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pintobean
(18,101 posts)monmouth3
(3,871 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)No way I'd ever cling to either of you.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)However could I live with it.
monmouth3
(3,871 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)EOTE
(13,409 posts)I'd much rather prefer a woman who would impose a 2 drink minimum on herself. I'm not much of a drinker, but I can't even feel 2 drinks. And my wife swears like a sailor.
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)Except with what you can do when you go out, say around his friends and family, say around him, what you wear, setting your own boundaries, and when you don't want to be raped by him.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)At least thats my reading of it.
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)One where they can't say or do what they want?
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)There are always rules within the relationship, some can be weird but thats what happens in them, you either compromise or leave. How many times have we all had relationships where a weird condition was sought, or discussed.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Doesn't have the same punch a psychotic broken mirror rant does.
maxsolomon
(33,459 posts)not a mirror.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)That makes it even crazier, and maybe even a crime.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)to pay $800.00 for an ipad.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)TroglodyteScholar
(5,477 posts)Now, flush.
Iggo
(47,594 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Thought so.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Obvious, isn't it?
mike_c
(36,281 posts)...You have at least three hours battery life per charge.
Oh-- and I want a pony.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)They know how to appreciate a good woman there.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)Came up on the same search had me ROFL
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)Lex
(34,108 posts)Weird any way you look at it.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)loli phabay
(5,580 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)the next time you're a juror on an alert referring to women according to slurs like that?
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)One of your own called another woman here a dog. It got left.
Here you go --
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4120434
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I am still quite angry.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)has a rep for those kinds of attacks.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)but I don't recall any outrage following those attacks.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)as jury verdict after verdict shows.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Solidarity in the HOF!
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Because I probably have 30 failed alerts with references to women as b...h, s...t, and w...e. In fact, the former is so common, I've learned there is no point even bothering to alert. To pretend such slurs aren't used here with frequency is absurd.
Interesting how some see women as the source of all evil in life, including sexism.
That this OP gets such hostile responses reveals a great deal about some members. We all know one another very well now.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)If you have something to say, at least have the courage to come out and say it.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I believe Skinner actually answered one of those questions. You can find it yourself.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)What more do you want?
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I guess I'll just stfu and be happy I wasn't called a dog, or be condescendingly referred to as 'dear'.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)One of those two posters are on ignore.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)is worse than misogyny?
EOTE
(13,409 posts)evidence", thing. But I can understand how you might be confused.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)You have nothing to back up your claims - that's what this is.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Pretty straight forward.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Is that what my anecdotes are evidence of?
Katashi_itto
(10,175 posts)BB: No, it had to do with your perceptions of your ability
to attract women.
Me: Likely because I was in a serious car accident
But unlike some people I worked on that and got out and about.
For example:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018516977
But you do have my sympathy
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4055341
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4055276
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I countered your snark with snark back. How awful of me.
Katashi_itto
(10,175 posts)Response to BainsBane (Reply #39)
Post removed
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Why would you think she is my "buddy"? I have her on ignore. I haven't said anything about it because she isn't in this thread.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)insult in 2 of the posts I made.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)and any sense of decency. Despite my rocky past with her, I'm not going to sink to that level. Besides, it completely ignores the frequent references to the word "b...h," which is what AzLadyHawk was referring to, I believe.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Actually, I think she is referring to TA. But she will speak for herself, I suppose.
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)although yes, that was what I was referring to. I think I can probably point you to the post that gave her the idea; the Xmas Link Elf dropped a link in my PM box last week.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1255&pid=30309
Arf fucking arf.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)There are quite a few different sets of rules around here. It appears that some don't have to comply with any.
WOOF! ARF!
Amazing to see how some women just can't understand that most of us are actually able to think and function independently.
I feel sorry for the person who posted that.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)in the past couple of days.
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)Yes. I was mocking that post.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)and how is it you aren't outraged by men calling women those names?
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)That one? OK. What person was the term referring to?
