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Lady Freedom Returns Donating Member (169 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-09-11 01:33 PM
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I spent 5 years in College to learn about Communication.
Edited on Fri Dec-09-11 01:44 PM by Lady Freedom Returns
I can give technical and artisan advice on communication, however, when I try to start a conversation, I more or less place foot in mouth and end up sounding like a nit wit! What can be done? Any advice?
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geardaddy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-09-11 01:41 PM
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1. Collage?
;)

Are you more of an introvert? Do you communicate better through writing? A lot of introverts have trouble with expressing themselve verbally (orally).
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Lady Freedom Returns Donating Member (169 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-09-11 01:48 PM
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3. Surprised that the spell check did not catch that.
Edited on Fri Dec-09-11 01:49 PM by Lady Freedom Returns
Thank you.

As for being an introvert, the Carl Gustav Jung's test said I was an extrovert.
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OriginalGeek Donating Member (589 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-09-11 03:41 PM
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4. Spell check let you keep it because it is a word
just not the word you wanted :-).

As to your original problem, and I can say this because I have MUCH experience, don't get too caught up in trying to start a conversation.

I mean, in some cases you have to because you need information that someone else has.

But it took me a long time to learn that when I walk up to a group and they are talking, I can just listen for a while. There's no law that says my opinion on the subject needs to be heard or even should be heard and especially as soon as I get there. Just listen for a while and you may get asked or you may hear something that gives you a good jumping off point but just listen first.

I don;t mean walk up to strangers and stand there creepily staring. Smile and nod and listen. I have found that when I just keep my mouth shut, someone else becomes the loud, weird one and I can eventually slip into the conversation on better terms...

Now if I could just teach myself to do that online as well...


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freshwest Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-09-11 01:47 PM
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2. Practice making a fool of yourself with friends. Less stress. I'm even crazier in person than here.
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rrneck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-09-11 04:13 PM
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5. I will refer you to an unrecognized sage of our time...
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