second time. Some do not want any part of that and this is why I never went to the police about my rape.

We can never move forward as a society if we do not address this and somehow change it. We have to stand up and say this is not good enough.

[SunSeeker]

1. K & R

[BlueCaliDem]

2. K&R. This is shameful. But look at how many women support Trump despite him being a sexual predator

and his past of sexually assaulting women.

Being a woman myself, I have to say, women are harsher on other women than men are. It's a sad, sad state of mentality. And it's shameful.

[librechik]

3. I saw on TV the other day that it will take 200 years for women's wage equality

to be achieved socially.

I'll wager it will take longer than that to make the changes we need that you suggest.

[demgurl]

9. I know but we have to start somewhere....

and sometime.

[awoke_in_2003]

11. With the younger generation

maybe not. Look how quickly, once we started discussing it, that marriage equality became law. I am a 48 year old white male, but that gives me hope. I am a huge cynic, but that keeps me going. K&R

[dofus]

4. A place where he used to vacation banned him.

Wow. That says a lot.

[LittleGirl]

5. And we can't prove it. eom

[usedtobedemgurl]

7. In this case I actually can prove it.

I have texts where he admits what he did and even saying it was not sexual assault but, instead, fun.

[smirkymonkey]

6. Thank you for speaking out.

And I am sorry for what you are going through!

[usedtobedemgurl]

8. Thank you.

Some people are scum. There is no other way to describe them.

[Warpy]

10. First, you can't save everybody. Some just don't want to be saved

and will have to learn the hard way.

Second, get your ducks in a row with material backing up your assertions against the predator because yes, he can sue you at some point. Defamation is a thing and you will need to prove you were telling the simple truth.