Because Hatred Is Not a DU Family Value, I Ask You To Join Me...
In changing your avatar for 5 days to a GLBT avatar.
The avatar I have had since I joined DU on Nov 10th 2004 is the Dalai Lama. He represents compassion. Not who I am, but who I would like to resemble.
We, at DU, know each other from our avatars - they are important expressions of who we are as a diverse community. I honor that diversity.
In the past, I have not heeded calls to change my avatar to Senator Boxer or Congressman Conyers - even though I admire them tremendously and am deeply, deeply grateful to them both.
I am, however, going to change my avatar this week to a GLBT avatar in support of my GLBT friends and family -- the ones at DU, the ones who I know personally, and those who I haven't met yet.
Maybe only a few DUers will join me in temporarily changing their avatar - maybe dozens will - but I ask everyone at DU to contemplate how very far down the slippery slope of discrimination, hatred, and human rights abuses this nation has slipped and exactly what you will do about it.
Today is another slip - a terrible, horrible, nightmare of a slip.
Will we acquiesce or will we FIGHT?
I will change my avatar for 5 days and each day I will TAKE ACTION TO STOP THE HATE. Today, I've called my Senator to express my outrage and I've donated to the Human Right Campaign (an organization fighting the marraige amendment).
If changing your avatar does not feel right to you, what will you DO instead?
To change your avatar:
Click on 'Options' icon at the top of the page. Click on "Edit your profile' link on the left. Avatar Image enter: 'pinktriangle.gif' or 'rainbowflag.gif' or 'hrc.gif'
A personal riff:
Born in 1965, growing up singing anti-war songs and songs about racial harmony NEVER, NEVER, NEVER in my life could I imagine that we could return to a place in our nation that has not existed since before I was born.
My Aunt Martha was a school teacher. Martha moved from Oklahoma to California soon after she got her teaching license. Family members who visited her in California met the woman with whom she shared an apartment, but the woman (Edwina) did not travel with Martha to infrequent family reunions. Martha and Edwina shared an apartment for some 20 years before they moved to New Mexico together and then a few years later moved back to California. Edwina still didn't come to family reunions. When Martha retired, she and Edwina moved to Baton Rouge, Louisiana to be near Martha's younger sister, Tag, and her husband and family. I remember once, when I was probably 14, my mother was talking about Martha and Edwina, and paused in mid-sentence to add, parenthetically, that 'they were not like that' and then continued on. I really hadn't thought much about Martha and Edwina at all - because I had seen Martha maybe 4 times in my life and Edwina never. And then Martha died. And then Tag described to my mother how very, very deeply and long Edwina grieved. And then I got it. And then it was too late. I foolishly thought - what a shame that they had had to hide their relationship 'back then'.
I thought that the hatred that arose around the AIDS crisis had largely been conquered. I thought that gay-bashing was slowly, painfully being disappeared from our nation. I thought that rights for GLBT community were ever-expanding and felt (can still feel) the positive effects of this in my community.
Was it all a dream? We had made progress, right? This nightmare is backlash, right?
Hatred never ceases by hatred, but by love alone is healed. This is an ancient and eternal law.
As President Bush announced his support for the discriminatory Federal Marriage Amendment, a group of hard-working Americans were at the Capitol today making their opposition to the proposed amendment known. Almost a quarter of a million Vote No! postcards were delivered to Capitol Hill as part of the event.
HRC Triple Tuesdays! Every Tuesday, join thousands of others to call your three representatives in Congress to voice your opposition at 202/224-3121.
11. I'll gladly change for my gay brothers and sisters.
I have a silly, petty little avatar that's intended to bait and enrage a certain CUnt (I can't say the site's name but they know who they are) but I'm happy to show some solidarity here. I guess every little bit helps.
But next week, I'm back to being my silly, petty little self.
14. I recently changed my avatar from the HRC to the peace sign
I will change it back for now. Thank you for your activism! But without peace, none of it matters anyway. I can't marry my love of 25 years legally, but we'd sure like to at least survive another 25+ years together.
I am older than you. I met my first lesbian (I know that sounds odd) when I was a kid, she worked for my dad and somehow I found out about her. I was curious about her. I liked her a lot. As a teen I worked there during the summers and got to know her better. She was an awesome person and she was OUT! In the late 60's! I learned from her that there was no difference between she and I except I liked boys and she tormented the men. She taught me my first hesitant steps of feminism, how to stick up for myself in the heavily male workplace. We were not even what you would call friends and I wish like hell I could find her now and thank her. She would be surprised I think to know how much she influenced me. I have never understood the fear or hatred of GLBT folks. My brother was gay, died at 47 of AIDS 3 1/2 years ago.
70. Wow! Thank you for your work with Kansas Equality!
I am so sorry to hear about your brother and I hope you are able to find Kim someday. If you know her first and last name - you can look her up on AnyWho.com - the US national telephone base. If you have any additional information about her or her contacts you can Google them and possibly find her. I am an adult adoptee who found my birth family using the Mormon Famiily registry, St. Louis Post Dispatch, birth & death records, and AnyWho.com.
