You know the saying "No good deed goes unpunished"??

[Siwsan]

I recently had to put my 95 year old widowed, childless aunt into a rehabilitation/convalescent center, after she suffered a fall. She will likely now have to move into assisted living. She has ony one nephew on her husbands side of the family, and they are fairly close. So I decided to get in touch with him, via email, to keep him updated on my Aunt's situation. Unfortunately, that means communicating through his wife.

Now I've been dumped into a 'send to all' mailing list, by his wife, who seems to be a rabid neo con, and now she's sending me all kinds of right wing garbage emails. We've had several phone conversations where politics were lightly touched on and I made it really clear where I stand, politically so why she's sending me this junk is baffling.

I know I could just ignore and delete, but I want to extract myself from this annoying situation without causing any sort of problems with communicating about the situation with my Aunt. I'm going to send her this:

'Do me a favor and remove my contact info from any further political emails. I am a life long, die hard Liberal Democrat and, since 2007, a very vocal and hard working supporter of Barack Obama.'

Fingers crossed she doesn't get stroppy.

[TeamPooka]

1. If she gets dramatic just ask her if she would like all your Democratic Obama emails sent to her?

if that doesn't work create a file folder for her emails to go straight into and check it every now and then for the family stuff you need.

[Siwsan]

7. Great suggestions

I thought about directing her emails to a specific folder, and give that folder a very, VERY rude name.

[Yavapai]

11. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I have two people who continuously send this crap and your suggestion really sounds like a great way to deal with their emails. If it works, I will only have to chew three Tums once a week while sorting through the barrage.

Again, THANK YOU!!!

[TeamPooka]

12. you are not alone. we all have to deal with these folks in our families and lives

[physioex]

2. All of us have RW family and friends..

What works for me is never to discuss political issues. You did the right thing to opt out.

[Motown_Johnny]

3. Maybe just ask to be removed and say you hope you can agree to disagree.

The "Life long, die hard.. etc etc etc" isn't really necessary.

If she keeps sending you that garbage then you can use the stronger language the second time you ask.

[alfredo]

10. The spam filter is your friend.

[Siwsan]

13. From the few she sent me - she needed an unequivocal statement

I haven't had to deal with this woman, much, but the little exposure I've had was enlightening. There are some people you can gently wave off. She is a mosquito - waving gently won't do any good. It might just be seen as a challenge

[Animal Chin]

4. no...keep the emails coming

Send them here: myrightwingdad.net

A "museum" of right wing email forwards.

[Hassin Bin Sober]

5. Send her a Rude Pundit or "Duchess" rant and reply to all.

That'll learn her.

[ohheckyeah]

6. I stopped that shit

by using "Reply to All" and debunking every single lie in one of those emails. I never got another from that person.

[Downwinder]

8. You could also suggest that as her side wants to cut your common relative

off long term assisted living, You will need a billing address to send the bills to.

[alfredo]

9. Here's how I stopped one person. I politely debunked the hate-mail, then Cc'd the response.

She blocked my e-mail and stopped mailing anything to me.

I took the time to find and post links to support my response.

[TeamPooka]

14. I think when dealing with family members "public" responses and ridicule are not helpful

unless you truly never want to hear from that relative again that unexpected wedding or funeral won't benefit from that awkward moment from your public call outs.
Just deal with it privately between two grown ups and it goes away very quickly. IMHE

[Siwsan]

15. The email went just to her

I have never, ever sent a 'send to all' email. Seems far too risky.

And, she's not actually a 'relative'. She's married to someone who is the nephew of my uncle, by marriage. I have, fortunately, had very few contacts with her, and once my aunt passes, our paths will never again have to cross.

[riverwalker]

16. let them know

that the GOP plan is make family (her nephew) responsible for her nursing home costs. Nephew would have a lien against his home to recover his aunts nursing home bill about $10,000 per month.
Omaha Steve had some great posts about the GOP changes to Medicaid on this.