Have you ever "seen" someone who instantly rubs you the wrong way?

[Blue_Roses]

I go to the library to use the computer a lot these days and there is this one guy--who I've never talked to--that bugs the crap out of me. He's almost always in there the same times I am, even though I go at various times. He's never been rude to me and I have no reason to be annoyed by him, but for some reason, his energy is different and it's all I can do to work when he's on a computer next to me.

I had a professor once tell me that indeed our body chemistry does repel and attract certain people. Some people you are just instantly drawn to and others, well, it's like this guy.

I'm a pretty happy-go-lucky person, for the most part (unless it involves irrational right wingers) and I don't like feeling this way.

What are your thoughts on this?

[Celebration]

1. I don't like feeling that way either

Yeah, people bug me sometimes for no apparent reason. Usually it is after I have spoken to them, though. But you see this guy so much that it is understandable. I'm pretty happy go lucky too. I guess it is an incompatible energy field thing.

I really get annoyed with myself for doing it. But it is more that I don't care to talk to someone rather than not want to sit by them. There are some people that I just cannot have a conversation with--and don't care to. But I can't really pinpoint a reason.

[conscious evolution]

2. Try this the next time he is around

Change your directional orientation to him.
If you are both facing the same way turn so you are facing either the opposite direction or ninety degrees from the direction he is facing.
If you are facing each other turn the same direction he is facing or ninty degrees away.

This is something I learned through mayan astrology and how it relates to synergistic forms.It actually works for me quite often.YMMV.

[Blue_Roses]

8. but what if you're at a station

that has the computer's facing one another! I hate the way they have these computer's arranged. They are on long, wide, tables and they face one another. It just seems we have no privacy.

[conscious evolution]

10. In that case

Try standing close by and see how it feels.
If you are still getting creeped out then just stay as far away as possible.

[MorningGlow]

3. Sure, it happens fairly often

And it's definitely a vibrational thing. Some people we resonate with, some not so much, and some just are like nails on a blackboard to our energy field.

I have one "illogical nemesis" in my life right now. She's a parent of a kid at my son's school. We both drive our kids to school, so I see her every day, but her son must be older, because she doesn't have to go into the school to get him at the end of the day (K-2 kids have to be signed out in the office, but the older kids can just walk outside to their parents' cars).

She has long black hair, wears black all the time, and drives a black Jeep Commander (the one that looks like a Hummer H3) that is always gleaming, never dirty. All that black doesn't disturb me--hell, I'm a witch, I'm used to it (although I'm sure that's not the reason she wears black)--but when I'm in a bad mood, I swear it's because she doesn't have enough creativity to employ color in her life. Now...what?! Why in the world would I presume such a terrible thing about a person I don't even know? But the chick irritates me for no reason.

It also irritates me that she never smiles and never says even a small polite "hello" to anyone. This is a very small district, a very small village; people say hello to total strangers nonstop, on the street, at the market, at the gas station, and especially on school grounds. But not this one. Again, irritating.

It also irritates me that she doesn't park in one of the parking spaces to wait for her kid; there are always plenty available, but she always pulls up to the curb right in front of the doors, which makes it difficult for those of us who have parked to back out of our spaces. Again, irritating.

And one day I practically ran her over intentionally when she blocked the one-way drive in front of the school by standing there, talking to another parent who was in their car, and never moved, keeping the rest of us from parking and going in to get our kids, till she was done with her casual conversation.

Now, the woman could be a latter-day Mother Theresa for all I know, but her energy has repelled me from the very first day I saw her, so all these little irritants turn into big irritants for me. When I feel annoyed with her, I try to neutralize it. Some days I'm successful, other days not so much. :shrug:

[Blue_Roses]

7. How are you doing?

sending good vibes:hug:

sounds like she's proud of that Hummer! (ugh) There's a couple of parents like that at my daughter's school too. One guy in this big Ford truck was behind me honking to go, but I couldn't go, because I was jammed in the middle of another parent in a Suburban who wouldn't get the hell out of the way! :argh: I looked around and thought--how did we get so lazy and why aren't these kids walking home--starting with mine! I had to walk home from school--carrying a band instrument to boot!

[MorningGlow]

13. LOL when I reread my post

I realized that maybe there was an entire laundry list of reasons for me not to like her!
:rofl:

But there are other quirky and even annoying people I've met who don't rub me the wrong way like she does--they never provide any reason for me to dislike them, yet I do. (And, of course, it goes the other way, too, when some people don't like me without ever having met me.)

