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elehhhhna

(32,076 posts)
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 01:09 PM Apr 2012

The best puppers in Texas is dying.

Budward, our blacklab, is ten. He's got melanoma on his gums. If the antibiotics & steroids work he'll have a month or so. If not, we'll let him go soon.

He's the happiest, sweetest, luckiest dog. So much positive energy! He's been a rock for our family. He loves us unconditionally, as we do him. He's NEVER had a "bad day"... and we'll make sure he never does.

He's a 60 pound lapdog. His freakily soft, glossy fur has caught many, many tears over these years. He's heard (and caused) much laughter in this house. He's broken up arguements. He's sometimes been the wisest presence in the family. He's certainly the most christian of us all - and it's effortless for him. He's amazing.

Please send vibes and prayers for Bud, and my daughters, and that my husband and I handle this wisely and lovingly. And let us accept that grief is a deep expression of love, and help us embrace it - let it flow through us - as it comes.

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The best puppers in Texas is dying. (Original Post) elehhhhna Apr 2012 OP
I'm so sorry and will send you peaceful thoughts. a la izquierda Apr 2012 #1
That's a tough one...may he go peacefully knowing you love him.. rfranklin Apr 2012 #2
I am so sorry. dballance Apr 2012 #3
Soothing vibes coming... LASlibinSC Apr 2012 #4
what a good boy renate Apr 2012 #5
I'm so very sorry for you and Budward. I know how hard it is but Auntie Bush Apr 2012 #6
It's a HUGE exercise in benevolence vs. selfishness, ya know? elehhhhna Apr 2012 #7
I'm sorry about Bud ProfessionalLeftist Apr 2012 #8
I will definitely send prayers BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2012 #9
Peaceful journey, sweet Bud. GentryDixon Apr 2012 #10
Here is my helpful vibe for you and your family Drew Richards Apr 2012 #11
You got it! tooeyeten Apr 2012 #12
. Liberal_in_LA Apr 2012 #13
I am so sorry for you and your family MountainLaurel Apr 2012 #14
I'm so sorry, elehhhna magical thyme Apr 2012 #15
He'll have friends waiting Worried senior Apr 2012 #16
Very sorry to hear this. greytdemocrat Apr 2012 #17
Good vibe to your sweet doggie. RebelOne Apr 2012 #18
... Mnemosyne Apr 2012 #19
So sorry.....this is so sad.... glinda Apr 2012 #20
I'm so sorry!... one_voice Apr 2012 #21
Vibes and prayers for Budward and for the entire family. Chorophyll Apr 2012 #22
Prayers for Bud and your family me b zola Apr 2012 #23
oh honey -- elehhhhna Apr 2012 #31
It is so hard when K-9 family members get older Omaha Steve Apr 2012 #24
Bud is worthy of your tears. Let them flow as long as you need to. classof56 Apr 2012 #25
I know your feeling, I have been there JayhawkSD Apr 2012 #47
JayhawkSD, I thank you for your thoughtful response, understanding and encouraging words. classof56 Apr 2012 #59
I am so sorry! Rex Apr 2012 #26
Hugs, prayers and all manner of good vibes going out to the amazing Bud and his loving family. WillowTree Apr 2012 #27
My heart goes out to you as you face the sadness of Budward's leaving. n/t Fla Dem Apr 2012 #28
It's never easy. Mz Pip Apr 2012 #29
Peace, love and blessings Smilo Apr 2012 #30
I'm so, so sorry elehhhhna. cali Apr 2012 #32
So sorry to hear guitar man Apr 2012 #33
I am so very sorry. I have had to let go of three dogs in four years. roguevalley Apr 2012 #34
I am so sorry sounds like a wonderful dog. demgrrrll Apr 2012 #35
To all of your family, but mostly to Budward . . . . Stinky The Clown Apr 2012 #36
The big reward is coming, Budward! thevoiceofreason Apr 2012 #37
I'm so sorry KT2000 Apr 2012 #38
Good vibes and prayers to Budward and your family benld74 Apr 2012 #39
I'm sending the gentlest of vibes lunatica Apr 2012 #40
Best to Budward, and to you and your family on your coming loss n/t Bossy Monkey Apr 2012 #41
Labradogs are the best! Positive thoughts for Bud to recover!! Snarkoleptic Apr 2012 #42
I am so sorry to hear about this. derby378 Apr 2012 #43
big hugs for you and your pup AlecBGreen Apr 2012 #44
I understand that Bud is amazing but I think he has some snappyturtle Apr 2012 #45
My heart is with Budward, you and your family myrna minx Apr 2012 #46
I am so sorry... CoffeeCat Apr 2012 #48
Peace, love, and blessings to you all. colorado_ufo Apr 2012 #49
I am sorry cate94 Apr 2012 #50
... SammyWinstonJack Apr 2012 #51
Sending with all my might my most positive vibes Greywing Apr 2012 #52
For Bud - good dog. leveymg Apr 2012 #53
deepest sympathy, kindest thoughts alterfurz Apr 2012 #54
Sorry to hear this. Hope this toon gives you a smile. Swede Apr 2012 #55
wish him the best! Demonaut Apr 2012 #56
Oh no! you have my deepest sympathy. HappyMe Apr 2012 #57
peace elehhhhna. lonestarnot Apr 2012 #58
 

dballance

(5,756 posts)
3. I am so sorry.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 01:33 PM
Apr 2012

My Nikko dog who is a Jack Russell and other stuff mix has been with me for over 15 years. He has also never had a bad day and he too has caught some tears.