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)You have several recent references using the word, not in a way I would alert on, however. Why is it that you never see men referring to women in such terms as problematic? It seems to me you make a point of accommodating what men want and very often point to women as the enemy. Why is that?
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)Can you link me to my several uses?
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)"Alas poor Meta, it was not bitching, I had come to think of it as motivational speaking.", which had the most hits, was from libodem's sig.
The rest, except for the first one, were from other people in the thread with me.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)because the reference I saw the other day used the term as a verb. My real question is why is it that you always feel compelled to point to transgressions by other women, when the fact is those terms are most frequently used in insulting ways (rather than as you have used them) by men on this site?
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)The people on this board who are least supportive of women and most often insulting to women (that haven't been banned; when men get misogynist, admin gives them the almighty boot) have been other women.
TA's post, had it been done by a man, would have rightly resulted in a ban. As it is, not only was the post not hidden, she's not even flagged for review. I was told the post went 4-2 to leave, so at least 4 people on this board agreed with her assessment- do you think they are more likely to be men, or women?
Do you think stuff like that ought to be allowed to lie around unchallenged, in the name of female unity, and hung on the Feminism banner? I don't. It's insulting. That's why.
BTW, your search in post 96? From the first page: the first hit is part of a woman's username, three were "son of a bitch", two more were used the same way I did, two were part of article titles or part of the story, and the remaining two were posted by women. The first use as an insult by a man is on page 2, and it's directed at Mitch McConnell.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I can see you've never served on MIRT. You evidently ignored your friends in the men's group calling redqueen an "attention whore," multiple times. No one was banned over that. Nor are they banned over calling women "c...ts," unless the person happens to be a new member.
I have no intention of defending TA's comments. As I made clear, I've had her on ignore for months. You, on the other hand, ignore misogyny and direct your anger toward women. That you can even claim that comments like that from men result in PPRing tell me just how removed from reality you are. There have been three male members banned for misogyny since I have been back on DU, and all three tried very hard to get those bans. You are frequently vitriolic because some women have the audacity to argue that rape porn is not harmless, or point to issues of rape culture you want to pretend only exist in the Muslim world. You show yourself to more outraged that someone sees a link between rape porn, rape culture, and rape than actual violence against women. Women have a right to disagree with men and disagree with you, no matter how odious you may find that concept.
Additionally, if you think Skinner and EarlG are bigoted against men, you should take the issue up with them. It is they and they alone who make decisions about banning members with over 100 posts.
polly7
(20,582 posts)LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)TA is well over the MIRT post limit. Admin would have to have dealt with it, as in fact they just did with Pab Sungenis. I thought I was pretty specific about it being an admin issue.
I don't ignore misogyny. That seems to be what's upsetting you. I am frequently vitriolic when women attack other women's rights or infantilize/degrade/insult other women to push an agenda- I take it personally when people try to use the feminist label (MY label) to do that. And if you're going to keep pointing the personal finger, I can note with some pride that I have never needed a sock to do so.
Socks used to result in a ban, too, come to think of it.
As for the nasty words, I can remember a man referring to Beyonce and her dancers as "sluts en regalia", and got a response of Woohoo! What a great daddy! from some of the same people who complain about the word at any other time. So apparently it's OK for some, much like referring to women as dogs is OK for some. The unequal standard bothers me. It's not a requirement that it bother you. I can argue the point without your help. I sure hope you're not insisting I should shut up about it, though.
You're free to disagree with anyone you like. You don't get to voice that opinion in a vacuum, not in GD at any rate. This is a public forum on a public board. Other people also have a right to disagree, however odious or "silencing" you may find that concept. I believe several people have already explained this to you.
I don't think the admins are bigoted against men. I support the bans for misogyny that have occurred so far. I think they try to be more careful with the issue of feminism, with them being men and with feminism being such a broad concept, and prefer to err on the side of caution with misogyny displayed by women. That's been my impression, anyway.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)If you had been on MIRT, you would have a sense of what results in banning since we receive all ban notices. You wouldn't make the absolutely absurd claim that women can say things that men don't get away with, and somehow insinuate I have something to do with what another poster writes.