Oh man, don't get me started on lazy kids! This village is so small that all the kids in town could actually walk to school, but only a few do. I actually saw a kid getting on a school bus at his house that was LITERALLY three houses down from the school! :banghead: Something about not wanting children to cross "busy" roads--but the only road he'd have to cross, if he walked, would be the driveway to the school!

Thanks for the vibes--doing all right lately--busy, though. You? :hug:

[southerncrone]

14. I would think you dislike her because she seem self-absorbed & selfish!

Don't like to prejudge usually, but she sounds like the quintessential Repuke. The type of behavior you say she exhibits is classical passive attention-seeking behavior (i.e. blocking numerous others' paths while she casually yaks, deliberately parking in the firelane, like she's too good to follow the rules, the all one color thing....especially black which is known to be THE power color, snubbing others, etc. Sounds like she's operating straight out of the neocon play book. She's rubbing me the wrong way, too. I've had many similar parents who did exactly the same thing at my kids' school. I think they have major problems with self worth deep down.

[Missy Vixen]

4. Oh, yeah

I'm sure they don't like me, either. ;-) Mostly, I avoid them. It's almost like they give off something I can't wait to get away from.

Happily, it's the best thing ever when it happens the other way. I know it's a little weird, but I met a person over the summer that had the most joyous, caring, easygoing, welcoming manner. It was a great experience.

[Blue_Roses]

6. exactly!

there are times, when I meet someone who I feel I've been best friends with all my life, yet I've never laid eyes on them! My professor was talking to us about this and there's even a book written on it that she held up to the class (we were "encouraged" to read it--of course, I didn't :eyes:) and I wish I knew the name of it now.

She said (my professor) that she went to a seminar on this and while signing in, she had that "ugh" feeling about the lady signing them in and she didn't know why. However, while standing in that very same line, there was a man across the room she made eye contact with who was staring at her. They smiled and eventually met (not sure what happened after that though;) This was in the early 1980's so I'm sure there have been more books written on this. I guess I need to do some searching!

[get the red out]

5. Yes

There is a guy that works in the mail area at the university where I work and I kind of shudder every time I have to deal with the guy. I have felt this way for years, it's like I feel that the guy is on edge somehow, or irritable. I am always very nice to him though, so I have no guilt. I think we can sense stuff going on with other people and our natural warning system advises caution. I think we are all empathic to a certain extent, I know I am, and we just have to sort that out as a part of what we are born with, just another sense. It is neither bad nor good, it just is and can be utilized.

[Blue_Roses]

9. that's great that you are nice...

I think it breaks the negative energy. I was bound and determined to not let a neighbor get to me who was always cranky, so I kept saying "hi, how are ya," and finally, we got in a discussion about my rose bushes and how to trim them back. It helped and now they smile and speak. :)

[Fire Walk With Me]

11. Certainly. I seem to have a 100% repulsion rate with Afrikaaner men.

White South African nationals. May have only met the wrong ones over the years, however. One SA woman was nice, however, in contrast.

On the other end of the stick, I have met four or five folks from Iran. All are high-quality persons, one or two extremely high-quality.

My intuition on disliking people is pretty much always proven correct.

[Eurobabe]

12. 80-20 rule, learned it in sales

80% of people will like you, 20% won't -- and of those 20% it is for no specific reason. Can't be explained, can't be changed. They just don't like you.

Probably is body chemistry, who knows, every once in awhile I've felt the hairs go up on the back of my neck regarding someone, just an instant dislike. Ditto here too, I am a pretty easy-going, non-judgmental person too, so it feels kind of strange to have this reaction.

[southerncrone]

15. I have this happen all the time.

I think it is a built-in protection mechanism. When I was younger w/more free time, I'd often investigate the individual further. That paid off, as one of these became a life-long friend & the other is MY HUSBAND of 25 years! Yep. True story.
Now that I'm older & extremely busy, I don't tend to spend the time now because I just can't afford to.

I think there are numerous elements at work here:
1) People subconsciously give off the vibe they want the rest of the world to see
2) We are in a certain mood the first time we encounter the individual & first-impressions color future encounters.
3) How they smell influences us. I have a very keen sense of smell, & as a result know that each person has their own unique smell. Just like some of us are attracted to some smells, while repulsed by others, the same is true for how other people smell. Example: Some like the smell of horses, some detest that smell. Pheromones (?sp) are powerful triggers to emotional reactions. That's what the world of perfume is based on.

This is just my very unscientific theory.

[SeattleGirl]

16. That happens to me now and then.

It really bothers me when I have a really negative reaction to someone and I have no discernable reason for it. I have had some very visceral reactions to a few people, some of whom I've never even been in the same room with, and unfortunately (for many people), that reaction was telling me a truth about the person. The worst reaction to anybody I ever had was to George W. Bush. The first time I saw him on TV, I literally recoiled at the site of him, and we all know what damage he ended up doing to the country and the world.

On the other side of things, I have also had some extremely positive reactions to people from the moment I laid eyes on them, and some of those people are friends of mine to this day.

In reading this thread, I have to say I agree with the energies talk. I think there are people we react positively or negatively to based on our inner or higher selves, and there are many people we don't react to one way or the other.

It's interesting, for sure.

[Myrina]

17. Yes, I have. In fact, even without seeing them ...

... 2 years ago I was working from home one day and had to call in to a dept staff meeting, during which our new Network Manager was introduced (it was his first day on the job). Just listeing to him got all my hackles up and I immediately knew we were going to have 'karmic problems'.

Turns out he's a total fundie xenophobic whackjob sneaky lying arrogant know-nothing with about a 6th grade intellect.

I couldn't stand to even be in the same room as him - everything about him triggered every bad nerve in my being.

I have long since left that job and have heard he has been demoted to a Tech (why he hasn't been fired, I don't know).

[peacetalksforall]

18. I've had it happen many times, but I only distinctly remember one - I had a physical

of the reactions. I saw the person in a relatively small room with others around and I was immediately uncomfortable. He passed very close to me and I froze. I felt all ice. As he approached, I became cold, then icy, as he left I returned to normal, but was uncomfortable. I asked people who were with me if they felt him. They just teased me.

I never forgot it. I told myself that I didn't think his eyes were real eyes, that there was something empty inside.

It never happened again.

Recently, I have become ultra sensitive to voices. I want to keep listening to some to figure out why I'm drawn to them and why I feel comfort. I want to run from others. I notice it more on the radio and tv, not so much around me. When I'm drawn, I feel like I've been with those with the voice I like before - lived with and around them.

An example, not a perfect one - but one whose voice provides somewhat of an example is Alan Grayson - House of Representatives. It took me until the second time I heard him to figure out that I wasn't listening to what he said, I was concentrating on his voice. It draws me, it seems honest.

There is a local voice on Air America - someone doing her own advertisement. I can't bear it and in addition, I have guessed that she is not honest.

I am quite disciplined about making snap judgements. I learned early that I was often wrong. The voice thing is is all new to me. But, the ice man incident was about seven or eight years ago. I never heard his voice except at a distance and it didn't seem weird, but there was a brassy attitude. Maybe I gave off ice to him, also.

[northernlights]

19. Occasionally it happens f2f

and on those occasions it has been a dead-on reaction as they were creepy people, one who office-stalked me for a year and another who office-stalked the hr manager to the point where the ops director ensured that she was never in the building alone when the creep (company co-founder) was around.

More often I find it happens by email, phone and web-postings, not with out and out flames, but with more subtle, often passive-aggressive behavior. In fact, it's been happening off-and-on here for a year now, with somebody "stalking" my energy in postings and in IMs.

In all cases, I feel it physically, in a creepy way, in my aura. Usually around my solar plexus, but in the case of my office stalker I could feel him approaching me when he was about 10 feet away (I still remember the time I was photocopying and felt the creepy feeling on my back. I turned around and there he was 10 feet behind me. :puke:) I also had a former boss who would "smother" me with his aura. That was all over me. :puke: :puke: :puke:.

It's one of the things wearing me down at my current job, where I have to deal on the phone with the public in 5 hour non-stop stretches. Most of the people, no matter how irate, yelling, swearing they are being, just don't "touch" me. But others leave me feeling dirty and violated. :puke:

And some have a more insidious effect. There is no feeling on the f2f with my boss or certain people I work with. But hours later, it creeps up on me.

The nightly smudging is helping. But I wish I could trade places with MG right now -- I'd be happy to be home alone with only my "babies" 24x7 except for errands x(