It sucks being a woman in her 40s

[Connonym]

Nobody wants a 42 year old woman. I still have a couple of good miles left in me :sob:

[Chan790]

1. I know a great many men who would kill for a women in her 40s.

and half are even under 50.

It's all about location.

[Fire Walk With Me]

2. "Nobody wants a 42 year old woman."

Nonsense, sweetheart.

:hug:

[Boojatta]

3. 42

What about Douglas Adams?

[Connonym]

4. but he's DEAD

but seriously, 42 should be the best year ever, right?

[Boojatta]

5. A 42-year-old shouldn't be picky about whether or not someone's alive.

Beggars can't be choosers.

[jobycom]

12. Dayyum. You must be great at funerals!

:rofl:

[Skittles]

what the heck is wrong with you?

I'm a 51 year old gal and I have no problem getting dates or attention or what the f*** ever - if they don't WANT you f***ing MAKE them want you....and don't base your self-esteem on what other people want and don't want!!!

[arcadian]

6. I don't know who you are

but you seem fine to me

[IndianaJones]

7. I've heard thats prime time. nt.

[Maddy McCall]

8. I'm digging my 40s. I love the independence....

I love discovering more about myself and my abilities every day.

I guess maybe I should want a guy for companionship--but I don't. I just can't imagine being smothered in a relationship again, and there aren't very many southern guys who accept self-sufficient women who think independently.

Maybe one day I will want to settle in, but right now, these are the best days of my life. My son and I do what we want to do when we want to do it. We go camping on a whim, make travel plans to wherever we want, eat midnight meals in front of the TV while watching movies...

If it were just about sex, I could get that if I wanted....there are eager guys everywhere. I have been asked out by people at the university (briefly dated a guy before I felt my chest constrict--relationship claustrophobia hit and I had to get out of it fast!) and in my hometown. I'm just so digging being me, by myself, with my kid, that I don't miss all of the crap that goes with relationships right now. I know that part of this is the marriage I was in--very abusive, very controlling....

I like the freedom and discovery of being by myself right now...I might feel differently one day, though.

[Connonym]

9. I've been single for 8 years now

and I'm ready to try again, especially now that my kids are growing up and getting their own lives and don't want to spend as much time with me as they used to. And then there's the sex thing. I'm sure I'd have no problem getting that but I'd like a little romance to go with it.

[From The Ashes]

10. move over...

...I'll :sob: right next to you. I've got 2 strikes: I'm 46 and a 'big girl' if you catch my drift.

[NanceGreggs]

11. Met the love of my life at age 42 ...

... after two previous marriages, and too many lovers to count.

I once commented to my mother that it was a shame that the LOML and I should meet later in life, rather than when we were both much younger.

Her (very wise) response: "And what makes you think you would have appreciated each other as much when you were younger as you did when you actually met?"

[DebJ]

13. I remarried at 48. Met my best friend and partner ever at 46.

Enjoy your forties. I wish I had them back. Now I'm 52. I met my husband at a singles dance (my first one ever at age 46). It's a huge singles dance: about 500 people
show up twice a month, and most are boomers. Some are younger. A few were in their 70s and 80s, and out on the dance floor!

My husband is the best partner I could ever find. Don't give up hope!

[jobycom]

14. You're probably right, honestly. But hang in there.

You'll reach 43 soon enough, and then EVERYONE will want you!!

:bounce: :bounce:
:applause: :applause: :applause:
:woohoo: :woohoo: :woohoo:
:applause: :woohoo: :applause: :woohoo:
:patriot:

[Ellen Forradalom]

15. You're not just a woman

You're the answer to life, the universe and everything. (42)

No wonder men are intimidated!

[MrScorpio]

16. I'll be 47 this year

You're still a youngster!

[Connonym]

17. men age much, much better than women

you're just hitting your hot spot. I'm on a downhill course :'(

[Oeditpus Rex]

18. Then how come

the bewbs are



?

:shrug:



http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x7939429#7939679

[bluesbassman]

20. You are so busted! (pun intended, see post #18)

Come on babe, snap out of it! At 42 you are indeed desirable. You're letting the past weigh you down. Use what you have; intelligence, experience, and according to you smoking Ta-Ta's:) to go out and enjoy life. When you let go and do that, I assure you that you'll find the right man for you. If that's what you really want.

