You know what's hot? Men who adore kids.

[LaraMN]

It's probably an innate biological reproductive thing, but I have always had a *thing* for guys who are warm and comfortable around children.

I mention this, because a rather plain-looking man was walking up our alley with his little girl, and as soon as he picked her up and smooched her, he immediately became swoon-worthy in my eyes. It's pretty much a reflexive response for me.

[datasuspect]

1. i volunteer to be santa claus almost every year

[LaraMN]

2. That's just because you're into elves.

That doesn't count!

[RadiationTherapy]

3. Hmmm. I wish I had a picture of me and my daughter together...

Oh, wait...here's one!



Didn't get a chance to photoshop my wife out...hahahaha.

[LaraMN]

4. Awwww!

Totally adorable!

[RadiationTherapy]

14. Even with a soul patch? For reals??

[kwassa]

5. how's this?

about seven months ago

[LaraMN]

6. Ohhh!

That could not be ANY sweeter!

[demmiblue]

7. That is beautiful!

[joneschick]

10. gorgeous!

i'm guessing that's a favorite photo :hi:

[zanne]

15. There's something about a man holding a tiny baby...

It melts my heart.

[Midlodemocrat]

74. I LOVE that pic. Your daughter is adorable.

[kwassa]

79. Thanks! Here is a recent picture of her, on Easter morning

She has grown so much.

[Midlodemocrat]

83. God, she is absolutely beautiful! You are a lucky, lucky man.

[kwassa]

90. Thanks! We feel very lucky indeed.

She is just a great kid.

[Beer Snob-50]

8. How about men who embarass their kids?

I did a high school graduation party invitation for my son and included a picture of him at the age of 2 with a pair of his underwear on his head. Sent out to his relatives and family friends. I think he may be slightly miffed at me.

[LaraMN]

9. You mean he didn't appreciate the humor in it?!

For shame! I figure if you had to change their diapers, you're entitled to embarrassment rights.

[Beer Snob-50]

13. he is an 18 year old who doesn't always appreciate the finer points

of parental humor. i figure i put up with him for all these years i am entitled to this!

[mainegreen]

11. *ahem*

:D

[miss_american_pie]

42. Oh!

Adorable.

[Oeditpus Rex]

12. If I have to adore some freeper's kids to be 'hot'

I'll stay cold.

[LaraMN]

21. No worries...

it's not a pre-requisite for hotness, just one of many potentially compelling aspects.

Men who are appalled by Freepers are also hot.

:D :thumbsup:

[NNadir]

64. The sins of the father should not be placed on the head of a child.

My father was a Goldwater/Nixon supporter.

We had huge and loud political arguments.

But at the end of the day, he was a loving man, an excellent father, and there is not a day that I wish I could share him with my children.

[jobycom]

16. I like that in women, too.

Not the type who talk about their kids as burdens, or who only mention them in passing. I like to see signs of obsession, and a close bond. Someone who brags about their kids' accomplishments more than their own, or who tell me stories about their kids more than about themselves.

[demmiblue]

27. Thank you for that!

It is not often that us moms get credit for doting on our child(ren).

:hug:

[jobycom]

70. Hehe. Neither do us dads. nt

[guitar man]

17. :)

:hi:

[DarkTirade]

18. Must resist urge to make a 'they taste like chicken' joke...

... and suddenly I feel an urge to make a gingerbread house. Huh. :P

[DS1]

19. Well in that case, I just turned into

[LaraMN]

22. A small, colored box?

It was a 'shop of you eating a baby, wasn't it?

[NewJeffCT]

20. You mean like this?

[BarenakedLady]

23. I feel that way about guys and animals

I see a dude with a dog or cat and I melt.

[Deja Q]

30. I donated to a fund that brings awareness to endangered animals...

Oh, how do you feel about guys with parrots? :D

As for human children, I'm about as comfortable with them as Captain Picard is...

[BarenakedLady]

75. Any animal or bird would do

It's the caring/protection/loving of something other than themselves that says a lot.

[flvegan]

32. Note to self:

remember this post.

[BarenakedLady]

76. Heh

Like you didn't know chicks dig dudes with dogs.

:P

[Arugula Latte]

91. Men who love cats, in particular, are THE BEST.

I'm married to one.

My own observation is in general cat loving men they tend to be highly intelligent, secure in their masculinity, and have a great sense of humor. Plus, they tend to be liberal.

The Freeper types are more likely to be cat haters. Bleah. I can't stand men who say they hate cats. Fuck 'em.

[petronius]

24. I guess I'd better start responding to those enlargement e-mails,

or buy a sports car or something, because the kid-liking standard puts me right out of the running.

I do snuggle with my cat every morning, will that at least get me a second look?

