Are you able to disagree with someone without hating him/her?

[WillowTree]

If you agree with people about most things, but disagree with them about some things, is that still hating them?

The hate meme gets thrown around so prolifically around here, it makes me wonder sometimes.

[Erich Bloodaxe BSN]

1. Text communication strips out a lot of the visual and auditory cues we use to actually

understand how people feel about an issue. As a result, people tend to simply make guesses about the mental and emotional states of people with whom they are arguing, and to overemphasize their projected emotions.

I've been accused of being frothing or vitriolic in comments that I wrote while simply being sarcastic or even amused.

So accusations of 'hate' are probably more often a reflection on the mental and emotional states of the person making such an accusation than they are of the people at whom they are tossed.

[Lex]

2. Is treating people with respect the same as agreeing with them?

[WillowTree]

15. It is entirely possible that I might do something.......

.......or hold a belief or opinion that the other person might percieve as disrespect when I do, in fact, respect them and do not, to any degree whatsoever, hate them.

[Lex]

16. For instance, providing people goods and services is respectful

but it doesn't mean you "agree with" many things about them.
However, refusing to do something as basic as that seems spiteful and hateful to me.

[Bluzmann57]

3. Yes

I disagree with certain people about certain things and yet we still like each other.
I suppose it matters what the issue is. For instance, a former friend spouted off about Asian people, calling them, well I won't repeat it here but the key word starts with a G. I am married to an Asian woman so I told him off and have never had contact with him since then. But I have friends with whom I disagree on economic issues and maybe a social issue or two and we are still friends.

[Daemonaquila]

4. I don't think virtually anyone can give a blanket answer to that.

For example, I have a lot of friends I disagree with on certain important issues. Hate? Absolutely not. However, there are some people, let's say Dick Cheney or Pat Robertson, who I disagree with on so many issues, and their general outlook on pretty much anything important is so vile, that yes, I can say I hate them.

[RedCappedBandit]

5. Frankly it depends on what we're disagreeing about.

Hate might be a strong word, but certain disagreements definitely indicate what type of person you're dealing with.

[Brickbat]

6. Sure. I contain multitudes.

[Marr]

7. Most things, sure. But I can't just 'disagree' with Objectivists, for instance.

I think their beliefs make them heartless pricks/utter morons, by definition.

[Orrex]

8. I disagree, and I hate you for asking that.

Well, probably not. BUT CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED!!!!!!1!!

[Coventina]

9. Sure, one of my oldest and dearest friends thinks he's a libertarian.

I say "thinks he is" because he's on SSDI and Medicaid.

[el_bryanto]

10. I think hatred and disdain comes very natural to us as a species

I also think that feeling morally superior to someone else feels great. When you can combine the two - the pleasure we seem to take out of hatred, with the warm assurance that we are morally right - well that's a nice feeling.

And of course, online there's much less consequences for opening your mouth and being mean or hurtful.

Bryant

[closeupready]

11. I don't let myself fall into hating; I just put them on ignore if they are unreasonable or

here on DU just to be malicious and trollish.

That said, I think I disagree with everyone on this board about something or other. That's democracy.

[Cleita]

12. I have a friend whose a tea leaf short of being a Tea Party conservative,

yet we are friends to the point that we look out after each other's interests and properties like BFEEs would. We can't talk about anything political though because we are at polar opposites in beliefs and opinions.

[onecaliberal]

13. Hate is voting to starve children, take healthcare away from people.

Send poor folks to fight your endless wars and then refuse to care for them when they return. Endlessly seek to cut food stamps, social security, Medicaid and Medicare. Force the poor to pay for large corporations to escape any taxation. Discriminate on people because their skin color is not the same as yours. Militarize the police, so they can quell the uprising when it happens.

[LeftinOH]

14. Depends on what we're disagreeing about...

If it's whether or not the toilet paper roll should trail from the top or bottom of the roll, then I can deal someone being wrong (like when it's pulled from the bottom).

If it's whether or not, say, "open carry" gun exhibitionists are demonstrating their freedom ..or simply being monstrous creeps, then I'm probably going to hate on them a bit.

[Populist_Prole]

17. It depends on what's at stake

Obviously, disagreements on matters of personal tastes or likes/dislikes don't matter.

Speaking metaphysically, or even politically, there can be a lot at stake.

For example;

Person A strongly advocates a policy that would, if enacted, destroy person B's livelihood, but merely solidify person A's gains.

Even if person A in themselves can't make said policy happen, I could well understand person B's being angered by person A's indifference; and so I could understand feelings of malice on person B's part.

[Orsino]

18. With someone who advocates for hurting others? Maybe not.

I hope I can still recognize the merely uninformed who don't realize the misery they are helping to perpetuate, and save the actual hatred for those who profit from it.

[Zorra]

19. What specific instances are you referring to? nt

[fadedrose]

20. More pity than hate

if I got my facts straight . . .

[Tierra_y_Libertad]

21. The opposite of both love and hate is indifference.

When it comes to politicians, I'm indifferent. Which is why I vote policies and principles rather than party or politician.

[qwlauren35]

22. Interesting Question

I recently found out that a woman I knew thought that Trayvon Martin was racist because he called Zimmerman "a cracker who's following me" and that Zimmerman had cause to be armed and patrolling the neighborhood due to recent robberies and he was within his rights to shoot and kill Martin. Obviously, the court and jury agreed.

Made me sick inside. But I couldn't bring myself to hate her.

[Chan790]

23. Contextually...sure.

I disagree with my best friend on whether his wife is attractive...she's not. I don't hate him.

On more important issues like who should be the 2016 Democratic presidential nominee...it's too important to not hate partisan supporters of evil candidates.

[Zorra]

24. Hatred for LGBT is the reason that RW self-identified christians pass laws that they can use to

discriminate against LGBT.

[Nuclear Unicorn]

25. It appears to be a situational "morality"

One's own mob is larger/more vocal than the other mob. Those who are on the out-side tend to be more civil and conciliatory. Those are the more numerous/louder side seem to feel they are at liberty to give way to the frenzy.

[Binkie The Clown]

26. Speaking as someone who is always right...

I just feel sorry for people who don't see things as clearly as I do.

[libdem4life]

27. Being both a Buddhist and a Christian, hatred always hurts the hatee most.

One minister (also speaking of revenge) said that it's like taking poison and hoping the other person dies. I see no reason, ever, to pollute myself by stooping to another's level. There is always a high road, should one choose to reach for it.

[CloneClinton]

28. Nope

Every time I disagree with something on this site I get called a troll even though I've been here a long time...