[Skittles]

21. bullshit

that's cultural-induced crap

[janx]

22. I agree. n/t

[Zuiderelle]

41. Yep. You got that right.

[BurtWorm]

34. Not true.

With all due respect, stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get in touch with your inner hotness and go with it. It's there, you know. Don't worry about what men think and want. Worry about how you feel about yourself.

Ok, enough advice for the day.

[Heidi]

19. Connonym, it's not true that nobody wants a 42-year-old woman.

CMW, who is three years younger than me, wanted me when I was 42 and still wants me now that I'm 45. You absolutely have a lot of good miles left in you; I'd guess that being wanted isn't the issue; it's being wanted by the right person or persons. :hug:

P.S. You're a beautiful woman; smart and kind, too. :yourock:

[Lady Freedom]

23. I have no idea what you are talking about!

Those in their 40's are the one's that gives me the hardest time with guys. Due to the fact that their mature and have most of their life in order. That apparently trumps a 30 year old with student loans.

[Rhythm]

24. Nonsense! I'm almost 42, and i get picked up all the time!

Of course, that's because my hobbled ass is limping my way home from work, and i have neighbors who are really, really sweet...

But still.

:hide:


Seriously, Connie... you got nothing to worry about.

[old mark]

25. There are a lot of men in their 40's and older who would be very

happy to meet you. Don't give up.
My wife and I met while in our 40's, now married nearly 16 years. This is the best time I have ever had in my life.
mark

[Z_I_Peevey]

26. I am in my (gasp) early 50s, and I find that I'm quite content

being single at this stage in my life. Plenty of men are interested, but they all seem to want a WIFE, and I'm not going there again.

If you want a partner, I'm sure you'll find one when the time is right.

[MissMillie]

27. well, I'm about to turn 44

and no one ever wanted me....

[guitar man]

28. As Col Potter used to say on MASH

"Mule Fritters!!"

I'm 44 and I can tell you, all the women that catch my eye these days are definetly in the 35+ category. I really don't see the attraction to the 20 somethings that a lot of my friends in my age bracket do. I think 40+ can absolutely be teh hawtness, so get out there and strut your stuff!! :D :hi:

[mnhtnbb]

29. Connonym--don't give up! And no pity parties. Men are attracted

to women with self-confidence and energy. Make the most of what you have: if you need some new clothes or new hairstyle or new make-up, get them! Get involved with life. You'll soon find men wanting your
number.

[regularguy]

30. Everybody wants a 42 year old woman!

Everybody with brains and taste, anyway!

[evlbstrd]

31. Not so.

I'm 52 and lookin'...

[leftofthedial]

32. untrue premise

there are still a few good men in their 40's and 50's.

they might want to go more than a couple of miles though! ;-)

[Swede]

33. Get out there and mingle.

And snap out of this funk Connonym.

[Tyler Durden]

35. Silly girl.

If I was single and tried to date you, at 56 I'd be robbing the cradle.

[PVnRT]

36. When I was single, I wanted women in their 40's

Unfortunately, most didn't want to date a guy in his 20's.

[NashVegas]

37. Really? I'm Loving It

My second life began at 40 and it's so much better than the first.

[skooooo]

46. 40s are seeming a lot easier than my 30s or 20s

Thank god for that!!

[Lorien]

38. I'm 43 and more men are after me now than when I was in my 20s

:shrug:. Unfortunately, none of them are all that interesting to me!

[Zuiderelle]

39. Speak for yourself.

:shrug:

Not to be harsh, but your statement doesn't sit well with me. 42 is young.

[ismnotwasm]

40. They don't?

Well they're not after my money. Don't have any.

[Arugula Latte]

42. I'm a 42-year-old woman as well.

I KNOW there is someone -- and probably several someones -- out there for you. :hug:

[dembotoz]

43. beats the hell out of me--you are hot

If i wasn't WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYY to old for you--I would be
so after you.

I know you...You have everything a guy could want.

Not trying to make you feel better, its the damn truth.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

44. They don't want you if you say they don't want you.

:shrug:

[tigereye]

45. my 40s were great, and I don't think that's true...

hell, we women in our 40s and 50s have a lot to offer. 42 is the new 32, or something.

Keep thinking positive. If you feel sexy, you are sexy. I'm convinced of this. It's all in your attitude and how you carry yourself!