I'm totally hating people right now...

[bicentennial_baby]

They suck.

Who needs friends when they are crap?

Not me, that's who.

Grrrr.

x(

*disclaimer: not DU related*

[some guy]

1. ~

http://youtube.com/watch?v=meUtSjkVM5U

:)

:hug:

[bixente]

2. I would love to meet people

Still, there are times when I appreciate isolation, when I consider the moment "calm" rather than "lonely".

I hope the problem is only temporary.

[bicentennial_baby]

3. Aw, it's just my usual drama..

Me and people...I'm emotional like that, my friend. :pals:

[Lorien]

4. I'm with you there

I haven't had a phone call in two weeks from any friends, though I've left a message or two. A couple weeks ago two friends agreed to go to the movies with me Sunday. I emailed them the times, called them Sunday morning around 11 am to make final plans-but they never called or emailed me back. Second time they've done that, and they complain about "not getting out at all".

I also emailed 14 people about meeting for an event this Sunday two days ago. No one has emailed me back.

We're a planet full of nearly 7 billion lonely souls, yet everyone wants to be left alone. Or they are just plain rude. :shrug:

[bicentennial_baby]

5. I so hear that....

I'm in exactly the same boat! It's all people that are blowing me off and pissing me off! Grrrr!

:pals:

[Lorien]

10. ...

:pals:

[bixente]

6. "We're a planet full of nearly 7 billion lonely souls, yet everyone wants to be left alone."

Reminds me of this image of masses of Japanese walking across a crossing in some district of Tokyo. They're all around each other, so close, and yet not at all - so many have their heads buried in their mobile phone.

Of course it's a problem all over the world, people who have difficulty communicating. And yet I'm particularly interested in Japanese society and for varying reasons the population are so distant with face to face contact.

[Lorien]

11. I think that it's more of a modern problem, and a bigger problem here

and in Japan than in much of the rest of the world. Our two Nations share one thing in common; we live to work instead of working to live, or at least that the ideal put forth by the media and politicians. You're considered a "good and honorable citizen" if you work 60-80 hours a week. People are blowing one another off because of work, or blowing each other off so that they can LOOK like they are working, and not just playing with their Xbox 360.

I was born in the mid 60s. I can remember my parents friends coming over to visit several times a week during the 70s, a little less so in the 80s, and now my dad only sees a friend once a week and my mother has to carefully organize all of her get togethers (they're divorced). My best friend's parents were even more social. They have dinners with friends about three times a week, and went to parties almost every weekend. Now my friend says she lives NOTHING like her parents because none of her friends have the time to get together for anything more than a few minutes to pick up/ drop off their kids. My grandparents-born around 1911-had a steady stream of visitors up until the day they died. Getting together with friends was a daily ritual because they didn't have many other forms of entertainment. Now with HDTV, blueray, the internet, ipods, wii, etc. people want over the top entertainment and no longer know how to socialize. I went to two new years parties six months ago; one at a very "tech savvy" friend's home where many of the guests were under 30. Nearly the entire evening was spent playing "guitar hero" and there was minimal conversation. The other party was with some friends who were journalists, one the news director of the local NPR affiliate. Most of their guests were over 30, with a few over 50. There was wine, food, and a lot of great conversation. I think that technology is, at last, dehumanizing us. If not by itself, then by taking hours of our lives away to afford it when we could be getting to know other human beings instead.

And lastly, I think this is all a part of our Right Wing culture. As Micheal Moore says; our "rugged individualism" has turned us from "We the people" into "Me the people". The "your on your own; pull yourself up by your bootstraps" mentality certainly makes me work hard because I know that no one out there will ever be there for me, that I have to take care of every emergency on my own. No wonder we take ten times more anti-depressants than any other Nation on earth!

[Missy Vixen]

18. Lorien, those type of parties are incredible, aren't they?

>The other party was with some friends who were journalists, one the news director of the local NPR affiliate. Most of their guests were over 30, with a few over 50. There was wine, food, and a lot of great conversation. I think that technology is, at last, dehumanizing us.

I'd like to go to a party like that, so it looks like I'll have to plan one. I have to also agree with the poster who wrote about the "entertaining" friends. Maybe it's because I'm closer to fifty than probably everyone else on the thread, but the most fun we have is when we have a glass of wine or dinner with someone we enjoy talking with and who wants to truly interact. They're hard to find now. The last time we remember any kind of gathering like it was DH's fortieth birthday, three years ago.

Bicentennial Baby, I hope whatever it is that happened gets resolved, and another friend comes through as a result.

Julie

[Chan790]

9. That sounds like my friends.

So I go out and do the same stuff without them. Inevitably, I make new friends this way...then the old ones complain that my new friends are monopolizing my time. It's a no-win situation. :shrug:

[Neoma]

7. I'm the same way right now.

Misanthropes for the win!

[oedura]

8. People still have friends?!

From what I've seen all anybody does anymore is use people until they lose their entertainment value, then dump them.

What is this "friends" you speak of?

[Lorien]

12. Ouch. Hate to say it, but I've seen a lot of that too

either they lose their entertainment value-or their usefulness. When I worked for a film studio I used to get asked out to lunch or dinner by "friends" daily. But when I left the studio, I never got another call from those "friends"-until another friend (one of my few true friends) sold a property to Warner bros to have them turn it into a trilogy-then many of my old "friends" popped up again because they need the work!

I talk to one of my former coworkers every month, and she's been retired now for two years. She had been a supermodel in her youth,then she went to work for several film studios on some of the biggest blockbusters of all time. Now at age 60 all of her former "friends" (except myself and two others) have evaporated. The only time she goes out with anyone is when she sees extended family. It's absurd that it should be so difficult. One wonders why anyone wanted the glamorous jobs if they had no interest in gaining a few friends along the way. :shrug:

[CrownPrinceBandar]

13. So i guess its a bad time to hit you up for some cash?..........

:7

Seriously, I also have some "friends" like that. Hope it gets better.

[Forkboy]

14. I could have left that at "I'm totally hating people."

Who needs the "right now" part? :P

Hope things work out. You social people scare me. :)

:hug:

[BuelahWitch]

15. People who want to be "friends" with me

drop me as soon as I don't join their MLM or "cash gifting" clubs.

[Chan790]

16. um...those aren't friends.

They're con-artists.

[BuelahWitch]

17. No kidding

Which is why I put it in quotes. Some people think quiet people are pushovers for some reason. We're just observing those who are busy flapping their yaps.

[Chan790]

19. Oh I know...

I'm quiet on the outside, screaming deep on the inside. If you don't talk much, it's amazing what people will say in front of you.