[WritingIsMyReligion]

28. Cats are better than kids.

:hide:

:P :P

:)

[petronius]

33. No argument from me - kids don't get useful for a decade or more,

but my cat was keeping my toes warm and tracking down vermin as soon as his eyes were open... :)

[LucyParsons]

45. I agree (running away)

:applause:

[LaraMN]

29. It's just one of many potentially appealing traits!

I'm sure you have others! I bet cat snugglers are a fondness for many people.

[petronius]

34. Well, as near as I can figure, cat snugglers are a fondness for cats

(And according to my cat, snuggling with other humans is a waste of attention that could be lavished on the cat.) :)

[pitohui]

31. i wouldn't worry about, men who like kids are actually the opposite of hot

i've never understood the purpose of this kind of false pretense, actually, it's quite a turn-off to see some guy doting on a child, if it's his child it's a turn-off because why would i want to get romantically or sexually involved with a man who already has a child/family -- and if it isn't his child it's just downright creepy

so if we're honest with ourselves, no, a man with child is not hot, any more than a woman with child is hot, except to their immediate partners/spouses -- to the rest of us, no, definitely not hot

the word "hot" has a meaning, and it's a sexual meaning, now if she means it gives her a warm gooey feeling to see that the man dotes on his child fine, but that isn't "hot," any more than the warm gooey feeling you get from petting your cat is "hot"

[LaraMN]

35. Debbie Downer? Is that you?

Noting qualities that one finds inherently attractive is not equivalent to wanting to run out and bang them.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

53. Way to piss on a sweet, warm-hearted thread. Again.

[tigereye]

68. actually a lot of anthropologists I know would disagree with you...

[Midlodemocrat]

77. And we're off.

:eyes:

[skygazer]

86. What initially attracted me to Mr. Sky was the way he talked about his cat

So yes, I think that will definitely score points for you. :thumbsup:

[pdx_prog]

25. I would "climb any mountain" for them....:)

[LynzM]

26. Agreed!

Kindness and genuine interest in kids as people is an instant bump up in my eyes, as well. :)

[Cant trust em]

36. I'm sure that's how I got at least one girl to like me

I was playing with my nephew and I know that she likes kids.

[Wcross]

37. I like kids in theory, I just don't care to be around them!

Really. I will buy your girl scout cookies. I will contribute to kids charities. I will support your scout troop. I will gladly pay higher taxes to help educate children. I give to the shriners every year. I love children in theory but don't enjoy it too much when I am around them.

[LucyParsons]

47. Me, too - eloquently said

nt

[JI7]

38. Dogs also

it shows the guy is a really kind lovable type.

and it's an instant turnoff if i see any guy hurt a dog or other animal. i think these type of guys are just assholes all around.

[GreenPartyVoter]

39. I used to have this HOT poster of a very virile man's chest with the cutest baby cuddled in his arms

Talk about swoon-worthy!

Not this one, but something similar facing head-on.

[SPKrazy]

40. That makes me really hot then

:D

:hi:

[miss_american_pie]

44. That is a great picture

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

63. Thanks!

:hi:

[LucyParsons]

41. I am a 28 year old woman, and I TOTALLY disagree

Then again, I don't "get" the near-universal appeal of kids or babies.

Any guy that was TOO into that would make me run the opposite direction. Women who are so into babies really creep me out, too. I hate it when people bring them into the office.

:yoiks:

[LuckyTheDog]

48. You don't want to share a cubicle with me, then

I'm one of these dads who keeps three pictures of his son on his desk and loves to bring him in and show him off.

[LucyParsons]

50. You're right, I don't. Haha!

:)

Seriously, I don't blame you for wanting to have pics of your kids around you, but what makes you think other people want to be around your kid, or think he's particularly special, in a workplace?

Honestly, I just don't get that. I'm not going to bring my dog in and have him do tricks for my colleagues.

[LuckyTheDog]

51. The people I work with make a fuss over him

And sometimes they ask when he is coming back for a visit. I guess if the place wasn't so kid-friendly, I wouldn't do it. The odd thing is that, in other ways, my workplace is a dysfunctional place full of weird politics and hidden agendas. But, bring in a baby or a young child, and everybody swoons.

[LucyParsons]

52. Ew.

Haha.

I would like to point out that the social pressure, especially on women, to fake interest and swooning regarding children in the workplace, is quite intense.

[Captain Angry]

66. I'll sit in your cubicle.

I'm the kind that gets a little sarcastic to the other single folks in the office about stuff like that.

"Ok, we have proof that they've had sex, at least once."

I worked in a huge cube farm, somebody would bring in their child, half the room would stop working and become very loud. The other half of the room, now doing double the work couldn't hear the customers on the phone because of the noise.

I don't hate children by any stretch, but unless they're drawing a paycheck, they probably shouldn't be in the office too often. :-)

[Pierre.Suave]

43. I adore kids...

lets run away together and drink that Fat Tire now...

:P

[mike_c]

46. I guess that's it then....

I knew it would never have worked anyway.