You criticize others for what you do day in and day out. The difference is they criticize ideas and you attack people, sometimes dishonestly, as you did when accusing me of calling people rape apologists, while you NEVER object to insults from the other side (misandrist, feminazi, Maoist, totalitarian, fascist, right wing, crazy, etc. ..), which are far more numerous. Your above post shows your unwillingness to engage in honest debate and instead resort to petty attacks. Why you don't feel a need to abide by the same standards you hold others do, I can't imagine. Those really are your issues and no longer interest me in the slightest.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)I would have assumed it was a reply to you.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)that has any conceivable relevance to the discussion or to me?
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)A couple days ago, I tried to bring up a couple of issues to debate; your response was to tell a total falsehood about what I had said (twice, and you've repeated one of them here), yell at your strawman and then run away. But reminding you of your sock puppet after you spent half your previous post attacking me is refusing to debate in good faith- yeah, whatever.
Have a nice day.
polly7
(20,582 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)There definitely are some here who do ignore misogyny and even practice it themselves ..... but it's all good, because it's just part of that 'education' they're so selflessly providing. Makes me both laugh and a little ill at the same time.
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)This is the most epic flameout since She Who Must Not Be Named.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)BB wins the internet yet again!
polly7
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EOTE
(13,409 posts)Something you fail pathetically at. There is not a single use of that word coming from the poster you're referring to that refers to a woman in a negative manner. Keep up the hilarity, though.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)takes only a second, less time than to write the post you just authored.
https://www.google.com/search?q=bitch&sitesearch=democraticunderground.com
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)In other cases they were used to talk about women in public life. Contrast that with 6-0 hides of fat shaming of Chris Christie.
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)As for women in general, I can see why they weren't hidden as the debate about what constitutes sexist language here on DU goes round and round.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)or homophobia, no such debate exists. So AzLadyHawk's reference to such places where women are called those names does not exclude DU, as I observed.
Of course I alerted administrators. The people who made those comments are still active members.
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)Look at any link about Christie and the most recent one about Cruz being in the closet. It isn't just sexism.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)and don't like the fat shaming stuff either. Whenever I am on a jury, I hide them. I never try and justify them.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)But you and your pal know that, don't you?
Transparent? Oh, indeed.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Knock me over with a feather.
It's only a callout if it applies, and at least one member has suggested the list represents an ideal mate.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)But the OP furthering it is no better.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I just can't help noticing the reaction isn't nearly as strong as to this thread.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)I suppose it could go either way in support of that meme or not, but there's no doubt the call out on this one in this op stinks to high heaven.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I think someone is going to create a poll to find out. Look further down in this thread, starting around post 132.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)Which I kinda thought was gonna be the outcome here.
But if you don't think women "make lists", I don't know what to say. Unless they are teasing us men.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)but the actual author, as I told the other member, is not as relevant as how people respond.
If I made a list it would not involve keeping a man in his place. It would instead include: intelligence, compassion, honesty, a sense of humor. Most importantly not married and really not married, not just pretending to be not married while really being married. Nothing about keeping quiet, not saying no, etc. . . As an adult, however, my values are formed enough that I don't need to make lists.
I don't think most men here would make the kind of list in the OP, but clearly some find it perfectly acceptable. Another chimed in at the end of the thread. So if it's an ideal list, it can hardly be insulting to men. You can't have it both ways.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)I won't date anyone who smokes or is a conservative/Republican. I made a list.
It's not about what's acceptable. It's about saying "Oh look, this is what some knuckle dragger on DU would do!!! Haw haw!"
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)If that were the point, you wouldn't have objected. The point was about men who seek a partner who stays in her place.
Sex with Republicans can be hot. You might want to rethink that one.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)You seemed to act like women over 22 don't make them, when I know that they do but the reasons change. Unless they are somehow teasing is all I said. When I was in college, it was "I want him to be a doctor" etc. etc....just as when a guy is college age it's "She has to have a nice ass". As you get older, those lists do morph into something else less shallow. But being as there aren't many college age guys or gals posting here, I don't get posting this very dark list here and tying it to DU men somehow.
And it may shock you, but sex is not my raison d'etre for dating. Therefore listening to someone bash poor people or praise Sarah Palin as an idol is not worth the romp in the sack.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)It's not that important. I was imagining the Cosmo kind of list, not just an idea of the qualities that are most important to you in a partner. While there may not be college kids on here, some have the same kind of priorities.
What can I say. I like sex, and great sex is not so easy to come by. Besides, not all Republicans praise Palin. I also think intelligence and compassion takes care of the Palin lovers and most Republicans, don't you? I actually come off far less confrontational on political issues--on any issue really--in real life than online. I don't hesitate to speak my opinion, but speaking face to face enables me to modulate tone and engage in dialog better than writing online does. A bit of political sparring can be fun.
polly7
(20,582 posts)http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4074989
I think you're on to something there.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)she/he certainly has adopted a lot of masculine tendencies in her/his posts*.
*As this is an anonymous posting site, I don't pretend to know the real gender of any poster here.
polly7
(20,582 posts)I can think of, has claimed the absolute right to continue to harass using insulting, demeaning, sexist terms that way. They'd have been PPR'd for it. People get awful brave on the internet, it would last about 2 seconds in RL.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Gawd, what I wouldn't give to meet every member of the HoF, in real life. Maybe at a DU cocktail party someday...
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)MattBaggins
(7,905 posts)famous women I'd like to pork threads?
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)This was supposed to sink like a stone.
Now I have to trash my own thread. Ick
EOTE
(13,409 posts)Why on earth would you want that? I'd think you wouldn't post something if you weren't proud of it. Regardless, I'm more than happy to give it a kick before it goes.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Jesus.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)You're hiding your own thread - not deleting. Odd way to put out a fire that supposedly upsets you.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)It was a joke. I don't post in GD that much. I was just intrigued that the porn thing keeps getting resurrected-- in such passive-aggressive ways.
It's pretty funny when you think about it.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)could stop resurrecting the porn thing in such passive aggressive ways.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)No indeed.
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)But somehow the obsession charge isn't waged about the ones that are favorable of porn.
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)Seriously.....I have seen it done by both sides and on this very thread.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)I saw a few strange posts yesterday, a free speech one and one about a message on a broken iPad today.
I have porn on auto trash as well as all porn threads. This is going to turn into one unfortunately. However I'm adding to the problem by replying aren't I?
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)The OP has nothing to do with porn.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Thanks for noticing.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)waiting to see your complaint here.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)You'll just have to wait until tomorrow.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)Skinner's a smart dude. He knows a briar patch when he sees it.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)The thread that you were outraged about is long since gone, yet the stone-throwing continues.
We're on what, day 5 of pornopalooza? Maybe it's time to dial back the rhetoric.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Not I.
Edit: Oh I take that back I was completely creeped out.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)Who took over your thread?
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)I try to avoid hostile. No one person.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)than a question.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)It certainly was written like a question. My apologies.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Last edited Wed Dec 4, 2013, 04:49 PM - Edit history (1)
They are upset that you may be thinking that porn is bad. You need not actually post about porn, but that it might be somewhere in your head is bad enough. The mere fact it is in their heads is enough.
I thought the point was pretty clear, but guess not. It's a non sequitur of a thread really, but people can read into it what they like.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)It was about a bull in a china shop.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)One just has to be careful. Some people really enjoy alerting. I've even seen where someone created a sock so they could alert after 0-6 leave its.
I wouldn't want anyone to see my post as a call-out, so I posed it as a question.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Unless it's sometimes completely egregious. Differences of opinion or well phrased snark aren't something to alert on IMO. It takes away from the purpose of alerting. I'm of the "you dish it out you gotta take it school" which could get me in trouble I suppose.
Rex
(65,616 posts)You know every time I post in GD-- which isn't that often, it usually sinks.
Ah well.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)My threads in GD always sink. I hardly ever post here.
