just heard one of my best friends is getting a divorce

[Bertha Venation]

From my sister: "mark fucked up bigtime. karen starts moving in to her own apartment next week. long story, but he's been saying since around xmas that he thinks he wants out. stuff like he wants to be alone, he's just not happy, etc.

"a couple of weeks ago, she found out he's been seeing other(s?). she kicked him to the guest room, and since then he's been out of town and gone most of the time. looks like divorce.

"he's already had months (or who knows how long) to deal with the feelings of failed marriage. it's hit karen like a ton of bricks. all of a sudden, he says he doesn't love her anymore. can't put up with her shit anymore. she didn't see anything coming at all. i mean, nothing changed at home, he never made a sound or acted differently or anything until around xmas. they just bought a big expensive house together, for gods sake!! what was he thinking? karen said HE would have to tell the girls, but when they realized something was wrong, he wasn't around and she had to tell them anyway. coward."

:grr: motherfucking rat bastard.

[Flaxbee]

1. Well, you know it's because so many gays and lesbians are

getting married, right? The end of civilization is nigh. (sarcasm off)


Anyway, though, not to make light of a painful situation... A friend of mine is contemplating leaving her husband (he's been inflicting years of benign neglect on her and she's finally had enough) but at least she's talking to him about it so their marriage has a chance. OUt of left-field announcements are atrocious.

[LeftCoast]

2. Sounds like a midlife crisis

Sorry to hear about your friend. She should probably hire a private investigator (if she can afford it). If he's been this deceitful so far, the divorce could get mega-ugly.

[GOPisEvil]

3. Not the confrontational type huh?

So, he passive-aggressives his way out.

The real cowardly part is not being there to tell his children.

[CapnJackSparrow]

4. Sorry, but...

...welcome to the joys of middle age. It won't be the last, and everybody will live through it.

[supernova]

5. Welcome to the club

the divorce club that is!

Sorry to hear about your friends, but it sounds like that guy has thought about this for a long time, whatever his reasons. No the infidelity and the not being there with his kids is not cool. But there it is.

You all will be in my thoughts. :hug:

[villager]

6. I was in the reverse of that situation...

...with my ex-wife in the "Mark" role...!

(too bad he besmirches such a sterling name!)

[Bertha Venation]

7. well, I've finally had a chance to weep

and I don't feel any better. I don't pretend to imagine to know what my friend is feeling, and I'm not there to help. But my sisters are -- we're all very close to her -- and they'll help take care of her.