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Edited on Tue Mar-31-09 08:27 PM by msanthrope
It's tacky. It's even tacky (but less so, IMHO) to say "no gifts" or ask for donations to "x" cause.
This includes shower invites (which neither you, nor your family should be hosting.)
What you do is let your maids/groomsmen know of your arrangements. Also, your parents and near relatives should know, too.
People with sense will ask those people (or the groom.) If you Facebook or otherwise have a page/post about your wedding, you may discreetly include links to your registry, but you may not implore your guests to buy registry only....etc..
Hints for keeping stuff affordable---I did an extremely fun wedding for a very low cost by getting married in the morning and doing a wedding breakfast immediately following in a hotel that did an excellent Sunday brunch. I did a buffet with an omelet station. People loved it because they had a wide variety, and breakfast food can hold up on a steam table better than lots of entrees....
I got my dress from an outlet. A 4k Jessica McClintock for $500.
I made my own veil. Really, it's easy...
I did my own flowers for the tables and the room. I did a single gardenia floating in a shallow glass dish on each table. The fragrance of a single gardenia did for the table. The room already had greens/trees...I just stuck cut flowers...it looked great.
I saved on my photog by having the entire wedding party and guests take a group picture in Black and White....it looks great and timeless in its frame on my wall, and gets seen more often than an album would. We took a few bride/groom, and that was it.
I had a string quartet do the ceremony music and part of the reception--jazz cds for the rest.
I had a small, 3-tier cake, decorated with fresh flowers that were applied right before the ceremony. This saved me an arm and a leg in decorating costs. The cakemaker also made some "slicing layers"--see, the cake is sliced in the kitchen, and then served. You guests will never know if they got the real cake or the plain one...they look the same, sliced.
I still have people tell me that they liked my wedding best of all the weddings in my circle of friends....and this is compared to weddings that cost 40--80k...
(You send the invites before. The announcements, after...)
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