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tnlefty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-26-12 10:28 PM
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Sad post, and since this is still functioning....
A co-worker of my husband, who graduated from the high school that 2 of our sons graduated from, and one is still attending...

who used to sit with us at high school football games when our sons were in band... and is an all around nice guy...

**** and his wife, *****, had difficulties getting pregnant and they finally did. Everything was going well until last Weds. My husband talked to **** Thurs. and he seemed very upbeat, although his wife had been hospitalized Weds., she was given steroids, stabilized and as he stated, "We'll be going home in a couple of days to ride things out".

Translation for anyone who hasn't had a problematic pregnancy - going home on bedrest for as long as the pregnancy continues.

***** had to have a c-section Fri. and *** was beginning his 32nd week, and his mother died around 7 this morning.

As I explained to my youngest earlier today...women know that women die from pregnancy complications, or during childbirth, but even though my pregnancies were complicated, women don't think about being a number in the tally, and neither do their partners. You go on thinking that all is correct with the world.

My heart is broken for **** as I can't imagine what he's going through. Our first was a preemie, 33 wks. and 5 days, and preemies are harder to care for than the 2 we had later who were 'pulled a little green', but nothing like that early.

*****, RIP, and I'm sorry that *** won't have you to love as his mother. ***, continue to do well in the NICU....

Plea...whatever DUer's do be it prayer, meditation, or whatever, please do so for all three of them and their families.

Sorry to ramble, but I'm still shocked.
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No Elephants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-27-12 05:15 PM
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1. I'm so very sorry for the family's loss and your loss.
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tnlefty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Feb-28-12 06:48 PM
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3. 29 yrs. old, a healthy woman who died from complications
Edited on Tue Feb-28-12 06:51 PM by tnlefty
of pregnancy/ childbirth...blows my mind. A nurse took a picture of them and she was holding the newborn and she looked great and that is the only family pic that he will have.

As someone who advanced a little further into that 5th decade this month...29 is so young.

As to be expected **** is devastated and he has no idea about what to do with ***, he's gonna need help...I nor my husband think we could've ha a preemie alone.

edit to add: please keep him in your thoughts along with little ***, who is holding is own in the NICU from what I heard today. And her parents, and his parents....just all of them. :hug:
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Curmudgeoness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Feb-27-12 09:40 PM
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2. I am so sorry for that family.
Women used to die (and still do in some places) all the time in childbirth, but we just don't see it often here anymore. This sheds light on the fact that pregnancy can still be dangerous. Poor family, this is so sad.
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KoKo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Feb-29-12 09:19 PM
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4. I'm so sad to hear's heartbreaking and I will say prayers for
Edited on Wed Feb-29-12 09:20 PM by KoKo
the family who is suffering through this along with you both.

:hug: and "angel" or "Good Spirits and Wishes" to watch over you all.
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marzipanni Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Mar-01-12 03:47 PM
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5. So very sad.
It is hard to imagine what **** is going through, but being a former LVN, and a wife and mother, I wanted to look up some information to try to understand what might have happened to *****.

In my googling I came across this blog which is written by Matthew Longelin, father of a little girl, Maddy, born 3/24/08. He started the blog to keep family members informed when his wife, Liz, was on bed rest for the end of her pregnancy; she died in the hospital of a pulmonary embolism 27 hours after the C-section delivery of their daughter. He continued to write over the past few years...
Now its about his life with his little daughter, and full of humor.

Please look at the link- at the top of his website it says, "haven't been here before?"- that's a good place to start. If you think it might be helpful at some point, please save it and send it to ****.

Keeping healing thoughts for everyone going through this sad time, and best health to baby ***-

:grouphug: :hug:
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tnlefty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-09-12 09:55 PM
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6. Thanks, and thanks again....
it will be a bittersweet time when **** takes little *** home as that is not the way things are supposed to be....Mom was supposed to be there, too.

I have 3 boys, and in their first year they clung to me. They were happy to interact with Dad, but they clung to me. They're now 22, 19 and 17 and when something isn't right in their worlds, they talk to me first, when all is well with them they talk to Dad.

I have told them that they probably know me better than I know myself. When I made the decision to continue the pregnancies, they knew my heart rate, bowel sounds, etc., and they were comforted by me.

**** was at work today, according to hubby, and yes, he and baby *** are in my thoughts, and thanks for the link.
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kimi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jul-22-12 08:27 PM
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7. I'm so very sorry for the family(s)
I was an OB nurse - never had a mom pass, but some came close. There are so many complications that can happen - I remember a particularly traumatic delivery where I wasn't present, but it was a co-worker. She almost bled out, had to have a hysterectomy right after baby delivered; she almost died. Childbirth is usually a routine thing, but things can go wrong, & fast.

Again, my deepest condolences to the families, & to you & your family also. Best wishes, prayers, vibes to all of you.
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