It is obviously going to be difficult but if he is suffering it is time to let him go. Just love him as much as you can while he has time left.

I send your family including Bud my best vibes and wishes.

renate

(13,776 posts)
5. what a good boy
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 01:47 PM
Apr 2012

It sounds like he brought immense joy to you and your family. Not a bad way to live his life. And while he knows how much he is loved, he doesn't know what's happening, so he's not grieving... in fact, he'll be helping you with your grief without a clue that it's about him. Kind of a last act of love from him to you... and the last act of love from you to him will be his safe and peaceful passage.

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
6. I'm so very sorry for you and Budward. I know how hard it is but
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 01:48 PM
Apr 2012

Try not to wait too long as I did because I couldn't let him go. Now I can look back and see it would have been kinder to have taken him more quickly. If he has to go and his life isn't worth living...time to let go.
When it was my son's blacklab was time to go. He took him for a nice swim...his favorite...and gave him a whole leg of lamb. He thought he was in heaven......no comment.

I loved the way you describe his relationship with your family...so elegant and loving... I saved it.
I'm sending lots of healing light. Good luck and God bless you all.

 

elehhhhna

(32,076 posts)
7. It's a HUGE exercise in benevolence vs. selfishness, ya know?
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 01:59 PM
Apr 2012

That's why it's an easy call - we love him SOOOOO much, it will be sooner versus later. He won't suffer. It's a privilege to ensure that for him - hell, I hope to receive such mercy myself one day (if it's needed). Our teenaged daughters, however, will take little comfort in this decision.


ProfessionalLeftist

(4,982 posts)
8. I'm sorry about Bud
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:01 PM
Apr 2012

When he goes he'll go deeply loved - and that's the most important thing. Animals teach humans what love really is. There is no greater gift.

BlancheSplanchnik

(20,219 posts)
9. I will definitely send prayers
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:08 PM
Apr 2012

and, what everyone else said.....

no last act of love, though, I don't think......it's an endless cycle....your sweet baby's love will come back to you, and vice versa


Drew Richards

(1,558 posts)
11. Here is my helpful vibe for you and your family
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:19 PM
Apr 2012

In time,

Pain will fade.

But LOVE will remain forever.

I am sorry for your sadness over your child Budward.

Drew.

tooeyeten

(1,074 posts)
12. You got it!
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:33 PM
Apr 2012

Blessings and good thoughts to your family. Something I learned a while back, to know and feel great joy and love, you have to know pain and grief, and even in the knowledge it's still difficult. Nevertheless, Bud sounds like the embodiment of what life is all about-- by the tremendous gifts he has afforded you and your family in feelings and memories. Like you, we too love our dogs.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
15. I'm so sorry, elehhhna
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:38 PM
Apr 2012

I recently lost my beloved 27 year old arab, that I'd rescued 22 years ago and promised a home furever.

The greatest love you can give is to take on their suffering, so they won't have to. Budward is lucky to have such loving people. Love and light to him and his entire family. You and your husband have the strength to do this. It is the hardest thing to do, but never doubt for one moment that it is the right thing for your puppers.

At some level, they do know, and know only gratitude and love. My boy literally stood on his burial site for days waiting while I made his final arrangements. When the excavator and I changed the exact spot, he moved to the new site. He knew, he was letting me know he was ready.

Worried senior

(1,328 posts)
16. He'll have friends waiting
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:50 PM
Apr 2012

at the bridge for him but it is a terrible day when we have to make the decision.

Magical thyme, your story about your horse almost broke my heart.

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
18. Good vibe to your sweet doggie.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 02:53 PM
Apr 2012

It is hard to lose a member of your family. Hopefully, he will make a miraculous recovery.

one_voice

(20,043 posts)
21. I'm so sorry!...
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 03:16 PM
Apr 2012

Vibes and prayers for all of you. I hope your family, that includes Budward are able to find peace.

Chorophyll

(5,179 posts)
22. Vibes and prayers for Budward and for the entire family.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 03:26 PM
Apr 2012

From my family -- and from our black lab mix, Addie.

me b zola

(19,053 posts)
23. Prayers for Bud and your family
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 03:31 PM
Apr 2012

Tears are rolling down my face as I type this. It was a week ago today that I held my cat as they administered the shot that took his suffering away.

Labs are really special. I'm happy that Bud has a wonderful family like yours to reciprocate his love. I wish peace and comfort to you all.

Omaha Steve

(99,632 posts)
24. It is so hard when K-9 family members get older
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 03:35 PM
Apr 2012

Something only cat or dog people understand.