[InvisibleTouch]

49. My version of that:

I love to see a guy with a tiny toy dog. Someone who's secure enough in his masculinity that he can dote on a tiny dog, and not "need" to have a Rottweiler or some such at his side. Nothing wrong with a guy walking a Rottweiler either, of course - any animal-lover gets plus-points from me - but it's even better when it's a tiny breed.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

55. You might like this, then,

though maybe not the caption so much.

[InvisibleTouch]

56. I do like that - thanks!

I can ignore the caption. :)

[THUNDER HANDS]

54. if it's their own kids, sure

any man who adores being around little kids who aren't his own, or his relatives, has a 50% chance of being a pedo, IMO.

[harmonicon]

82. really?

I like kids (I didn't for years), but I'm damn glad that I don't have any of my own. It's fun to be around my friends' kids, because you can be goofy with them, but don't have to deal with the crying or grades or any real responsibility. My girlfriend and I used to babysit this one kid, and we took him to McDonald's playland, and someone told him that my girlfriend was a "funny mommy", and he got really upset - it was great! "They're not my PARENTS!!!" .... just how I want it.

[skygazer]

87. So you suspect all male kindergarten teachers of being pedophiles?

Why would a man who likes to be around kids that aren't his automatically be a pedophile but a woman who does is not? That doesn't even begin to make sense.

Some people love kids. What a disturbing idea you have of men.

[LadyoftheRabbits]

57. So true...

My maternal instinct took years to kick in, long after my friends had started cooing over kids, but now a guy being sweet with children makes me swoon. :P

[Ptah]

58. You would like my father. Here we all are in 1958

[miss_american_pie]

59. Which one are you?

It's a wonderful picture. :hi:

[Ptah]

61. The blond silhouetted by the clouds.

Here's a birthday picture about the same time



:hi:

[Arugula Latte]

92. Oh my gosh ... Your little sister had FOUR older brothers?!?!

How was that for her? ... Looks like ya'll are kinda fond of her (or maybe just drooling over the cake)... ;)

[Midlodemocrat]

78. Pretty easy to see where you got your doting father behavior from.

:hug:

[Ptah]

89. Thanks.

:hug:

[Xipe Totec]

60. Why thank you!

:blush:

[Schema Thing]

62. Yeah, I'm pretty fucking awesome. Y'know who else is too?

Obama.


There is something going on in all those pics of him interacting with kids that just can't be faked.

[Fox Mulder]

65. I'm in trouble.

I can't stand kids.

Oh well.

[RetroLounge]

67. Thanks!

:hi:

RL

[tigereye]

69. couldn't agree more...

it's very sweet and nurturing. Love it.

[Ellen Forradalom]

71. Oh, it's much deeper than that.

Kids and animals CANNOT be fooled. They know who's on the up-and-up and who's full of shit. If an adult and kids are comfortable together, that speaks volumes about the adult's character.

For that very reason I swoon around men who are good with dogs. A happy, healthy dog is the best character reference to me.

[LucyParsons]

80. "If an adult and kids are comfortable together, that speaks volumes about the adult's character."

I don't like the inverse this is implying.

Some of us are just not comfortable around kids. Doesn't make us less human.

[huskerlaw]

84. I don't think that's necessarily what she means

the inverse, for me, is when a child flat out refuses to go near an adult. From what I've seen (and I've been around MANY children), that really doesn't have anything to do with the adult's comfort level.

As far as I'm concerned, it also has nothing to do with brief interactions you may have with kids you don't know. The warning sign is when a child won't go anywhere near their aunt, for example. One does have to wonder WHY. Kids don't much care if you have zero experience. But they do have an extremely good bullshit detector. As long as you're trying, they're fine. It's when adults either hurt them or really, honestly don't give a flying shit that children will pull away.

Given that definition of "comfortable"...I completely agree with the above post.

[SarahB]

72. When I first saw my husband in his Cubmaster uniform

acting like the big goofy, wonderful dad that he is, I knew I made a great choice (we had just gotten engaged). Then I attacked him (in a good, happy, smoochy way). :) I wish he was my children's bio-dad. Their's isn't awful, but he's not him.

[tjwmason]

73. Absolutely

Few more attractive traits in a man.

I'm afraid I'm not up for posting pictures of my niece and nephew on the internet - but suffice it to say that their uncle is happy to fuss endlessly over them.

[Bennyboy]

81. I used to be a hottie...... I loved kids.......

But after my marriage and the stepson, kids are a total deal breaker.

[Iggo]

85. Chicks, man.

So they get turned on by the most non-sexual thing we men do...take care of kids?

Wish I'd known this before the bad knees and the white mustache. Then again, it's probably better that I didn't.;-)

[Phillycat]

88. Hmm, I can't agree.

I don't much want kids and I'm awfully glad my husband has little interest in them either. He's good with kids, don't get me wrong, and so am I, but it's not something either of us are all that interested in. And it's definitely not a turn-on!

[applegrove]

93. I agree. I like nice guys too.