Prayers/Good Thoughts/Vibes Needed

[OhioChick]

One of my Son's good friends was driving on the Interstate about a month ago. His tire blew out and his vehicle flipped over four times, whereas he needed up across the median. No drugs, alcohol, cell phone use, excessive speed, etc. were a factor.

My son just learned that his friend died. He never woke up. The boy's family is devastated. It was their only child. My Son and family are horribly saddened by this boy's death.

When someone you love/care about leaves the house/your presence, hug them and tell them you love them. You never know if you'll see them again. :cry:

He was only 20. R.I.P

[Midlodemocrat]

1. You've got them. I'm so sorry.

Far too young. Far too young. :hug:

[qanda]

2. So sorry

That is very sad. I will pray for their family and your son.

[TheCowsCameHome]

3. Everyone near the young man has suffered a loss.

Condolences to all concerned.

[SalmonChantedEvening]

4. Loving vibes and sincerest condolences Ohio Chick

:cry: :cry: :cry:

For you, your son and that young man's family. My heart truly goes out to you.

:loveya:

[arcadian]

5. Tragic

I'm sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and his family.

[blm]

6. My niece was recently killed in a car crash in Ohio. She just turned 18 and planned to be a nurse

and her boyfriend was a star athlete with a bright future. Both died within minutes.

The crash was because of a 20yo who was doing 85 on a quiet, narrow road on a Sunday afternoon. He had recently gotten his license back after previous speeding citations. Unfortunately for my family, some never learn from their past mistakes....until...it's far too late.

I feel for your friend. The pain these few months later is still raw for my family....and it doesn't feel like it will dissipate any time soon.

Peace to you and your friend.

[Midlodemocrat]

7. Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry.

I have an 18yo myself. I can't imagine. I pray to God I never have to.

:hug:

[blm]

45. I hope so, too. I really wouldn't wish this pain on anyone.

And, sadly, it is not an uncommon occurrence. I wish it were.

[barbtries]

10. i'm so sorry to hear that

it takes a long time. longer than non-bereaved people can as a rule believe.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

17. It takes forever

It never ends. Your reality changes and adapts to what is now your new reality.

But the pain never ends.

[blm]

19. Yes....that is how it is....

most deaths are expected through aging, disease or risk. Sudden loss of young, vibrant people for no reason but a criminal level of carelessness......

[Mari333]

34. yes, it never ends. i know this.

hugs.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

40. Thank you

I wish neither of us, none of us, knew this. I wish we never had to learn this hard, hard lesson.

But the gift within this lesson is that he can hold a small light on that dark road that others will inevitably travel, and we can tell them, yes, it will be all right. It will just be a new kind of all right.

We're still here and our presence is a testimony to the love we had for our lost ones, for the ones we have who are still here, held close.

[lisa58]

13. Love to your family - The grief must be devastating

[blm]

16. It is. The election was a welcome distraction, but it's her face that I see at night

she looked very much like an 18yo version of me, and I so looked forward to watching her shine.

My brother and his wife will never be the same though they try so hard for the sake of the other two kids.

My niece had just left a family reunion picnic....a short time later the sirens were heard by family still at the picnic...my brother is a firefighter and an EMS worker....he heard the sirens and thought he could help so he went to the scene.........

[BrklynLiberal]

8. My heart aches for his family and his friends...That is beyond sad.

:cry:

[barbtries]

9. i'm so sorry

so sorry. :cry:

[knitter4democracy]

11. I'm so sorry for your loss, and please give your son a hug from us.

What a devastating thing. I'm so very sorry.

[lisa58]

12. My love to you, your son, his friend and his friend's family - love is all you get when it's over.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

14. So tragic...

I'm so sorry for the loss that you, your son, and that poor boy's family must feel.
:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

[wryter2000]

15. I'm sorry

Your son and his friend and his family are in my thoughts.

[yy4me]

18. To all of you who loved him, my deepest sympathies.

[babylonsister]

20. Oh, gosh, OhioChick, I am SO sorry to hear this!

:hug: for your son and you. :hug:

[CTyankee]

21. So very sad. I have a friend whose husband was struck by a car as he was jogging.

It is a terrible situation. My thoughts and my love to them and to you. Please take care...

[peace13]

22. I am so sorry.

Peace and love, your way. This is so sad.

[michaz]

23. Prayers to you all. I know that horrible pain. We lost our son

5 days before his 16th birthday. He went to soccer practice and died on the field. I can tell you that your son and this boy's other friends will need a lot of support and many opportunities to talk. Let them, they need to more than you know. His parents need this same opportunity. They need to be listened to without a lot of input. Just being there for them will help them greatly. Don't judge what they say or do during this grieving process. Whatever they do or say is what will make this more bearable for them. There is no right or wrong in the way they will grieve, they will do whatever it takes to let them survive this. There is no way around it, there is only through it and trust me, it is the worst and hardest thing they will ever have to do in their lifetime! Time is going to be there only friend. It is the only thing that lessens this horrid grief. It will never go away, the hole in their heart will only shrink in time but years from now it will seem like yesterday on certain days and an eternity on others.

[spoony]

24. Thank you for sharing this wisdom

No way around it, only through it. My best wishes to the family in the OP, and to you.

[renate]

35. i am so sorry for what you and the OP have gone through

You're so kind to think of the girl's friends, when you know from such bitter experience what the family members are going through--it must have been all-consuming, and probably still is from time to time.

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. What an unbearable shock. And when I think of the OP's brother going to the scene to help a stranger and instead seeing his child there....

[RedLetterRev]

25. .

:cry: :hug:

You never really get over a loss, but in time you do learn where to put it. Love goes out from our house to yours and theirs.

[Arugula Latte]

26. Nightmare scenario ... No words.

:hug:

[applegrove]

27. Vibes to that family.

[RB TexLa]

28. So sorry, my best friend died in a car accident when I was in my early 20s too.

It is a devastating and such an unbelievable thing to go through. I'll remember your and their family in my prayers.

I wish you, your son and them comfort.

:hug:

[SpookyCat]

29. That's awful OhioChick . I'm so sorry.

CS travels for a living, so every time he takes off in a plane it crosses my mind. You're right, never take a moment for granted.

Peace to you and your family.

:hug:

[Azlady]

30. ((((((( Ohiochick Family )))))))))))))))))

There are so many hugs going to you, your family & your friends family. What a tragic loss. I am praying for you, your son & his friends family.

(((((((((((((((((((( Ohiochick )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Azlady

[OhioChick]

31. Thank you all for the offer of sympathy/condolences/prayers.

I will do my best to pass these on to the family. I feel for everyone that has lost someone close. It seems that wound remains raw forever. :cry:

[blm]

32. Hug your kids, and teach them to drive safely out of respect for their own lives and the lives of

others.

That lesson cannot be re-inforced enough.

Peace to you.

[OhioChick]

43. I lecture mine on a daily basis.

No texting, talking on a cell phone, no drinking while driving, speeding, etc. I always hoped that if I reminded mine daily, then hopefully I would never get "that call."

My sympathies to you and your family over the loss of your niece.

:hug:

[Horse with no Name]

33. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Please let this young man's family know at an appropriate time--to check out and see if his tires were part of a SILENT recall.
I noticed that my donor star is gone and I cannot do a search at this time--but if you search for my name and "tires" you will see the information that I found out after my tire did the same thing.
This thread isn't the time or place to go into more details--but please, check it out.
My sympathies to everyone close to this young man.

[OhioChick]

42. Thank you.

I was thinking the same as you....regarding the tires.If I remember correctly, wasn't it something regarding faulty tire stems that were made in China? I'll do a search. Thanks, again.

[bigwillq]

36. How sad.

Thoughts and good vibes for the family. :hug:

[ihavenobias]

37. You have my thoughts and good vibes

More than that, you know I'm always here to talk when you need it.

[OhioChick]

44. Thank you.

You've always been a kind friend. :hug:

[OHDEM]

38. Parents should never have to bury their child.

I'm so sorry.

Life doesn't just change in a day or even in a minute, but in that one second when a tragedy like this happens and everyones' lives are changed forever.

Sending prayers and good thoughts from the North coast of Ohio! :hug:

[babydollhead]

39. so sorry

i had 4 friends die in a car accident in 11th grade. A loss like that rewrites you. 7 years later, my lover died in a car accident, 4 years later, I married his brother. We married 11 years to the day, after my friends died.

[malaise]

41. How sad

One of my grad students lost three of her classmates from both high school and university in a fiery accident three weeks ago. One of the students was an executive on the campus student government. He was driving at 100mph, hit a wall and the car caught afire after people rescued one person from the wrecked vehicle.

All of them were in their 20s. And yes, hug your family and friends.

[Lilyeye]

46. I am so sorry to hear this. My prayers, good thoughts and vibes are coming your way and theirs.