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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:03 PM Original message |
Is cheating on a partner ever okay? |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:04 PM Response to Original message |
1. If you have to call it cheating, then yes, it's bad. |
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DS1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:05 PM Response to Reply #1 |
3. this |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:09 PM Response to Reply #3 |
9. Agreed. |
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theredpen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:37 PM Response to Reply #1 |
60. Yeah, this is a little like asking if murder is always wrong |
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WritingIsMyReligion (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 07:54 AM Response to Reply #1 |
107. Agreed. |
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SPKrazy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:05 PM Response to Original message |
2. no, cheating is never okay |
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lightningandsnow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:05 PM Response to Original message |
4. I don't think it's OK. |
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Omphaloskepsis (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:12 PM Response to Reply #4 |
12. What she said.. |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:06 PM Response to Original message |
5. Hmm. I don't think it's ever "okay". |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:11 PM Response to Reply #5 |
11. That's a great point. |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:17 PM Response to Reply #11 |
17. Ouch!! That would HURT! |
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Tyler Durden (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:21 PM Response to Reply #11 |
67. YOU ARE NOT A UNIQUE AND BEAUTIFUL SNOWFLAKE! |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 10:06 PM Response to Reply #67 |
90. LOL! |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:33 PM Response to Reply #5 |
23. Forgivable, possibly... |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:58 PM Response to Reply #5 |
41. I used to think it was forgivable |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:04 PM Response to Reply #41 |
49. It's certainly not always forgivable. It's probably mostly not forgivable. |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:09 PM Response to Reply #49 |
51. That's the thing. |
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lizziegrace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:38 PM Response to Reply #51 |
61. Forgiveness may never come |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:28 PM Response to Reply #41 |
68. It can be |
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RetroLounge (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 08:13 PM Response to Reply #68 |
74. I just don't know... |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 12:45 AM Response to Reply #74 |
97. Urges and feelings do NOT need to be acted upon. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 03:46 AM Response to Reply #97 |
99. Of course, but there's a fine line between |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 05:11 AM Response to Reply #74 |
100. big hug |
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zingaro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 05:06 PM Response to Reply #41 |
165. I *say* I've forgiven him but |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:06 PM Response to Original message |
6. Nope. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:14 PM Response to Reply #6 |
14. Yep. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:25 PM Response to Reply #14 |
20. That's just a perfect description of my ex. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:48 PM Response to Reply #20 |
31. Ewww |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:55 PM Response to Reply #31 |
37. Thanks. |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:54 PM Response to Reply #20 |
36. So you replace a cheating ass with a guy who works out a lot and saves puppies. |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:56 PM Response to Reply #36 |
40. There was a non-offensive sofa lump in between. |
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flvegan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 07:09 PM Response to Reply #20 |
71. Veto rights? |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 10:16 PM Response to Reply #71 |
91. Yeah, that was when I was young and stupid. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:17 PM Response to Reply #14 |
167. so you were once an asshole and now are no longer an asshole? |
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lost-in-nj (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:08 PM Response to Original message |
7. no it's not |
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Haole Girl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:09 PM Response to Original message |
8. Ever okay? |
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hisownpetard (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:10 PM Response to Original message |
10. Cheating is never ok. Period. |
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LaurenG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:13 PM Response to Original message |
13. I can't say it is, but then my partner has cheated on me |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:15 PM Response to Reply #13 |
16. I've been cheated on too. |
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AlCzervik (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:14 PM Response to Original message |
15. no. |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:22 PM Response to Original message |
18. I suppose if you're |
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Connonym (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:16 PM Response to Reply #18 |
81. ok not to get to persnickity but if someone is holding a gun to your head it's rape |
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supernova (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:19 PM Response to Reply #81 |
156. Actually it is persnickity |
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Connonym (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Feb-19-08 06:36 AM Response to Reply #156 |
170. so you're saying if your partner was raped you'd consider it cheating? |
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Callalily (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:23 PM Response to Original message |
19. There is ABSOLUTELY no |
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lizziegrace (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:28 PM Response to Original message |