I've never understood the they are just an animal speech.

K&R!

OS

classof56

(5,376 posts)
25. Bud is worthy of your tears. Let them flow as long as you need to.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 03:47 PM
Apr 2012

I lost my World's Best Dog Cammy almost 7 years ago and I still weep when I remember the 13 years she was my friend, companion and source of unconditional love. I've not been able to even think about replacing her. Some would call that selfish and talk to me about doggies that need a good home, but while the ache and emptiness in my heart remain, I just can't get myself to do it. Maybe one day...

To you and your family I send blessings and strength as you say goodbye to Bud. You and he are fortunate indeed to have been in each others' lives.

 

JayhawkSD

(3,163 posts)
47. I know your feeling, I have been there
Sun Apr 29, 2012, 12:47 AM
Apr 2012

But I urge you to go to a shelter a rescue a creature soon. That creature will know what you did for him/her and will pay you back a hunderd fold. That creature will heal you. I know it.

classof56

(5,376 posts)
59. JayhawkSD, I thank you for your thoughtful response, understanding and encouraging words.
Sun Apr 29, 2012, 06:10 PM
Apr 2012

I had not thought of the healing aspect, but I know you are right. Bless you for your words, and by the way--welcome to DU! Glad to have you on board.

 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
26. I am so sorry!
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 03:51 PM
Apr 2012


Budward is in my thoughts.

My first dog was a blacklab named Cher, she saved my life as a child (5) from a rattlesnake.

Mz Pip

(27,445 posts)
29. It's never easy.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 04:03 PM
Apr 2012

The critters bring us so much love and joy and become such wonderful members of our families.

I do believe the saddest thing about being human is that we outlive our pets. My thoughts are with you.

Smilo

(1,944 posts)
30. Peace, love and blessings
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 04:28 PM
Apr 2012

to Budward and all members of his family.

In the days to come may you remember with smiles and laughter and any tears be tears of joy on remembering the times Budward shared with you all.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
32. I'm so, so sorry elehhhhna.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 04:57 PM
Apr 2012

you've got my prayers and best vibes.

I know how hard it is to lose a beloved pet who's been a part of one's life for a long time.

guitar man

(15,996 posts)
33. So sorry to hear
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 05:32 PM
Apr 2012

My dog Birdie developed bone cancer and I had to have her put down about a year and a half ago. We had her 11 wonderful years, so I know just how you feel.

Peace and blessings be with you and yours at this difficult time .

roguevalley

(40,656 posts)
34. I am so very sorry. I have had to let go of three dogs in four years.
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 05:37 PM
Apr 2012

Each time they made me clear that they had to go now. It is the hardest thing to do because there is no more perfect love than that of a dog. I wish you the easiest moment when it comes and peace. You will feel a better day eventually but it comes with time. Hugs to all of you.

Stinky The Clown

(67,799 posts)
36. To all of your family, but mostly to Budward . . . .
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 08:28 PM
Apr 2012

. . . . . I wish more peace than you hope for and more comfort than you want.

Please post Bud's picture here. It's a corner of DU we've all come to know as someplace special: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1161&pid=1046

lunatica

(53,410 posts)
40. I'm sending the gentlest of vibes
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 09:03 PM
Apr 2012

watered with my tears. I have two elderly dogs right now. All I want and pray for is that they go in their sleep. Both our dogs do all the things you say Budward does. I guess it's their job. The job must be to humanize us.

Snarkoleptic

(5,997 posts)
42. Labradogs are the best! Positive thoughts for Bud to recover!!
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 10:10 PM
Apr 2012

My yellow lab made it to the ripe old age of 13 and I still miss him dearly.
A true force of nature.

AlecBGreen

(3,874 posts)
44. big hugs for you and your pup
Sat Apr 28, 2012, 11:16 PM
Apr 2012

His purpose on earth is coming to an end. It wont be easy to see him go but I pray his passing will be gentle on all of you. Much love from Virginia

CoffeeCat

(24,411 posts)
48. I am so sorry...
Sun Apr 29, 2012, 01:37 AM
Apr 2012

...that you and your family are going through this. I sorry that your amazing pooch is hurting too. Nothing will take away the pain of this loss, and unfortunately our dogs never live long enough.

It's ok to grieve. You and your family will have each other through the sadness. Your sweet dog knew he was loved and you gave him a great life. What more could a dog ask for? He knows that you love him and you will be there for him during his final journey.

Let us know how you are doing and keep us updated. Thinking of you and your family--including your furry friend.

alterfurz

(2,474 posts)
54. deepest sympathy, kindest thoughts
Sun Apr 29, 2012, 11:12 AM
Apr 2012

If there are no dogs in heaven, then when I die I want to go where they went. -- Will Rogers

HappyMe

(20,277 posts)
57. Oh no! you have my deepest sympathy.
Sun Apr 29, 2012, 11:25 AM
Apr 2012

Peace to your and your family. And a gentle hug for the Bud .Safe passage, faithful friend.

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