Next question: OK I get it that only mom jeans come up to my waist,

[hedgehog]

but I have a Mom waist. How do I avoid the dreaded muffin top?

[Haole Girl]

1. When you find out, will you let me know?

I'm either going to have to start doing sit-ups or get liposuction.

Since I can't afford liposuction, I guess I know what my answer is. Sigh.

[hedgehog]

2. I wouldn't mind the dropped waist so much if the shirt manufacturers

had lengthened shirts to match!

Fashion has brought me full circle:in high school, skirts were so short I didn't dare bend over and now I don't dare reach up!

[Haole Girl]

4. I find long shirts & t-shirts...

but I'll still catch people looking at my gut. Um.. unless they are looking at something else.

[kaiden]

3. Men's jeans fit better -- and they're thicker denim.

[crim son]

5. DO NOT wear the Mom jeans.

I am built like a boy, with almost no waist though I am not chubby. The low-rise jeans are a godsend and I will wear them long after they are out of style.

Mom Jeans are EVIL! And, have you seen this, Mom? http://www.hulu.com/watch/61336/saturday-night-live-tur...

[Shell Beau]

6. You have to buy jeans that fit the waist!

It can suck because if you are thicker in the middle and have skinnier legs, then your jeans will look funny! Jeans shopping can be a bitch!

[hedgehog]

7. I've hated jeans shopping my entire life! My inseam is only 27".

It's hard to judge how your pants look when the cuffs are dragging on the floor!

[Maine-ah]

8. I completely understand! My inseam is only 28 inches

There is a brand of jeans called Seven. I found them at TJ Maxx (hit or miss, this time was a hit) in the petite section. Perfect fit on the inseam! Paid $30 for them, and retail starts around $100.

[Shell Beau]

9. Yeah, Seven jeans are high, but I am a firm believer in

investing in jeans. I live in them and will splurge. I find that the pricier ones fit better.

[RebelOne]

10. Gloria Vanderbilt jeans are the best fitting.

And they come in short, average and tall and the waistline is where it should be, not down below your navel.

[Left Is Write]

13. As far as I'm concerned...

below my navel IS where the waistband belongs.

I am short-waisted. If I wore jeans at my natural waistline, I'd look like Ed Grimley.

[RebelOne]

28. I'm short-waisted, too. That's why Gloria Vanderbilt jeans fit so well. n/t

[azmouse]

29. I like those too. They fit a little bigger in the waist.

[AwakeAtLast]

44. I just bought a pair last week!

I totally agree with you - they even make my butt look better! I haven't said that about a pair of jeans since before AALette was born.

When they go on sale again, I will buy a couple more pairs!

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

11. I like Mom jeans. I'm an old lady with a Mom body

and I look like hell in the low-rise jeans. Actually I look like hell no matter what, but at least my Mom jeans fit (big ass, smaller waist) and don't allow so much blubber to lop over the waistband.

[PassingFair]

26. Alas...I'm more "apple" than "pear"....

Two or three size difference
to get the waist to fit.

I can wear a 12 in the low-rise jeans...
I never could get a good fit in a
high-waist, not even in high school
in the 70's.....

[HopeHoops]

12. Not all guys have a PROBLEM with a "muffin top"

Children play hell with a woman's body. I view that as a sign of devotion!

[backtoblue]

14. I have a big butt and

the muffin top is inevitable. :frown: If I were to wear high waisted jeans, it looks even bigger. The only difference is skin for me...

[Patiod]

15. When you're almost 6' tall, jeans don't come up to your waist

or down to your feet.

I would feel bad for the shorter folks on this thread, but when jeans shopping at Macy's, I saw 50 "petite" or "short" sized jeans for every "long" or "tall" size out on the floor.

[Kat45]

50. Petite clothes are for women 5'4" or under, and they tend to be sized

for 5'4", which means they're usually still too long for those of use who are only 5'1".

[Patiod]

16. dupe

[redqueen]

17. If pants that come up to my waist are mom jeans...

then I'm wearin mom jeans.

I don't feel right in those low rise things. It feels like my big butt is hanging out of em.

[MissMillie]

22. I'm w/ you

I think low rise is not appropriate for everyone and certainly not in all situations

I saw a young woman... a grad student... at lunch the other day, w/ her thong hanging out. She was simply sitting at the lunch table.




I don't know... but I just don't find it "sexy" to see someone in clothing that looks like it doesn't fit them.


I guess that makes me old-fashioned.

[Arkansas Granny]

34. I guess I'm wearing mom jeans, too. I wore low rise jeans when I was

in my 20's and 30's, but I just don't feel comfortable in them now, in my 60's. I need some new jeans in the worst way, but I just hate shopping for them. The sizes don't run true from one brand to another and with so many selections in rise, leg style, etc. you have to try on so many of them to find the right fit.

[surrealAmerican]

18. I like low-waisted jeans because ...

... they don't bunch up when I sit down. Maybe I spend too much time sitting.

[Juche]

19. In all seriousness a muffin top is not a big deal

I'm trying to think of how to write this w/o sounding rude, but am not sure how. Since that ship has sailed and some people will think it no matter what, I'll say it anyway. Suffice it to say a woman who has self confidence is sexy, and a woman who likes herself enough to wear something that makes her look attractive, even if she knows other women might look down on her is pretty hot. A muffin top on a woman with healthy self esteem is hotter than a trim waist on a woman who hates her body and is terrified of what other people think.

