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I'm going to do something I rarely do here and be honest about how I really feel.
My life sucks. It sucks so much that I can barely force myself out of bed most afternoons (I usually sleep right through the morning) in order to start my day. I am someone who has failed at all of the important aspects of life and someone who tortures himself with his failures.
I am a father of a five year old boy. I am twenty three years old. I have not seen my son since I was twenty. I lived a very unhappy life with his mother and we broke up - I wanted something more for my family, we were always broke, always struggling for money. I was never able to hold on to a job, on those rare occasions when I found them. Dishwashing and telemarketing, odd jobs.
I met her on the internet years ago, she lived in South Dakota and I in maine - she came here to live with me for two years, then I spent a year with her. We lived with my parents, with her parents, in an apartment, in a few different houses. We had two children - her daughter and our son. (Biologically speaking)
I left South Dakota three years ago to go back to Maine and build a life, a future for myself. I failed miserably. I've applied for dozens, perhaps hundreds of jobs. I failed to get a job at Mcdonalds and Burger King. I didn't even get called in for an interview. No criminal record - GED educated.
So I decided to do the thing I dreaded and go to school. I applied at a small University up here in Maine (Fort Kent) and I liked it, things seemed to be going well. I wanted to be a psychiatrist. A week before school was to start I had a breakdown. Sudden, constant panic attacks, in a constant state of high anxiety (acute, that's what they call it isn't it?) and could do nothing but fret that I was about to die. Or go mad.
I couldn't read, I couldn't watch movies, I couldn't focus on anything for an extended period of time. Every minute of every day was fear, and dread, and more fear, and more dread. Instead of going to school I spent what would have been the first week in a crisis center. I was put back on medication (I'd gotten off of it three months before).
Over time (it's been over a year now) I have slowly regained my ability to focus. The panic attacks have all but vanished. They have been replaced by a feeling of intense depression, apathy, self hatred. I despise myself for my failure to support my son. I despise myself for leaving him - I despise myself for being unmotivated and uninspired. I despise myself for smoking - my parents buy them for me, I have no job, couldn't do it myself.
I despise my medications because I feel they have numbed me, I despise myself because I cannot cry, and I rarely laugh at anything.
I have a girlfriend... not entirely sure how that happened, that lives in Boston and am supposed to visit her on Friday. For a week. I was supposed to quit smoking (she demanded it) and I couldn't handle the withdrawal. I despise myself for letting her down. She doesn't believe in mental illness, tells me every time I complain that I'm feeling sorry for myself. Maybe I am, maybe she is right. Now she tells me she won't allow me to smoke while I'm there. It almost convinced me not to go, now I admit that I am wodnering if I can manage to be sneaky about it.
Every day I do the same things over and over again. I play games or read books to take my mind off of how bad life sucks. I come to the forums here and read to distract myself from my own life. I am unproductive, I am unhappy, I am constantly tired and feel like nothing will ever change. I am a complete waste of a human being.
I want to change, but I'm too damn lazy to try. I want to care, but something blocks my heart and I can't even cry. I want to live, but I feel like I'm the walking dead.
I hate myself and I hate my life and I know I should stop kicking myself but I can't. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I alone in the universe? God life sucks.
At the moment, I'm debating whether or not to get drunk. I never drink, but somehow today my depression has just sucked even worse than usual. My girlfriend yelled at me for failing to quit smoking, maybe that was it. I promised her I would you see, but I broke that promise because I'm weak and lazy.
Yes, alcohol is looking very, very good.
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