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As a teacher, I have seen a fair share of children who are the products of divorce. With rare exceptions, these students' behavior and academic performance reflect the relationship of their parents, both during and after the divorce. Those whose parents are mature and amicable in their relationship are very well-adjusted, both emotionally and mentally. Those whose parents use their kids as pawns in a never-ending war...not so much.
Parent conferences are always interesting. In some cases, we have to schedule two meetings, one for each parent, since they can't stand to be within 100 yards of each other, apparently. In other cases, the parents show up together so the kids can see they're on the same page. Once we had a student who got to eighth grade before we even realized that his parents, who had been showing up together throughout his middle school career, had been divorced for years! (Needless to say, he was a fantastic young man!)
Unfortunately, too many parents pursue a scorched earth policy during and after their divorce, and everyone, particularly their children, suffers as a result. These individuals care more about themselves, their pride, and getting their own way than they do about their children. And dog-in-the-manger style, if they can't get what they want, they'll make sure the ex-spouse doesn't get it either. Pretty much everybody who knows the couple comes out a loser—friends, family, coworkers, etc.
Maybe you can see where I'm going with this. This Democratic primary is like an ugly divorce. The two candidates and their supporters are fighting for custody of America, in both a literal and figurative sense. Unfortunately, many of those involved seemed determined to make the "divorce" as acrimonious as possible.
Those who refuse to vote for the eventual nominee—or who promise to vote for McCain—if said nominee is not their choice are the equivalent of parents who sacrifice the health, well-being, and happiness of their children in order to strike back at their ex. These individuals can claim that their stance is based on principle all they want; the fact remains that it is America who will suffer if this "if I don't get what I want, no one should" attitude prevails.
I can tell you from firsthand experience what damage parents who wallow in anger and self-indulgence can do to their children. What damage voters who wallow in anger and self-indulgence can do to our country, I can only imagine.
I think you can, too.
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