I'm tired of paying for my girlfriend at the movies.

[Drunken Irishman]

I know that sounds bad, but it's killing me, since we go to the movies every weekend. Tickets aren't cheap anymore and I don't know what to do. Would it be rude if I just purchased my ticket tonight?

:/

[lildreamer316]

1. Netflix is your friend! (Not this month, however)

I don't have any other advice for ya, sorry.. LOL. Best of luck.

[Drunken Irishman]

4. We're going to see Mirrors.

[PBS Poll-435]

2. Careful....

This simple decision could affect "after-movie" activites.

[Drunken Irishman]

3. This is true.

But I think I'll be ok.

[crim son]

5. You must discuss it with her first.

Otherwise she may take it the wrong way. I always, always pay my share or at least offer. I bet she wouldn't mind but has gotten used to your generosity.

[Drunken Irishman]

6. Good idea.

I'll tell her tonight I can't afford two tickets, or something like that.

[alphafemale]

7. Tell her before you get to the window...fer gosh sakes...

Maybe you can just do something different.

[Drunken Irishman]

11. Let's hope she doesn't get mad.

[HopeFor2006]

26. When we were dating..

My ex and I would take turns paying for dates. He made more money than I did, so we each planned our dates according to what we could afford. Of course, I said "ex" so obviously I don't have all the answers!

[Midlodemocrat]

8. Eek. Well, how is the situation financially?

:shrug:

Mr. always paid when we were dating/affianced. He made more than me. Still does, the fucker. I mean, that wonderful man.

[sasquatch]

35. I'm telling

:P

[sniffa]

9. I have a solution

Stop having a girlfriend.

Or stop going to the movies.

[Drunken Irishman]

10. BOO

I hate you.

:P

[sniffa]

12. OR you could keep buying her ticket

but stop opening doors for her. Oh, and insult her looks too. That should make up for the cost lost.

:o

:P

[JVS]

37. We don't have enough money for a movie, we'll just have to screw instead.

problem solved

[thewiseguy]

13. Not sure if this going to go well with her

[Drunken Irishman]

14. We'll find out in a few hours.

I'm kinda nervous.

[hippywife]

15. Do you really

not have the money or do you just not want to pay because it's expensive and maybe not what you'd prefer to do?

[philosophie_en_rose]

16. You could offer to do something else.

If you're really hurting financially, just tell her so. Think of other things to do, if you want a cheaper activity.

[MrsBrady]

17. discuss it with her BEFORE you go

she won't be mad, but if you can't pay you need to tell her in advance.

She'll only be pissed if you don't let her know before you go.
Like the other person said. Don't do it at the window.

Call her or when you pick her up say something like...
"I really like going to the movies with you, but things are getting kinda difficult money wise.
Would you mind if for tonight that I bought only my ticket? And then maybe we can also come up with some ways to save money. I want to spend time with you, but I can't always afford to go out."

If you say something like that, in a sweet tone -- she should get it.

If she doesn't get that...then she's not for you. But most nice girls would get it.

IMHO

[Zuiderelle]

18. It would be really rude to just pay for your own. You should suggest doing something cheaper instead

Tell her that you can't afford going to the movies (frankly, she should know that anyway)... and then there are a few outcomes, she could say "Oh, well, I can pay for us, or I can pay my own way" or she can say "Sure let's take a walk by the river and eat popcorn" or she can say "Fuck off and die cheapskate" ... any way you look at it, it's better than continuing something you are already obviously resenting.

[GoddessOfGuinness]

19. Tell her your money is really tight...

She may offer to pick up the tab; or suggest a date that won't cost anything. But talk about it before the date. It's not a good idea to spring it on her at the last minute.

If she doesn't understand, I'd review the relationship.

[Pierre.Suave]

20. Netflix and a Lovesac...

:P

Cant go wrong...

www.lovesac.com

[mitchum]

21. Become a pedophile and your date gets in free

y asave a lot of money that way

[jberryhill]

22. How much are they charging for girlfriends at the movies?

Frankly, I didn't even know they sold them there.

[Ava]

25. ...

:spray: :rofl:

[jberryhill]

29. It would probably be cheaper to just sneak one in...

...like I do with snacks.

I can't even imagine how much they charge for a girlfriend with popcorn at five bucks.

[FloridaJudy]

23. "Twilight Show"

I just got to see "Hellboy" for $6. Ask your date to sneak the candy and soda in her purse - that's what I did (I knew there was a good reason I carry a big-ass purse). The snacks would have cost more than dinner at the Chinese buffet otherwise.

You could also offer to split expenses. Just do it before the next date night.

[Orrex]

24. Tell her flat out that she's not worth it

Then, starting with next week, her new boyfriend will buy her tickets for her.

[jberryhill]

28. That's half of what I was thinking...

Tell her to post a personal ad, and then each week pick a guy to take her to the movie.

Then, just when it gets dark, she can excuse herself to go to the ladies room, and instead just go sit with you.

This works better in multi-screen theaters if the guy has good night vision.

[Ellen Forradalom]

27. Have a candid discussion with her

If she can't handle a frank discussion about finances, she's not the one for you.

[npk]

30. You could try a little reverse psychology

Tell her you would love to go to the movies tonight, but you are flat broke. Then see if she offers to pay for the tickets. Just don't blame me if she dumps you.

[Liberal_in_LA]

32. I like this idea.

[Lil Missy]

31. I hope you didn't just spring it on her at the last minute. How about, ...

some honesty and a frank communication? If finances are a concern, there are many alternatives. And maybe she would be willing to pick up the tab, or even pay her own way.

You could also rent a movie and go to her place or yours to watch it. With my ex, I had a Blockbuster membership that cost me $20 a month, and we could watch up to 6 movies a week.

But if your girlfriend is only interested in going out, and only as long as you pay the tab, I'd dump her. Or, if she seriously cannot afford to pay her own way, find alternative means of entertainment.

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[SeattleGirl]

34. Talk to her about it.

I've never had a problem paying for me and a guy to do something, if I have the money.

I don't expect to have my movies (or meals or anything else) paid for by another all the time if I have the money to pay for both of us too.

[UndertheOcean]

36. Youlike having sex , right ?

[Indi Guy]

38. Yeah -- That would be rude but...

...my guess is that you feel like you're being taken for granted & this is now an expectation (which kills spontaneity).

My suggestion? Take the lead & plan different things to do on the weekends. It sounds like you all are in a rut. Maybe if you walk & talk in the park or go biking & such -- expensive prefab entertainment will become more rare (& you won't mind footing that bill once in a while).

[Drunken Irishman]

39. Well I chickened out and bought her ticket.

I'm a lame.

[Indi Guy]

40. Did you read post #38? n/t

[Drunken Irishman]

41. I did when I got home and you're right. These are good ideas.

We've done this before, hiking in the foothills, going to take photos. But we also enjoy going to the movies, especially during the summer.

But good suggestions, thanks!

[Indi Guy]

42. Are you picking up all the dinner tabs when you go out too?... n/t

[Drunken Irishman]

43. Yeah.

Well except on my birthday.

[LaurenG]

44. Yes it would be rude unless you told her ahead of time.

I'd be surprised if after being asked on a date my friend suddenly just bought one ticket.

Just tell her you can't afford it, maybe she'll treat this time. :)