But you're right, with tensions high as they are I should have expected this.
xulamaude
(847 posts)Rex
(65,616 posts)Did Newt or Rush write this? I'm sure the humiliation part comes into play a lot in public!
brewens
(13,660 posts)is the humiliation one but I also would practice that.
notadmblnd
(23,720 posts)And then when he drops dead of a heart attack, there will be plenty of time to figure out who you are and what you really want to do with your life.
Ladies, just make sure you take out a hefty life insurance policy on him so you can figure it out in relative comfort.
FatBuddy
(376 posts)Just to see him smile, makes my life worthwhile
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
And I do
I'll be good to him, I'll bring love to him
Everyone says there'll come a day when I'll walk alongside of him
Yes, just to know him is to love, love, love him
And I do
Why can't he see, how blind can he be
Someday he'll see that he was meant for me
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
Just to see him smile, makes my life worthwhile
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
And I do
Why can't he see, how blind can he be
Someday he'll see that he was meant for me
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
Just to see him smile, makes my life worthwhile
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
And I do
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
Just to see him smile, makes my life worthwhile
To know, know, know him is to love, love, love him
And I do
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)would you have had a problem if this was titled and written verbatim, but from a woman's perspective: "How to be a man women love"?
I think most men I know attempt to be that kind of man.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Good Gravy Marie.
The best thing one that list is the "don't humiliate" one.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts):roflmao:
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Drunk and slutty? Really?
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)So someone posts something on the internet about what men find attractive about women, something I think most women would also find equally attractive in men, but the only attribute you can agree is worthwhile is the "don't humiliate" one.
This is why I don't take your Groups' rants seriously...you can't really engage in an honest discussion about the only subject you are apparently interested in.
This will probably earn me a call out in your protected HoF forum for my "bullying", though.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Which I take to mean not liking sex very much.
I'm still waiting for your poll.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)You're gonna wait a long time for that poll...I know where most of DU will come down on a pretty innocuous list of attributes that people are attracted to, regardless of gender. The fact that your team dishonestly posted this to use as another club against males on this board is blatantly obviously. But, by all means, "please proceed". :lmao:
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)My, oh my. So now I not only bear collective guilt, I'm supposed to be omniscient.
If the list is so innocuous, what's wrong with posting it regardless of origin? You can't hold on to a grievance without immediately undermining it, can you?
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)I think when a small group of anonymous posters focus exclusively on a few topics and work overtime to disrupt the board with dishonest posts - like this one - I think 'team' is a pretty good descriptor.
"If the list is so innocuous, what's wrong with posting it regardless of origin?" Because the Subject of the OP is: "I wonder if he posts here?" and it fits the narrative that your team promotes: men are all privileged patriachal misogynists (did I hit all the correct buzzwords?) who treat women as unequals.
Now that the poster knows where the actual list came from, perhaps you can PM him/her and advise to change it to a more probable "I wonder if she posts here?" Then we can discuss whether this is a blatant example of misandry.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Oh noes. The horror of having to read a thread you don't agree with, or worse yet, one you DO agree with. However will mankind survive. Say, where's your outrage to the OP labeled "Does she post here"?
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Guess I missed it....
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)There was no attribution to whoever posted it. It simply said "Does she post here." Both are rhetorical questions. Do you understand what that means?
One OP that did deliberately and willfully misrepresent is the one on the First Amendment. It was responding to Boston Bean's thread where she explicitly said she didn't advocate banning, so the First Amendment is entirely irrelevant. But that didn't stop the poster from completely distorting it. Naturally you didn't denounce that.
mstinamotorcity2
(1,451 posts)Hendog to go please
OldHippieChick
(2,434 posts)Think she's called a "Stepford"
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)NSFW
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)who or what...
RiffRandell
(5,909 posts)Myself and other people were upset that I was called a dog by a poster which was a blatant personal attack because I found comments in a thread funny, and a jury voted to leave it. I gave you the link, but will provide it again in case you did forget.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4122583
Now I just saw a post was hidden in this thread by a person that has been supportive of me which was not hide-worthy at all, imo.
