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TEmperorHasNoClothes Donating Member (356 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-30-08 09:20 PM
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Postive LGBT thread
I noticed that many of the posts are negative or about the unjustices we still have.
I thought a positive thread about people and government doing things positive in our community might be a nice pick me up.

I'll start:

My 99 year old grandmother is still with it. Unfortuantely, her short term memory is almost nonexistent, which isn't uncommon at her age. She often repeats herself and asks the same questions over and over again.
Here's a frequent conversation between us.

her: Why don't you find a nice man to settledown with.
me: Remember, Gram, I'm gay. I'm looking for a nice woman (not really looking, but it makes her happy if I say I am)
her: Oh. that's ok, as long as your happy.

I've had the same conversation about a dozen times, sometimes more than once on the same day. She's really progressive for someone who's lived almost a century.
She voted for Barack in person, not absentee. Every time I called her during the campaign she said, "I think he might be black." as if it was something she was just discovering.

Who's else has positive or funny LGBT stories?
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-30-08 09:40 PM
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1. a gay friend of mine
when he "came out" to his parents (his last year of college) - they laughed and said, sheesh, they'd known since he was, oh, five. When he asked why they'd never said anything they said, well, it wasn't their place, they were waiting for him to say something. Then his mom told his dad to pay up because she'd won the bet on when he would come out. LOLOL.
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Ioo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-30-08 11:18 PM
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2. My Mom said the same thing.. then she stopped talking to me for a year.
She said she was not shocked... but because I am the only living kid she was (selfishly) mad and disappointed
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-30-08 11:47 PM
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4. awful
:(
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-30-08 11:51 PM
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5. cute story
I wonder what the right thing to do in this senario actually is. I think I would tell my kid that if he is gay it would be OK and make sure they actually know that. Then hope nature takes its course.
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TEmperorHasNoClothes Donating Member (356 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 07:38 AM
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10. taking bets-- LOL that's GREAT!
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Ioo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-30-08 11:22 PM
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3. That is sweet... I will share mine...
As I said my mom had an issue with it, but we got over it and we are very close... we did not tell my dad (my stepdad, but he has been in my life for 7 years old). I SO did not want to tell him, I looked up to him and really did not want to disappoint him... I was 20 ish...

So my mother said, "we are going out for dinner, you need to tell your dad" So... I was all nervous, we were heading to the car and I looked at my dad... I said, "I have something to tell you..." He stopped me and said "Yah, you like to such ****, big deal lets eat"

My mother was floored... I am not even sure what I helf
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 12:11 AM
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6. Sweet story.
Edited on Wed Dec-31-08 12:12 AM by bluedawg12
My mom has dementia too. Short term memory is not so hot. But, she has always liked my partner - more than me, I think. LOL. You know how that goes with parents and kids. heh heh heh.

My mom has a crush on Rahm Emanuel, so we have a photocopy from Newsweek of Saint Rahm over her bed. :rofl:

As people age, many seem to shed the burden of silly superficial stuff, they just know it's more important to have people around them that love them, than worry about who we all fall in love with.
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yardwork Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 01:19 AM
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7. I'm not surprised that your 99 year old grandmother is so progressive.
That was a very progressive generation. Women had just won the right to vote. They valued education and careers. Women's colleges were founded. There were female aviators, female tennis stars, female physicists. There were lots of "Boston marriages."

Things got ugly because of the Great Depression and then World War II, which set women's rights and everyone else's rights back. We still haven't fully recovered.

My story. When I told my mom that I was going to leave my husband of 20+ years, she said, sadly, that she knew I hadn't been happy. Then I took a deep breath and said, "Mom, it's because I'm a lesbian." There was a pause and then she said, "I wouldn't have thought of that." And then she and my sister were absolutely, totally, 100% cool and have been to this day.

Honorable mention to my boss. When I told her why I was separating she said, "When you find that va-va-voom you gotta go for it!"
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 01:33 AM
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8. That's true, I forgot about that, but watching some early 1930's movies
they sure were wild, outspoken and pretty darn progressive compared to the adults in the 1950's.

Women were wise cracking and independent and tough.

I think when the GI's came home, America settled into this suburbia, nesting mode to make up for lost time.

When I see some rw women today, they still seem locked into that 1950's mentality and look, as though that was the epitome of Americana.

"Boston marriages," LOL! I forgot about that euphemism. I guess they just thought it was a good solution of how to solve that "extra" daughter who never got married off and and of course women weren't sexual so there were no other suspicions.
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TEmperorHasNoClothes Donating Member (356 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 07:41 AM
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11. good point!
Over the campaign cycle I asked her about suffrage and she remembered women banging pots and pans in the streets when they got the right to vote.
I love your mom's "I wouldn't h ave thought of that" response. LOL.
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 03:27 AM
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9. LaWanda Jean
Edited on Wed Dec-31-08 03:28 AM by Jamastiene
I still love her to this day. She was attracted but didn't fall in love back. Total heartbreak. She was the most compassionate, amazing woman I have ever met. She is the positive I have had in my life. Even though it didn't last and didn't work out, it was actually still a positive story. I wouldn't trade that 2 years with her for anything, not even all the money in this world. I am thankful for the time I did have with her.

The rest of my story (outside of her) is all violence, pain, rejection, misery, and heartache due to fundamentalist Christian hatred.
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racaulk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-31-08 01:39 PM
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12. Lemme tell y'all about my friend Suzanne...
Suzanne is a good friend of mine from college. She is originally from Jamaica and she has dark features – dark hair, dark brown eyes, and olive colored skin. She was a total art school geek, D&D-playing goth kid, and very openly gay. She’s very spiritual, is Wiccan, and is very open about her atheism and her hatred of any organized religion, especially Christianity. Most of her clothing were of very dark colors – you wouldn’t dare find anything pink, yellow, or white in her wardrobe.

On coming back to school one Fall semester, Suzanne found herself placed with a roommate (who I'll call "roomie") in her residence hall who was a devout, fundamentalist Southern Baptist who slept with a Bible next to her bed. Needless to say, roomie didn’t care for Suzanne too much. About a week into the semester, roomie told Suzanne to her face that she didn’t approve of her “lifestyle choices,” that she would pray every night for her, and that God had chosen them to live together as a way to test roomie’s faith. Well, Suzanne decided on the spot that she was done with that crap.

Roomie had a night class on Monday nights that semester. Suzanne called about 8 of her gay friends (myself included) to come to her room the next Monday night, and we were instructed to dress all in black. About a half hour before roomie was supposed to get out of her class, we turned off the lights in Suzanne’s room, lit some candles and incense, and started watching “Beetlejuice.” When roomie got back to the room and opened the door, the nine of us didn’t say a word. We, in unison, just turned our heads and stared at her.

Roomie slammed the door, ran down the hall screaming, spent the night somewhere else, and requested a room transfer the next day. Suzanne said by the time she got out of her Tuesday morning classes the next day, all of roomie’s belongings were gone.

Remembering this makes me smile. :)
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