I can't stop crying tonight.

[VenusRising]

I haven't cried this hard or this much since I picked up Rob's remains from the funeral home. I have no idea what set me off, but I feel like I've been hit upside the head with a 2x4. I'm just in a lot of pain tonight and needed to tell someone.

Thanks for listening.

:cry::cry::cry:

[fizzgig]

1. oh sweetheart

i wish i had something to say

:hug::hug::hug::hug:

[VenusRising]

4. There really isn't anything to say.

But I'll take those hugs!!

:hug::hug::hug::hug:

[fizzgig]

7. i've got plenty of those

:hug::hug::hug:

[VenusRising]

10. You're a good friend.

:hug::hug::hug:

:loveya:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

2. I'm so sorry VenusRising

Sometimes the smallest thing or nothing at all can set you off after losing a loved one. It's a perfectly understandable, normal human reaction but I know that doesn't make it any easier. I'm so sorry and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers:hug: :hug:

[VenusRising]

5. Thank you.

It just really sucks sometimes.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

3. My dear VenusRising...

You have suffered a horrible loss, sweetie...

You are recovering, but this is not a consistent process. Forward and back, forward and back...

I wish I could do something concrete about your pain!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[VenusRising]

8. Thanks, Peggy.

It's been more like a roller coaster, and I HATE those things!!

I'll take the hugs, though. I need them right now.

:hug::hug::hug:

[Arctic Dave]

6. You are among friends here.

[VenusRising]

9. Which is why I felt like I could post this here if no where else.

Thank you, Arctic Dave. :)

[Arctic Dave]

14. No problem. We all have difficult times.

:)

[crim son]

11. It has not been a long time.

You've been hit upside the head every day for months and endured it and so, this is what happens. If only there were something truly helpful I could offer you then I would. Meantime, this is a testament to your love for your husband. I hear that in time the pain lifts but while it lays heavily upon you it is natural that you will suffer. Sending hugs, vibes and hope. :loveya:

[VenusRising]

12. Thank you, crim son.

Time is a strange thing. It can seem like just yesterday and forever ago all at once. And even though he is gone, I love him and miss him more every single day that passes. The pain is definitely laying heavily on me tonight.

Thanks for the hugs, vibes, and prayers. You're a sweetheart. :hug::loveya:

[crim son]

13. You are the sweetheart.

:hug:

[VenusRising]

15. We both are.

:) :hug::loveya:

[MissHoneychurch]

16. Cry as much as you need

you have all the right :hug:

And you can always tell us. We are here for you :hug:

[VenusRising]

17. Thanks, MHC.

:hug:

[Minimus]

18. ((hugs)) I am so sorry you are going through this.

Cry as much as you need to and remember that you are loved my many.

Hang in there sweetie. :hug:

[VenusRising]

19. Thanks, Minimus.

I'm trying. :hug:

[Withywindle]

20. Hugs, hugs, hugs

that's how grief is. You never know when it'll come round again on the gee-tar, as Arlo Guthrie said. The stages of healing don't move in a straight line.

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

:hug:

[VenusRising]

25. Hugs right back!

They sure don't move in a straight line. I feel jerked all over the place.

:hug:

[skygazer]

21. I'm so sorry

Sometimes it's nothing in particular that sets us off - just that realization all over again. Grieving is hard work and takes time. It's good to be able to tell people when you're hurting though. :hug:

[VenusRising]

26. It does help.

And it is exhausting at times. I sleep a lot.

:hug:

[theNotoriousP.I.G.]

22. Hi Sweety

No words, just wishing you strength and peace. :hug:

[VenusRising]

27. Thank you, love!

Right back at you. :hug::loveya:

[hippywife]

23. Let your tears fill up

the empty space left by your loss and wash some of the pain away, sweetie. It's the only way.

Don't fight the tears and do what you need to do to get through this.

Much love to you.

[VenusRising]

28. Thank you, hippywife.

It's not something I can even fight. They come when they come. It's just it's a waterfall tonight.

Love to you, too. :hug:

[tango-tee]

24. That's what friends are for, VenusRising, to listen

when someone is in pain. And you are among friends here. You are in so much pain, crying is the most natural thing in the world.

Sending you many, many hugs.

:grouphug:

[VenusRising]

29. You're sweet, tango-tee.

Thanks for lending an ear.

:hug::hug::hug::loveya:

[dawg]

30. I've had your situation in the back of my mind all day.

I wish I could think of something wonderful to say that would dry your tears, or maybe not stop them, but change them into something more bittersweet and poignant instead of the horrible loss that you must still be feeling. When I think about your loss, you see, it makes me want to cry myself - both out of empathy for you and for my own selfish reasons.

I wish I had more talent with words, or more wisdom, or something that I could offer you that would ease your suffering just a little. This is such a sad, sad world - and happy endings, even when you reach them, are ephemeral.

I do believe, that there is more to creation than meets the eyes. I don't think that the ones we love ever really leave us. They are with us always. They are part of who we are.

I don't believe in endings. And I'm right! I'm always right, just ask anyone who knows me.

Tears can be healing things.
Love and hugs to you always! :hug:

[VenusRising]

34. Thank you so much, dawg!

Every little bit helps.

:hug:

[Call Me Wesley]

31. I'm sorry.

:hug:

[VenusRising]

35. Thank you, CMW!

:hug: for you, too!

And give that gorgeous wife of yours a :hug: from me, too. :loveya: both!

[Taverner]

32. Take care and take a hot bath

:hug:

[Blue-Jay]

33. Cry it out, then go do something fun.

I realize that a fun activity won't solve any problems, but there is beauty in the smallest of activities. Treat yourself. Trust me; that will help.

[Haole Girl]

36. Sending hugs for you

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[applegrove]

37. There, there ....it will be okay. ((HUGS))

[cwydro]

38. Big hugs.

I would like to say the pain will pass.

But some pain never does.

Just know we are all here for you.:grouphug:

[kimi]

39. Bless your heart, I'm sorry

Wish I could say something to help, in lieu of that, :hug: Many of them. Take care.

[Flaxbee]

40. Oh VenusRising, I'm sorry.

Just let it all out. You know, probably for the rest of your life you'll just be struck at inexplicable times; loss is like that. But we're all here for you.

:hug:

[VenusRising]

41. It's coming if I want it to or not.

Thanks for the support.

:hug:

[VenusRising]

42. I just want to thank everyone that responded

You have no idea how much your support means to me. It's nice knowing that there are people just a click away that care and are here for me. It's little things like that get me through.

So, THANK YOU!!!!!!

:grouphug::loveya::grouphug::loveya:
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[ohheckyeah]

43. I don't know you

but I'll tell you what I told my friend who went through a long period of grieving....TAKE CARE OF YOU, please.

I wish I could make it better but since I can't I will remember you in my thoughts and prayers and hope that the tears bring you some relief for at least a little while.

[MrScorpio]

44. Huggage

:hug:

[laylah]

45. I'm so sorry for your pain.

:hug: