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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 09:42 AM
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I'm a 47-year old woman with the emotional maturity of a 14-year old boy.
Shouldn't I have grown up by now? Is it too late for me to grow up?


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HopeHoops Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 10:02 AM
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1. Fuck that noise!
Enjoy it while you can!

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meow2u3 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 10:52 AM
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2. At least you're woman enough to admit it
It's never too late to grow up. Admitting you're a teen at heart is the first step to emotional maturity.
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 12:29 PM
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7. Exactly. And you don't have to grow up all the way.
Edited on Sun Dec-06-09 12:30 PM by Captain Hilts
You can be a responsible adult and a steady friend for someone. But don't DON'T lose the kid's sense of fun.

The list of famous folks who never completely grew up is weighted heavily in favor of men because women are forced to be the responsible adult in the room from the age of 12:

Winston Churchill
Katharine Hepburn
Bill Clinton
Most male rock, tennis and sports stars

When it's a Bad Thing:
Adam Sandler

Like Hepburn, you should never lose the desire to climb a tree or play a game, or eat too much chocolate.

Like Susan Boyle, you start by not using 'fuck' in public so much, and work your way up from there.
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Maraya1969 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 02:09 PM
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15. Susan Boyle uses the word "fuck" a lot?
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 03:08 PM
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17. Well, she's gotten in trouble for it a couple of times...
Edited on Sun Dec-06-09 03:09 PM by Captain Hilts
remember, 'fuck' is merely vulgar, not profane, so she wouldn't have to confess using it, though perhaps the sentiment with which she said it.
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hippywife Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 11:09 AM
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3. You say that
like it's a bad thing. ;)
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SoxFan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 11:42 AM
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4. You're only young once. You can stay immature forever.
Embrace it!
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catzies Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 11:42 PM
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29. That, and "It's never too late to have a happy childhood...I've having mine now!"
I'm 47 too and I wouldn't be posting here if I didn't relate to the OP! :silly:
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Bluzmann57 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 11:47 AM
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5. Motto to live by
"I may grow old, but I will not grow up." Not sure if anyone else said it, so I'll take blame, er, credit for it. And if it's any comfort, I'm 52 and still am a teenager at heart. Except for the fact that I shave.
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rrneck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 12:12 PM
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6. I'm into my second childhood... today. nt
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 12:29 PM
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8. The 2nd one is more fun because you've got a driver's license and a date. nt
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dysfunctional press Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 12:30 PM
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9. i'm 48, and i STILL don't know what i want to be when i grow up.
:shrug:
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 02:05 PM
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13. It's okay for guys. Our society doesn't reward or celebrate this trait in women. nt
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dysfunctional press Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 02:32 PM
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16. you must live in a different society than i.
here in the u.s., they don't exactly 'reward or celebrate' it in men- to a much greater extent than women, even...in a large part because the expectations of achievement are generally higher for guys.
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 03:10 PM
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18. Who's the female Adam Sandler? All those foul-mouthed shock jocks?
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dysfunctional press Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 06:03 PM
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19. sarah silverman?
and just because there's not equity in some professions(male performers/athletes(a subset of 'performer') almost always command higher salaries and larger audiences)- it's not indicative of the society at large. (you DO realize that "All those foul-mouthed shock jocks' are just performers playing a part, right? and generally a fairly well-paid part. kinda obvious(well...to most) that IS what they became when they 'grew up')
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 10:17 AM
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32. The Porky's movies. The Police Academy series. Most beer commercials. And also
house-cleaning product ads.

"American Pie." "Dude Where's the Car."

Society lets 'boys be boys'.
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dysfunctional press Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 12:07 PM
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33. and in those movies- they ARE boys. and they are the butt of the jokes...
they are seen as losers and the subject of ridicule.
in the country i live in-(u.s.a.) the onus is on the male to get their act together & be the 'breadwinner' for the family.it's okay to 'blow off steam' and goof around while you're in high school or college- as long as you get your act together and 'man up' once school is out. women as a general rule just don't have the same type of societal expectations thrust upon them, career-wise.

what's it like in your country?
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 02:46 PM
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34. In the country I live in - the u. s. of a. - those pressures have been history for some time.
Do you realize that young men live at home longer than women? Male children - especially when there is no man in the house - are seen as protection. Folks are sexist and it still doesn't occur to them that daughters can do things like take out the garbage or mow the lawn, so the utility of having a male child home lasts much longer.

Those pressures on men to be the breadwinner are still there, but are not nearly so strong or suffocating as they once were. It sounds as though you were reared to be responsible. Most the folks I know got that from being drafted.

But look at all the adult men and what they spend on watching sports, playing sports, computer games, etc. compared to the women. We know that FDR had the hobbies of stamp collecting, hunting trips, sailing trips, book collecting, golf, etc. what were Eleanor's hobbies? Oh, that's right, she stayed home with the kids while he was on hunting, sailing or golfing trips. How many men do you know that are golf widowers? What's the percentage of female golfers at clubs near you?

Men are permitted to 'play' longer than women are.
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dysfunctional press Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 04:07 PM
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36. and what do adult women all do in this fairyland you've created in your mind..?
at the country club i used to work at- weekdays the club and the golf course were filled with with the wives of the men who brought home the paychecks.
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Bossy Monkey Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 12:40 PM
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10. I'm a 47yo man with the emotional maturity of an 8yo, so you're way ahead of me.
"How come we're old/ but we're not grown up?" John Wesley Harding, "Me Against Me."
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NV Whino Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 01:09 PM
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11. I always wanted to be Peter Pan when I grew up
Edited on Sun Dec-06-09 01:09 PM by NV Whino
I think I've achieved the goal.
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surrealAmerican Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 01:55 PM
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12. That's alright.
I'm a 46-year old woman with the figure of a 14-year old boy. Oh, well, at least I can wear my son's hand-me-downs.
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 02:06 PM
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14. Folks still say 'figure'?
I haven't heard that one in a long time.
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 06:40 PM
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20. This is one of those comments
where OMG LOL really does apply!! :rofl:

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Bucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 06:49 PM
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21. this is a chick thread
Sorry, just burnishing my sexist pig credentials.
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baldguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 06:51 PM
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22. Growing up is over-rated.
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trof Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 06:59 PM
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23. Growing up is hard to do.
;-)
Don't take your love away from me
Don't you leave my heart in misery.
If you go then I'll be blue
'Cause growing up is hard to do.

Remember when you held me tight
And you kissed me all through the night
Think of all that weve been through
'Cause growing up is hard to do.


They say that growing up is hard to do.
Now I know I know that it's true
Don't say that this is the end.
Instead of growing up
I wish that we are making up again.

I beg of you don't say goodbye.
Can't we give our love another try.
Come on baby let's start a new
'Cause growing up is hard to do.
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pink-o Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 09:41 PM
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24. Geez, Sis, I didn't know you joined DU (LOL)
Ha Ha...actually my Sis is a 56 year old woman with the sensibilities of a 14 year old boy. She loves SF and Star Wars and all things geek. She gave me an R2D2 for my b'day 3 years ago. Paid 100 dollars for it--I told her she could've used that for a spa certificate!!!

But I don't really have a leg to stand on: I'm as immature as you get at 55! I still ride my bike and love to play outside, I'm still as edgy and ADD as I was when I was in 5th grade.

My friend had a t-shirt with words to live by: "It's never too late to have a happy childhood."
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SanddancerUSA Donating Member (90 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 09:46 PM
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25. Excellent. I'd be given my jugs a good seeing to right now if i was you.
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 10:16 PM
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26. Wait . . . what?
I'm not familiar with that expression.

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phasma ex machina Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 10:22 PM
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27. Does anyone know if a feminine version of the Peter Pan character exist? TIA. nt
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Juche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Dec-06-09 10:40 PM
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28. I'm might get attacked for saying this but
Edited on Sun Dec-06-09 10:47 PM by Juche
I'm 30 and I feel like I have too much maturity because of a string of problems I've had to learn to overcome. I have had several people who know me in real life all say the same thing, that they feel I have more real world common sense than anyone else they know. I miss not taking myself and my life seriously. I don't think I've done that as a lifestyle since I was 15. I remember back when I was 23-24 and I would post on another message board, people would be surprised by my age. Several people thought I was in my 40s back when I was 24.

I'm just saying its not all its cracked up to be. Maturity seems to come from events that force you to question your assumptions about yourself and life, to adapt to setbacks and reevaluate everything.

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Orrex Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 10:16 AM
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31. Why would you get attacked for that?
Sounds like you've had a tough path to walk.
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Mopar151 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 10:13 AM
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30. I think I've got a 52/24 going myself...... n/t
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-07-09 02:48 PM
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35. Wanna come over and read comic books? nt
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