I sincerely thank everyone that has defended me, but I don't want any of you risking getting posts hidden over it and giving certain people the satisfaction, as obviously the juries are voting on one's personal views alone and not whether it's a violation of community standards.
GeorgeGist
(25,326 posts)Nowhere fast.
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)Much ado about probably left over resentments from previous threads. My fault.
ananda
(28,903 posts)Don't be so sexist as to make a list of what women should be like.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Or is this strictly a male thing? I'm betting, without looking, that I can Google find similar lists. And, I would think they'd match up pretty closely with this list. Because, male or female, we all make lists and we are all human.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I don't suppose it might occur to you that there might be a difference between qualities one values in a person and a list of how a woman should stay in her place? That kind of false equivalency is the sort of thing one expects from CNN.
EOTE
(13,409 posts)And no, quite a few people DON'T mature much in their lives. I've seen quite a few of these lists with the genders reversed.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Interesting that you view this as a list "of how a woman should stay in her place"....when you obviously have no idea of what this person's thinking/reasoning was or what age he/she was. For all you really know, this could be the posting of a bitter old, loveless woman who fabricated this, in order to repost it on an anonymous website for the sole purpose of spreading more hatred between the genders.
Again, I read the list and think - that's the way I assume most couples would hope their SO would operate. Obviously, you read this and frame it to fit your agenda. Sad for you.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)He does post here. You read the frame to fit your agenda. Sad for you. The "hatred between the genders" is the inability of some to view women as equal human beings, as the list in the OP demonstrates.
I know Ism's approximate age. How that is relevant, I have no idea. What is informative is how people here respond to the post. You clearly think it conveys how women should behave. I happen to believe I'm an equal human being. Crazy, I know.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Thanks for the lin, polly7k!
Of course, that's not nearly as effective as just posting it as an etext so you can continue to accuse men on DU of misogynist behavior. This group keeps losing more and more credibility...
polly7
(20,582 posts)Just more dishonest bull* hoping to get even one response that can be purposefully misconstrued and twisted to make someone look like a woman-hating devil. Although, imho, those who really do seem to hate women who don't tow their hard-line, authoritarian 'you're either with us or you're a rape-apologist, pitiful dog who just lives for a pat on the head' are easy to spot. They just can't hide it. And many of us are sick and tired of it.
Example:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4120434
That was allowed to stay, while criticism of such an ignorant, hateful post was hidden.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4131908
EOTE
(13,409 posts)That just makes this entire thread all the more hilarious. Thanks for taking the time to find this out.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)"He does post here." Some anonymous poster at DU takes credit for this? Hope you aren't saying I wrote this; although I don't take issue to those words, it's not something I'd bother to detail out on the internet.
"the inability of some to view women as equal human beings" Some...where? On DU? Please link to any post where a DUer has stated that women are not equal to men. I want to add my name to that subthread condemning that anonymous poster.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Your literalism is ridiculous. You have said you find the list perfectly acceptable. Therefore that indicates that you are the kind of person referenced in "I wonder if he posts here." Since you have said you see that list as acceptable, you should have no issue identifying as the sort of person who would write it. In fact, you said the fact I didn't see it as an ideal list for a partner but rather as a list of how a woman should stay in her place was "sad for me."
As for your contention that "anyone" would want a partner who fits that criteria, I beg to differ. On the most basic level, if both parties are insisting the other do the pursuing, no partnership will occur.
That list is about a passive woman who doesn't say no, who relinquishes her rights over her own body. Would you relinquish control over your own body? Would you give up all rights to say no to anything?
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Now that we know the real source of isnotwasm's OP...maybe it's time for the HoF team to make a full frontal assault on that bastion of privilaged patriachists!
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I must be slipping.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Here's one. Not what you requested but it shows not everyone (or, I suspect not even most people) see that list as ideal: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4131632
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)would that poster have written the same thing? Perhaps changed his mind entirely?
