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Bickering, bloodsport of siblings
You should worry if your kids aren't squabbling, say the experts. Home is the lab where children can try out behaviors.
By Robin Greene Hagey
Special to The Times
March 17, 2005
There's a reason the Felicity Huffman character on ABC's hit show "Desperate Housewives" has resonated with viewers, no doubt a good many of them parents. She's the one who went from high-powered career woman to stay-at-home mom with four kids, three of them out-of-control boys who do nothing but argue, fight and generally wreak havoc wherever they go.
The incessant sound of their children's bickering can drive many real-life parents to play a game of "Can you top this?" with other parents who are constantly victimized by this verbal swordplay. Kids fight over who has to clear the table, feed the fish, answer the phone. You name it — nothing is too small.
Yet as much as parents hate it and children see it as a sport, you should worry if your children aren't squabbling, say experts (who may not have to endure this behavior on an hourly basis).
"Bickering is a perfectly natural phenomenon," said Charlotte Brantley, director of PBS' Ready to Learn program, a government-funded initiative that complements public broadcasting with programs that prepare children for school. "If kids don't ever argue or bicker, you have to wonder if things are OK. Kids are jockeying for position and parental attention. This is their own little laboratory to test out behaviors in a safe environment."
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