Kim was actually my brother, not a very common name for a male but in the 50's there were enough that I actually knew 4 or 5 male Kim's. Your assistance is appreciated. He is usually around me, I can feel him on my shoulder at times, ever since his death. He seemed to migrate from my embrace to a permanent warm place on my shoulder. Still, I wish I could talk to him again.
Kansas Equality is amazingly effective, we did a lot this first 8 months and are getting a new chapter up to make a total of 7 with two more possible soon. It is my love and my pleasure and my honor to be a tiny part of it.
One more thing that people can do to support not only GLBT but others with AIDS is to visit this site and order a bracelet. I wore a POW bracelet for years and years so when this first came out I got one right away. I have been wearing one for many years now. http://www.utac.org/index.shtml
83. You can have an avatar - you don't have to donate or anything...
Look at the icons at the top of the page - and click on 'Options' icon. On the left side of the page, click on "Edit your profile'. In the avatar image box enter: 'pinktriangle.gif' or 'rainbowflag.gif' or 'hrc.gif'
Click on 'save edits' (or something like that) and you should have an avatar!
Because what the Shrub is doing sickens me, as I sit here watching a film about two German lesbians during World War II. Apparently, this is the next step in the abridgement of rights for my GLBT brothers and sisters.
but this is a diversion and I'm going to treat it as such for now. When there are laws enacted to allow GLBT folks to have all the rights "straight" people enjoy, I'll be on the front lines. Until then, you have my support.
FWIW, I am beginning to wonder if I'm bisexual or even a Lesbian. This is the first time I've ever said anything about it to anyone. Sexuality was driven out of me by abuse and fundamentalism, so I never developed normally. I don't know my own sexuality...how sad is that? I've been depressed all week, wondering WTF is wrong with me that I can't feel normal urges.
Um, the above probably belonged somewhere else. I will shut up now.
I have had a few times in my life when I've felt attraction, but they're pretty few and far between these days. I wonder if meds are causing it, but mostly I don't care whether or not that's the case. Between past abuse and fundamentalism there is so much shame attached to sexuality that I prefer not to feel it.
111. A symbolic act with great historic significance!
This action is reminiscent of that of the Danes during WWII, all of whom donned yellow stars in solidarity with their Jewish countrymen. The occupying Nazi force which had issued the original order in an attempt to isolate the Jewish minority was forced to rescind the decree.
126. Great story - Thanks! I was thinking along those lines, but
did not know about the Danes. Very cool.
I consider tonight practice for the 'real world.' I am going to contact the pastor at my Unitarian Church and suggest that we print stick-on pink triangles and provide them to everyone at the door on Sunday. People can wear them all day and/or for lots of days to come...
140. Love is Love - As always my DH & I stand up for the freedom to express
the love one has for another whether straight or GLBT.
Something some clergy members may want to think about (other then the fact that this FMA would place bigotry into the Constitution) is that this amendment will restrict religious freedom in that clergy/churches/religions have the right to decide who they feel they can marry. This amendment would remove that choice and create a situtation where the federal government is telling a church/clergy what they can believe or not.
and in honor of so many more - a lifetime of friends...and with special thoughts of all the couples I know who consider themselves married in spite of the hate and stupidity - especially Amanda and Mimi, now expecting their second child... :loveya:
I didn't know that the triangle was interpreted as being just gay male -- my intention is all-inclusive. I love the rainbow flag, too -- but thought that since the Nazis put pink triangles on people they persecuted for the sexuality that would be most appropriate, for me, for the moment.
Done, and with pleasure. This is about human rights, and we are all entitled to the same benefits as anybody else. It's absurd to try to legislate discrimination into the Constitution, and create a segment of the population as being 2nd class.
Call any and all senators who are against this attempt to institutionalize bigotry and ask them to wear a pink triangle during the hearings. And after speaking to their offices, post the responses here:
I have to say, this is wonderful. I've been feeling like there was a lot less support on DU of late for the LGBT community. I am glad to see I was wrong and getting stuck on a few posts that made me angry but were not representative of the majority. Thanks to all of you for your continued support. :toast:
233. I am glad that this thread helped you reconsider the true mood of DU -
I am feeling guilty that I have *not* been paying attention to what has been happening with the FMA. I am so wrapped up in what is happening in Iraq; the possibility of an Iran invasion; election fraud & reform; the primaries happening all across the nation for Nov elections; the up-down economy and killing poverty and health-care crisis -- that I am dizzy most of the time. :puke:
Please keep posting what is important to you and please don't take it personally if others don't respond as vigorously as you might have hoped. Our strength is our diversity. If we keep informing each other and nudging each other to action and challenging each other to uphold our true, highest principles -- then someday, I pray, we will make it.
273. Excellent post! And I stand with you, my friend!
When anyone's rights are violated, this threatens us all. We not only owe it to our gay DU friends to stand with them, but to Americans everywhere. We have to send a clear message that violating anyone's Constitutional rights is never acceptable and we will refuse to allow this!:grr:
I changed my avatar, too, though I feel a little weird without Jimmy Carter looking back at me from my posts, after all this time, LOL! But I also felt that this was something that I had to do.:patriot:
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