Actually, it goes to show how easy it is to manipulate a person's thinking, when you take a list out of its original context and then suggest a man was responsible for the words.
And I love how you assume most people would take issue to this. Why not start a poll and find out? Just be honest and link to the website and ask the DU community to weigh in on how awful this is.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I missed whatever you're talking about.
However, I don't think the story of the writing of that list is nearly as informative as how people here have responded. Again, you have an excessively literal take on things.
Feel free to write the poll yourself. I'm not in the mood to get flamed again. It would be an easy enough task. Just repost the list and say do you think this is a list of an ideal mate?
polly7
(20,582 posts)I think she's still got me on ignore for asking her why both she and her sock at the time were replying to me in one thread!
pintobean
(18,101 posts)adogslife was the sock
While looking for that, I found this awesome take-down.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Trolling for dollars is the game I think.
Only think that makes sense.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Is the sock still here?
maddezmom
(135,060 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)I remember when that happened. Lulz all around.
Totally forgot the parties involved.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)That's dishonest...but doesn't surprise me in the least.
I wish DU tracked who the biggest alert abusers are on the board, results would be illuminating.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Totally. Fucking. Trolling.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Except those that want to be fooled.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)because you as a man know what real feminists should believe.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)But who the hell are you (not BainsBane, the rhetorical "you" to decide - as man or, hell, even as a woman - who is or isn't a "real feminist"?
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Never have, never will. It's astounding how many feel they must completely invalidate another person in a discussion.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)opiate69
(10,129 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)It's not something I would say or post. Repudiate. This is like the fifth time today someone has decided to make me responsible for what other people say. I'm one person, not a feminazi collective. I'm responsible for everything I say, including every stupid post I've made, but I'm not responsible for what anyone else posts. When are you going to repudiate calling a DU woman an "attention w...e." Oh, no. You didn't repudiate it. You repeated it.
Quit telling us how to be!
MattBaggins
(7,905 posts)Oh wait... crap
polly7
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(7,051 posts)polly7
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maddezmom
(135,060 posts)It is like bad Cosmo and that is saying something.
polly7
(20,582 posts)The men 'polled' here were far more sane and realistic in their expectations of a relationship than these supposed 'wants' in the OP - which were written by women.
Why so much misleading bull*!
1000words
(7,051 posts)Or perhaps my feeble male mind is playing tricks on me.
EOTE
(13,409 posts)And this OP's lesson is: "MORE PORN THREADZ!!11!"
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)I guess one can feel free to proceed to call the woman an animal of their choosing then....
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)Nice catch!
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)EOTE
(13,409 posts)And yet another thread goes exactly as you wanted it to.
I wonder if she posts here.
lillypaddle
(9,581 posts)and a few of her friends, too.
JI7
(89,287 posts)He's been spotted in the underworld.
treestar
(82,383 posts)That list is from a man who just wants to be in control of the woman. It's all it boils down to.
loli phabay
(5,580 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)They find a black person to spout Ayn Randisms, so they can claim not to be racists.
It's easy to find women who will tow the party line.
And maybe she thinks that's what men want? Which is telling, too.
Because it does sound like it. Some women think it's in their interests to play along with it. Her list says "do it as he wants it to be."
When do you ever see lists of what men should do to win over a woman?
polly7
(20,582 posts)The list comes from a woman on a site that gives dating and relaitonship 'tips'.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)....written by a woman.
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)I do the same thing and read OP's and respond accordingly. If the poster isnotwasm was honest, she'd remove her reference/suggestion that a man is responsible in the OP and provide the link that polly7 added. But that's not going to happen.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)train wreck out of that station.
DisgustipatedinCA
(12,530 posts)frogmarch
(12,161 posts)You can bake an apple pie quick 's a cat can wink its eye
also:
You never question him about things that are none of your business
You never contradict him
Jamaal510
(10,893 posts)"you let him pursue you"
I actually prefer when the woman makes the first move. I mean, why not? This is the 21st century now. The average guy is generally more approachable than the average woman, anyway, so there really is not much for women to be scared of in terms of rejection. With men on the other hand, we usually have to either worry about coming on too strong, or the woman fearing that we are creepy and only want sex.
