Am I going to abuse my light requests?

[teenagebambam]

Thanks all, for the light for my beagle

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=245x65040)

He is feeling much better!

Now for another request - my neice's live-in boyfriend of four years has just broken up with her, after sleeping with his secretary (how cliche!) and telling my sister he had just "checked out" of the relationship and "fell out of love". He also neglected to add her to the deed of the house after dragging his feet about it for at least two years (and now we know why he was dragging his feet, obviously). So, basically, she's screwed, hundreds of miles from any family and no where to go, and stuck in her geographic location because of shared custody of her daughter (the boyfriend's not the father).

My neice visited with me and other family this weekend, she's REALLY broken up - for some reason this guy is the love of her life, and she thought she was the love of his, and she's REALLY having a hard time dealing with things.

Boyfriend continues to take advantage of her - (yes, I know he can't take advantage of her without her consent, but....) like the past two days, when he was home sick from work, and Neice was taking care of him AND watching his son, and all the while he's texting the secretary cutesy little love messages.

I'M having a hard time not only in cosoling beice, but in trying to stay out of things, resisting the urge to send intelligently-worded but venom-filled emails to boyfriend and his secretary, things like that.

So....light, advice, understanding....I don't know what I'm asking for exactly!

[Metta]

1. You don't realize you have the ability to to what you want.

Hasn't anyone told you that? Just ask your favorite saints and deities for whatever that is, with the qualifier "in a manner --- can handle," or something like that otherwise they'll feel attacked from the enslaught of good vibes. For real. Just look at the middle east. Lots of prayers resulted in war.

You can also ask that the light go where it's needed. If you say "Thank you," you grease the wheels in making that happen.

Best regards.

[teenagebambam]

2. I know that intellectually.....

....it's just that my emotions are having trouble accepting it. I am very empathetic, I guess, and my soul is crying out for vengeance on my neice's behalf!

[Metta]

7. Your emotions reflect your attachments and agendas.

If you ask vengence, you tie yourself into the karma of all of that and she may not benefit. If you surrender it all up, then it gets handled as best as it can be and everyone benefits.

[I Have A Dream]

3. I'm happy to send light whenever and wherever you need it, teenagebambam.

I will send light and energy to your niece to help her to deal with this situation and to realize that she's going to be OK so that she can rebuild her life without this man.

I will send light to you to help you to resist interacting with her ex-partner and so that you can find balance again. (It's extremely difficult when someone that we love is hurt.)

:hug: to both you and your niece.

[teenagebambam]

4. Thanks!

Okay, enough of my pity party. Partner and I are off to Montana today to sing in a music festival. If anyone's near Missoula or Helena and wants to drop by, here's some info!

http://www.earlymusiccolorado.org/MEMF.html

[ayeshahaqqiqa]

5. as the Lakota say

May she learn her lessons in a good way.

Love and Light.

[stellanoir]

6. Just wondering how pray tell that would be at all possible

and what would be the results?

Sunburn?

Lightening strikes?

Or perchance. . . total enlightenment?

Don't sweat it.

The folks in here are always happy to help.

Sending light.

[BlueIris]

8. 1) Don't beat yourself up for asking for help. As votesomemore once

posted, "If you don't know how to ask (for yourself) you have no busines offering it to others." So asking is important. 2) While anger is a normal response to someone screwing over a loved one in this way, I would restrain myself from expressing that anger to the boyfriend. Especially not via e-mail. That's just asking for trouble to be visited upon you, possibly in the form of legal problems. And the boyfriend will get his. You can't treat people the way he treated your niece and expect to have a happy life.

[Why Syzygy]

9. wow . what a memory you have.

I'm pretty blunt, aren't I? That's Leo, right? ;)

[BlueIris]

11. Well, that was a memorable line.

:-)

[Why Syzygy]

12. haha . memorable .. and you are remembering things ... hmm

We really do have quite a supply of memory recalls. In the Shamanic path, material situations can be changed by mentally using the memories which lead to the situation in certain ways.
I know that sentence doesn't make sense .. but I'm a few steps from my pillow. Have to look at it tomorrow.

I love the way I remember in dreams. What the memory is, how does it apply and what is it telling me. I have dreams spaced out over years but are linked to memories of prior dreams and prior landscapes.

I wanted to think about/discuss what we can do with memories too. Change them in some way to gain deeper insight. NLP has techniques that can be used this way. There are others.

It sounds like you've found something that is pleasurable. Do you think you are traveling a path that leads to a stronger connection with yourself? Does it feel like reclaiming *forgotten* memories. But memories with much fuller impact than the norm?

I enjoy reading what you have to say about this happening.

[rumpel]

10. she is probably a "common law wife", in legal terms

please check it out. I believe each state has different interpretations - she is not lost or stuck, ok!? To me this would be a better way to address your disgust and potential anger.

As for her hurting I trust it will take some time but something truly great is coming her way.

Light, strength and love to you, your sister and your niece.