Besides, men have much more lenient standards for what is acceptable/attractive in women's bodies than women have for themselves and each other. Thats not to say that we find all women attractive all the time (that'd be a lie), but the standards for what is acceptable and attractive are much broader than women seem to realize. And it is sad to watch so many people with decent personalities and accomplishments obsess over such trivialities.

[Arugula Latte]

20. Nice post!

[amitten]

23. I think that's true, based on most guys I've known.

And I love my body (even the little flaws) so it's all good.

Besides, men don't really look at the details. They tend to look at the overall picture more.

[redqueen]

24. "men have much more lenient standards for what is acceptable/attractive"

Um, you're kind of generalizing there.

And I *highly* doubt most men fit with your theory. I'd say those men are the exception, not the rule.

Looking at what men want to look at / buy... no. Just no.

[Juche]

25. Like I said, we aren't perfect

What I'm trying to say is that the attitude that looks are the most important thing (more important than compassion, charity work, intelligence, kindness, etc), and that the standards of beauty are only obtainable by 5% of women are false because it seems to me that those are common attitudes nowadays. I could lie and say everyone is attractive and nobody is unattractive, but that'd be transparent. What I can say comfortably is that tons of women of all shapes and sizes end up finding mates who are attracted to them, and I don't think most guys will actually hold women to the same draconian standards the hold themselves to. And I can say that after you get to know someone and either become endeared or disgusted by their personality, their attractiveness can either go straight into the toilet or improve dramatically.

But I don't want to come across as saying that appearance means nothing, because it does. What I am trying to say is that it is not the only important thing about a person, and that the standards are looser than people think.

[tigereye]

35. well, said!

[zingaro]

47. One of my best girlfriends

has a giant muffin top. I don't know that it even classifies as a "muffin top" even, because it's just really her belly. And it's not small, either.

But she is without a doubt the sexiest, hottest chick I have ever known. She oozes it from her pores. Honestly, walking into anywhere with her never fails to amaze me because people stop and STARE at her. And they are NOT looking at her muffin top lol

She has redefined the way I think of my own mama muffin. But I don't think that a few years ago, I would have read your words in the same way I do now, knowing her. But I couldn't agree with you more!

[tigereye]

21. I have to say that as a 50 year old mom, I much prefer low rise, boot cut jeans

It's as if they were made for my body. I hope never to wear another pair of high waist jeans again!

[Left Is Write]

41. Ditto. I'm 42, a mom and a gramma, and I love low-rise, boot cut.

[guitar man]

27. according to the infomercial

this thing is supposed to eliminate the dreaded "muffin top"

http://www.ubuyez.com/index.php?main_page=product_info&...

please don't shoot me, I'm just the messenger

[mnhtnbb]

30. Try shopping at Kohl's. They have short sizes in several brands that fit

the "mom" figure (I know, I'm 58, 5'4" and inseam 27"-28",depending on the heel)

[azmouse]

31. Try Lee jeans 'just below the waist' cut.

They aren't the very low cut jeans that show too much, these really just sit right below your waist and don't give a muffin-top look. I've found them to be comfortable. I'm a bit chubby and prefer jeans at the waist or just below. I'm also long-waisted and if I wore those jeans cut around the belly button it would look like my pants were falling off.

[mnhtnbb]

32. They have the Lee jeans at Kohl's.

[azmouse]

33. Kohl's has a great selection. I shop for jeans there a lot.

[carlyhippy]

36. I have the hardest time finding bellbottoms or bootcut jeans that come up to the waist

aargh! My gut hangs over hip huggers, which is more than a muffin top, it's an avalance of gut!

[MissMillie]

37. Just out of curiosity

when did being, or looking like a mom, become a bad thing?

[hedgehog]

38. It's the identification of looking like a mom as being dowdy that's interesting.

Just as looking matronly is a bad thing. I'm a mother of 6, married 33 years. I should have the right to look matronly!

[mnhtnbb]

39. The mom look says you spend all your time taking care of kids and not enough time

taking care of yourself.

[redqueen]

40. IMO working out is for health... not a "hot body".

Those are of course only *my* priorities... but it works for me.

I got way sick and tired of working out for 1 1/2 hours per day just so I could fit into a particular size.

[MissMillie]

43. so showing your thong while wearing low-rise jeans

means you're taking care of yourself?

[Left Is Write]

49. I manage to wear low-rise jeans without showing off my underwear, thong or otherwise.

[mnhtnbb]

52. Showing your thong at any age is slutty. It's just as easy to throw on a pair of jeans

that fit with a colorful, fitted top and sweater or jacket as it is to put on baggy sweats and t-shirts.
The difference is taking some time to do some shopping to have some options in the closet.

A lot of people are hiding behind sloppy clothes. It does a world of good for confidence and
self esteem to dress nicely. It can be done without a lot of money--it just takes some effort.

[grasswire]

42. the tyranny of the youth culture

Mothers used to rule the world; honored and adored by everyone. Madison Avenue found a new darling -- one with more disposable income. The teenager.

[Quantess]

45. Be patient, the trend is going back toward higher waists.

You can even wear super-high-waisted pants and be really trendy!

[Bucky]

46. apparently not in Japan

But that's another thread

[Skittles]

48. exercise

[JI7]

51. mom jeans and high waist jeans are not always the same thing

there are high waist jeans that are NOT mom jeans.

examples first is mom jeans, 2nd are jeans that are high waist but not "mom jeans" .