Also...
"you watch your language"
I could care less whether some woman swears or not. I have more important things to worry about and to be turned off by than that.
Skittles
(153,298 posts)they're assholes
alarimer
(16,245 posts)Some good, some APPALLING.
Like never asking "Where is this going?" What the hell is wrong with that?
Why does she have a 2 drink maximum? I assume this guy, whoever he is, does not impose the same limit on himself.
Watch your language? Fuck that.
Sometimes you have to say no. You have the right to say no whenever you feel like it, for whatever reason.
Actually, this whole things is messed-up. Why do women have to abide by some rules some guy made up?
Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)Subthreads expose where this came from....but the poster accomplishes what they intended.
Sissyk
(12,665 posts)Does that change the message for you?
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)1000words
(7,051 posts)That's what happens when you trundle around these boards with a crusade mentality. One finds the offending behavior everywhere ... even when it's not there. It plays out again and again at this site, and I have no doubt it will continue in the future. Way too many folks here with an agenda.
All the while, everyone involved will insist they are an "open-minded progressive ..."
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)in the thread entitled, "I wonder if she posts here"? You know, the one that preceded this.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)But, until then, this olympics-worthy conclusion-leaping fail of an OP will be considered to have earned, in spades, every ounce of ridicule and derision it has received.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)The question was rhetorical. If the person who wrote this is a woman, and I don't know how people have come to that conclusion, but let's assume it was. How does that change the rhetorical question asked? I just saw a poster say that feminism was the source of evil on earth. You think that guy wants a woman who speaks her mind? Do you?
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Ism, in her infinite wisdom, assumed that it was authored by a man, (hmm.. Smells a wee bit sexist to me...), then she further thought she was making some grand statement about the "DUh" (sic), and the men that post here. But, since her initial assumption was so quickly proven to be oh, so hilariously wrong, it effectively renders whatever point she thought she was making equally laughable.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)I noticed you evaded the question.
polly7
(20,582 posts)ismnotwasm (13,856 posts)
I wonder if he posts here?
You'll try to twist anything, won't you? It's too bad this isn't a teen board where you could pull it off, say ... once in every ten or so tries.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)The meaning was: Do guys who think like this post here?
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)And I thought the "Ipad" message was probably fake, the frame was beat to hell and gone while the screen was almost pristine, not the work of someone in severe emotional distress.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)And then there is this: http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4134913
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)And I suspect Hamlet was probably schizophrenic, he was certainly melancholy.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)"I wonder if he posts here" seems pretty easy for a big brain such as yourself.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)and I'm certain she didn't mean it literally. Do you think whoever scratched out the Ipad actually posts here?
opiate69
(10,129 posts)Into this one. But, as a kidding, jocular lounge-type thread, it may have worked, but as it sits here in GD? Nope.. Dumb post.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)in school? It must have been terribly confusing. Did you think Hamlet's father really visited him as a ghost? Did Dorothy really get swept by a tornado to Oz? Or did the whole thing about the Populist movement and William Jennings Bryan get by you?
opiate69
(10,129 posts)My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red, than her lips red:
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damasked, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound:
I grant I never saw a goddess go,
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground:
And yet by heaven, I think my love as rare,
As any she belied with false compare.
I can't argue with that.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)who thought the list was just swell.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)BainsBane
(53,131 posts)Subthread beginning at post 132. Your pal at 179 seems pretty keen on it too.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)But no surprise you, as is your wont, completely, laughably, misconstrued their posts.
BainsBane
(53,131 posts)The second one is open to interpretation. The first was quite clear. It's simply a question of whether you can read or not.
Bonobo
(29,257 posts)Let's see... right wing religious groups with fake statistics about porn... sexist lists about women created by women... what's next?
ismnotwasm
(42,023 posts)I've spend a relaxing day in the hot tub. Just watched "The Wolverine"
Log in and this is still here?
Everybody out of the pool! Right now!