Wrecked or neglected neglected cars into junk, got within inches of a long prison sentence, easily frustrated with a bit of a temper (never directed toward any being or destructive), yet at the same time a very caring and considerate kid. In the decade of independent living he decided to get a GED in order to get into a two year Herbalism program in order to supplement the encyclopedic knowledge of plants and their ecology, lore and uses that he had been compiling on his own through devouring every book that had anything to add. As you can see from that site, his connection to the world of nature is is genuine.
Older sister (now brother) was the exact opposite in some respects, hyper achiever, tops in everything, brilliantly curious and loved the effort of learning, now married with one kid and beginning another, currently doing PhD work at Berkeley, a GBLTQ activist (and on other issues) and invited to meet with Michelle Obama for his work in the campaign.
At the same time he was living in the mountains around Boulder, cart-wrangling in the parking lot of the Whole Foods store there ("I'd rather be outside"), despite attempts to move him up in the hierarchy, and doing the money counts at the end of his shift because he was so highly trusted. Decided to move back to the NW and is now working 15 hrs a week at a B&B in the San Juan Islands in exchange for B&B and the time to explore, and experience what those recent pix show.
Yet they both were taking different paths in the same direction. Both went through the same sequence of public schools, with us as parents picking the most flexible ones, which all did a good job of accommodating the needs and facilitating the aspirations of both. Jonathan Kozol was pictured in the paper with Kid#1 in an article in which he praised that elementary school program. Both are vegetarian, mostly but not dogmatically, and are best friends. Two sides of the best of the progressive movements of the movements of the 60's. Better than the best in some ways. Both dressed hippy-style in HS and have said they felt they would fit in better then, but both are doing better work in some ways than those two aspects of the movement did then - building on the lessons.
A slight misstep or poor decision by either at the wrong time and place and either or both could have ended up in a world of pain. Now I'm boasting about my kids, but every time I feel so fortunate and glad they've survived so well I feel the words and music of Phil Ochs. It's about "you or I" but it is also about out kids.:
Following is from the one truly honest Phil Ochs Lyrics site:
http://web.cecs.pdx.edu/~trent/ochs/lyrics.htmlThere but for Fortune
by Phil Ochs
Intro:
Show me a prison, show me a jail,
Show me a prisoner whose face has gone pale
And I'll show you a young man with so many reasons why
And there but for fortune, may go you or I
Show me the alley, show me the train,
Show me a hobo who sleeps out in the rain,
And I'll show you a young man with so many reasons why
There but for fortune, may go you or go I -- you and I.
Show me the whiskey stains on the floor,
Show me the drunken man as he stumbles out the door,
And I'll show you a young man with so many reasons why
There but for fortune, may go you or go I -- you and I.
Show me the famine, show me the frail
Eyes with no future that show how we failed
And I'll show you the children with so many reasons why
There but for fortune, go you or I.
Show me the country where bombs had to fall,
Show me the ruins of buildings once so tall,
And I'll show you a young land with so many reasons why
There but for fortune, go you or go I -- you and I.
You and I,
There but for fortune, go you or go I -- you and I.
Here's the 90 second video of Ochs performing that song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTjRPugJ8CA
Well, time to stop my very slow typing because I'm close to recommending/linking to every Ochs song on that Lyrics site and on youtube, and that is way off topic.