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oxbow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 10:41 AM
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On Living Free in an Age of Fear
Edited on Thu Apr-27-06 10:53 AM by oxbow
We are living through some major history right now. The series of events unfolding before us since 9-11 is about as big as they come. The fall of the Roman Empire, the ministry of Jesus, World War II, all of these times must have been challenging and just plain crazy to live through. Likewise, our days under the Bush Administration are filled with uncertainty and much fear. Fear for our country, our fellow human beings here and abroad, and sadly, for all life on this planet.

It’s not just the United States that's changed dramatically in the past few years though; While our leaders have been off playing the empire building game in Iraq (and failing horribly at it) the world has gone and changed on us. China has been growing at phenomenal rates, and will outshine the US both economically and militarily in the next decade or so. Russia is also slowly getting on its feet, and India has become another powerhouse in the world economies. If the EU finally figures out how to work together, that is another major player on the stage. All of these countries need massive resources, such as oil, metals, wood, silicon and other vital materials, to keep their economies growing. The world is about to get a whole lot flatter, meaning that the American standard of living is taking a major downturn soon. Not to even mention the environmental impact of all this massive growth! Clearly, the world is becoming something else right before our eyes.

Now, all of this change can seem very daunting to someone who cares about the world, and the people in it. There’s so much that needs to be fixed, so many things that we could be doing. It can be paralyzing to even think about things sometimes. Where do we even start when madmen hold the reins of power, and normal people seem unwilling to listen to reason and compassion?

We start by taking a deep breath. Life has existed on this planet for billions of years before us, and will continue to thrive long after we are gone. We might be able to upset the balance temporarily, but nature will eventually restore it without a doubt. Things may not turn out the way we want or expect them to but invariably, they will turn out as well as they can. The sun will still shine tomorrow, no matter how dark things look tonight.

Likewise, even though we have thieves and madmen in charge right now, they have had to lie and cheat their way into power. That means that for the most part, people are goodhearted and compassionate, and actually care about things like freedom and equality. And despite anyone’s best efforts, you can only keep a lie going for so long. Reality has a way of showing up liars for exactly what they are. We are seeing that right now in Iraq, in our inner cities, in New Orleans, on the icecaps (or lack thereof) of our planet’s poles. Like the song says, you can’t fool all the people all the time. Eventually, it becomes too hard to ignore reality.

I don’t know if you believe in God or not, but I think most everyone can believe in fate. You have been put on this earth at this time for a reason. If you don’t believe this, maybe you should start acting like you do. It can’t hurt things, and it might conceivably help you live a life with some meaning (and gratitude). Each of us has a role to play here, so we might as well start acting like it.

This still doesn’t answer my original question though: How do we act in such an uncertain world, where there are so many problems to tackle and so little time and influence for each of us? Simply put, we have to act without caring about the outcome. That means that we understand that whatever we do, things will never turn out exactly the way we want them to. If intent and outcome were the same thing, then the war in Iraq would really have been the cakewalk the Bushies expected it to be. We would have the flowers and the cheap gas they were expecting, and American forces would be already invading Iran right now.

No, in order to act in this world, we have to stop grabbing at outcomes. We have to stop clinging to what we want the world to be like, and dance with it as it really is. This doesn’t mean that we resign ourselves to anything! We can still act upon this world. Indeed, action is the only moral option in the face of injustice. However, we can still act without being dependant upon a certain outcome for our happiness. Things will never turn out the way we imagine them being in the future. We have to accept that or face a life of one disappointment after another. In Buddhism, this is called a state of nonattachment. You identify your values, set your intentions based on them, and act upon the world with a mind not attached to outcome. This way, whatever happens, you can be content in knowing that did your very best and stayed true to your core. You are not dependant on external events to make you happy so much as whether or not your actions reflect your values. You are not responsible for saving the world, only for doing what you can. You have to have a certain amount of trust that things WILL turn out alright in the end to be this way, of course. If you believe in God, that's where He comes in. If you don't, then you can still be comforted by the thought that life is resilient. Despite living in a world that doesn't care much about us or our wishes one way or another, we have made it this far. If the past is any indication, then Life has what it takes to continue living, no matter what the world throws at us.

Let me say one more time that you do not have to resign yourself to anything to live in a state of nonattachment. Change will come to our country and the world no matter what we do. The Neocons cannot control people through fear and lies forever, just as people cannot keep polluting the planet forever. Reality will catch up with them. And when it does, more and more people will see that we have to change the way we run our media, our government, our very way of life, or perish altogether. But until that day comes, we do what we can. We clean up the streams and rivers in our backyards. We educate ourselves and other people in our lives. We help elect people who share our values and compassion for others. We live our lives. And I mean that we LIVE our lives!

We enjoy the little things that bring us joy. The warm sun on our bare skin, the taste of a really good meal, the pleasure of good company, all of these are things we can enjoy even in the darkest hours. The universe could have been made so that such things didn’t bring us pleasure. There is no reason why a flower HAS to be beautiful, or sex MUST feel as good as it does. Miraculously though, it is and it does! Try and remember that when things are rough, and you’ll do just fine. And when you catch yourself enjoying life, say a quick thank you. Thank the universe for being the way it is, and yourself for being the way you are, which is good enough on both accounts.
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Jim Warren Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 10:52 AM
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1. Well.........OK
Thanks, need all the peptalk I can get right now.

Been having visions of the main character in that older Herzog film STROSZEK, watching the chicken perform in the glass cage.
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Daphne08 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 10:54 AM
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2. Excellent post!
:)
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BeFree Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 10:54 AM
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3. I can dig that.
Can you dig this: Be dispassionately compassionate with your compassion.

It sorta means to look at life (with all it's cares and worries) with a disconnection of emotion while being emotionally involved in the outcome.

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I Have A Dream Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 10:58 AM
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4. Great post, oxbow. I wholeheartedly agree. n/t
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helderheid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:01 AM
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5. I needed this today - thank you very much!
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RethugAssKicker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:10 AM
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6. I hear ya'.. but
I think because we came to exist in this universe, on this planet, we naturally will find our planets treasures as beautiful, because we are of them. Thats all we know. As for sex , life forces had to make it feel good rather than not, in order for the desire to pro-create to continue.



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oxbow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:15 AM
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8. Yes, isn't it wonderful?
Edited on Thu Apr-27-06 11:36 AM by oxbow
Whatever the reason why, isn't it wonderful to just be alive now?

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helderheid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:16 AM
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10. hey you
:hug:
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ItsTheMediaStupid Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 12:53 PM
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13. Thanks, I was getting pretty discouraged.
I had a conversation with my ten year old daughter a couple of weeks ago.

We talked about the environment, global warming and politics.

This little girl calls Hummers a big waste of metal.

I had a hard time balancing her need to know the truth about the situation against my fear of scaring her to death. The message I got from you was that we should do what we can while accepting the limits of our control over all this madness. Above all, we should always take time to stop and smell the flowers.
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jokerman93 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 02:59 PM
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17. It is! It is! It is!
Edited on Thu Apr-27-06 03:00 PM by jokerman93
Wonderful to be alive right now! I have to second that. :-)

Some people say that chaos and loss can often accompany big changes in perspective. It's that "rose on its ladder of thorns" thing.

I have no doubt that in some way our whole world civilization is responding to the events of the last five years, and important questions are beginning to be asked by many of us. I do share a lot of the feeling in your OP oxbow (a good essay I think!) because for the last few years I've found myself cherishing the small, everyday things in my life as never before. The ordinary stuff. Friends, family, my wife, our cat, the view from our living room window, good nourishing food, exercise, (plenty of great "primordial swampy" sex ;-) ), fresh air (when we get it) and colorful dreams!

Why? No doubt part of it has been because it's become so clear how fragile life can be and how interdependent we all are. I think the war, the Asian earthquake, and tsunami started it for me. Then Katrina hit and I realized what a rudderless ship this country has become. That's when I started turning back to appreciating my own life with new eyes and new feeling.

Although I'm not much of a real "believer" either way, I've found my attention shifting more to the things and people I value most in my life and getting my "meaning" from really enjoying and being grateful for all of them. And I do see that as spiritual in many ways.

There really is something to that old idea of treating each day, each choice as if it were the last.

It's something about...living. :think: Yeah. That's the ticket!

And I also like how you speak to a range of perspectives from religious to secular - such an unnecessary point of conflict. It's true we all have much more in common than we usually think. That's part of what can make us strong, if we let it. Please do keep it coming oxbow!
:hippie:
J

edited for: the hell of it
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IChing Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:11 AM
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7. Thank you, I think the nation is going through an" Oxbow incident"
Edited on Thu Apr-27-06 11:18 AM by IChing

Well written piece that brings peace

All things must Pass
Now the darkness only stays the night-time
In the morning it will fade away
Daylight is good at arriving at the right time
It's not always going to be this grey

All things must pass
All things must pass away
All things must pass
All things must pass away
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oxbow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:27 AM
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12. I love the lyrics you posted!
I'll have to get the George Harrison album.

Yea, when things are at their rawest and roughest, it always soothes me to remember that "this too shall pass." Even in good times, this too shall pass. So instead of clinging, I try to just savor the moment and the emotions as long as they will stay. Showing gratitude can help prolong those good feelings too, so I'm definitely making that a conscious practice these days.

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havocmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:15 AM
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9. Thanks for the reminder. Freedom is an activity, not just a word
I am only as free as I decide to be.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 11:18 AM
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11. Thanks, oxbow. All sentiments none of us should forget! nt
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SteppingRazor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 01:26 PM
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14. In other words, this is the best of all possible worlds?
Hmmm...

I got a great book for ya:



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DemExpat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 02:20 PM
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15. Kick for a great post.....
thanks, oxbow. :thumbsup:

:hug: :kick:

DemEx
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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 02:36 PM
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16. What an inspiring post! Thanks Much...on this gloomy,rainy day...
:-)'s Much there to think about.
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abester Donating Member (120 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 03:05 PM
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18. A-hem....
Edited on Thu Apr-27-06 03:10 PM by abester
"China has been growing at phenomenal rates, and will outshine the US both economically and militarily in the next decade or so"

So? Does the USA somehow have a monopoly on prosperity? Or does it say somewhere the US must always be #1 economically or millitarily? No offense, but thats just the kind of arrogant tone people around the world are tired of.

America (and Europe) may act as if the worlds resources (including slavery) belong to them, and only them, and give the Big Finger to the rest of humanity, I for one am very willing to give up a very large chunk of my living standard so that my fellow human beings in Africa or India aren't starving to death.
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oxbow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 06:07 PM
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21. the world's resources belong to the world
however, it will take some time for Americans to get used to everything that that entails. We are no longer THE superpower, and nothing will change that at this point.

I didn't seek to make a value judgmement here, abester, more of a practical, and perhaps environmental one. Having said that, welcome to DU :)
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BrklynLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 04:06 PM
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19. Thank you..
I am printing this out and hanging it up to look at every day.
:thumbsup: :hi:
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madrchsod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 04:10 PM
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20. we have our prophets
we just have to listen to them not the inner voices of demons
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MarinCoUSA Donating Member (783 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 09:26 PM
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22. I WILL NOT LIVE IN FEAR!
The addling of our collective nation psyche started with the 2000 Supreme Court- with a warm up of impeachment!
Very good past
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ToolTex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-27-06 09:36 PM
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23. Well..............OK. Don't worry. Be Happy. I do feel better now
that I'm reminded that at least the bacteria will survive. Probably.
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LaurenG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-28-06 12:52 PM
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24. Thanks Oxbow
I'm sorry I missed this earlier!
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Dystopian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-28-06 02:20 PM
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25. Thank you...
What I really needed to hear....And also, thank you to the wonderful person who forwarded this to me in case I missed it...
Your words of enlightenment are greatly appreciated...I concentrate on the negative too much.....Need to look at the beauty in life...
Words of wisdom and simple truths....
PEACE~
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