Facebook isn't always a friend

[tavalon]

Really, most of the time, it's a silly time waster with twitter the ultimate in short attention span. But today, thanks to Facebook, I found out a friend from Texas, a magnificent hippie beauty has metastatic breast cancer and had to end her first pregnancy early so she could have radiation therapy. It's Metastasized All over. She's only forty and she has a two month old. I haven't seen her for years but I long to hold her, just hold her. Once I left Texas, I never felt the pull but knowing what she's facing, I feel the pull. I want to see her and say bye and make sure her new little girl has a good family. I want her to die as painlessly as possible. This woman is one of the most beautiful persons I've ever met. Not traditionally, but spiritually.

I'm really blown away. She's too young and her child shouldn't have to grow up without her mother. That I'm an expert at. Not the best way to start.

[TuxedoKat]

1. So sorry

that you heard such sad news about your friend. The MD Anderson Cancer Center in Houston is supposed to be a good place for treatment. I remember reading an article about it in the NY Times way back in the early '90s or so about some people with different types of cancer going there after being told there was no hope by their MDs. Anyway, I wish her the best. Life is so unfair sometimes.

http://www.mdanderson.org/patient-and-cancer-information/index.html?cmpid=google_branded_ppc&gclid=CNbD-Y7OnKkCFZQbKgod8VB6uA

[tavalon]

3. There comes a time when we are past being helped, even by the best

Mrs. Edwards decided to stop treatment for just that reason and she could afford any kind of healthcare. Farrah Fawcett is another who comes to mind. Certain cancers that metastasize to the lung, liver, bone and brain from the breast are stage 4. That's the nurse in me talking. The friend in me is brokenhearted and wants her to have as much time as possible with her beautiful new baby. I've cried many tears today. I know she's doing the full treatment course to buy time. Precious time.

I want her to have as much time with her family and friends and then I want it to be painless. I don't know who I'm supposed to send my request to, but there it is.

[TuxedoKat]

4. I guess it it rare

for stage four patients to recover although there are some rare exceptions. I wish more research was done on why that happens. I hope your friend's treatment is helpful. Prayers for your friend.

[tavalon]

5. I hope the reason is strong will

That woman has the strongest will I've ever seen and now she has a child to give her fierce resolve.

[redwitch]

2. I just found out via a high school page that an old friend died in 2007.

I knew her from grade school. She was beautiful and I have so many memories of her. I have a really clear memory of sitting with her on the gym bleachers last week of senior year signing yearbooks. She was so nostalgic about the school days being over. I haven't seen her since our 5 year reunion but reading of her death hit me really hard, now I can't stop thinking of her. 49 years old, colon cancer.

I think I understand how you feel. But at least you may have a chance to say good bye, I hope you do. Ugh. Being human sucks sometimes!

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