21. end the existing relationship (completely) |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:31 PM Response to Original message |
22. Anyone who does should be cheated ON... |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:55 PM Response to Reply #22 |
38. omg omg someone take a screenshot |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:00 PM Response to Reply #38 |
44. It'd be far worse if everyone agreed with everyone else on everything. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:04 PM Response to Reply #44 |
48. Hee! |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
24. no |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:41 PM Response to Reply #24 |
26. Huh? |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:45 PM Response to Reply #26 |
28. of course not |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:46 AM Response to Reply #28 |
125. that is a tough one |
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Withywindle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:41 PM Response to Original message |
25. No, with a caveat. |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:45 PM Response to Reply #25 |
30. I double-checked, this ain't GDP, but it's cool. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:53 PM Response to Reply #25 |
34. Word word and also? Word. |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:58 PM Response to Reply #34 |
42. If people can be affected by others, then in any society where people care about each other, |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:10 PM Response to Reply #42 |
52. Ah, the million dollar question |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:36 PM Response to Reply #52 |
84. That's cool. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 10:05 PM Response to Reply #84 |
89. We've actually just done it. |
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SarahB (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:44 PM Response to Original message |
27. No, it's not. |
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Jamastiene (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:45 PM Response to Original message |
29. No. n/t |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:48 PM Response to Original message |
32. Not a good day to ask. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:54 PM Response to Reply #32 |
35. Aww. |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:00 PM Response to Reply #35 |
45. Nah |
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FlyingSquirrel (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:06 PM Response to Reply #45 |
78. You walk around barenaked, what do ya expect? |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:55 PM Response to Reply #32 |
39. Boo! |
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BarenakedLady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:01 PM Response to Reply #39 |
46. Blah! |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:52 PM Response to Original message |
33. If you have to cheat on them to save the world from immanent destruction... |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:02 PM Response to Reply #33 |
47. I gave up primo J-Rocker ass for my then-BF. |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:06 PM Response to Reply #47 |
50. ... I'm not into the group thing but for that I'd probably ask if I could join in. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:12 PM Response to Reply #50 |
54. I never understood the band groupie thing until I went to that show. |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:13 PM Response to Reply #54 |
55. Damn... I need to get a band going. :P |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:16 PM Response to Reply #55 |
56. I would have to stay away |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:16 PM Response to Reply #56 |
57. Could you? |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:17 PM Response to Reply #57 |
58. I don't know. |
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DarkTirade (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:32 PM Response to Reply #58 |
69. Few can. |
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Inchworm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 03:59 PM Response to Original message |
43. keyword -partner... nope |
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citizen snips (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:12 PM Response to Original message |
53. No |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 04:26 PM Response to Original message |
59. My personal belief is that its a form of cowardice and the dishonesty... |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:06 PM Response to Original message |
62. It's human. It happens. |
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Blue_In_AK (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:11 PM Response to Original message |
63. It's not "okay," but it does happen |
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GirlinContempt (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:42 AM Response to Reply #63 |
139. Whenever I read threads like these |
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Blue_In_AK (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 03:54 PM Response to Reply #139 |
162. Thanks for the understanding. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:13 PM Response to Original message |
64. There was a thread about this a while back and I got flamed for being judgmental |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 07:03 PM Response to Reply #64 |
70. I just happen |
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PassingFair (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:14 PM Response to Original message |
65. Could you respect someone who had TWICE taken back a cheating spouse? |
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Muttocracy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:20 PM Response to Reply #65 |
82. one of her judgement calls I don't get nt |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:49 PM Response to Reply #65 |
87. Not my marriage. |
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zingaro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 05:22 PM Response to Reply #65 |
166. But what business is it of yours? Or anyone else's for that matter? |
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NNadir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 06:15 PM Response to Original message |
66. No. |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 07:54 PM Response to Original message |
72. no, it is sleazy and disgusting |
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terrya (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 07:55 PM Response to Original message |
73. Never. Under any circumstances. |
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enigmatic (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 08:20 PM Response to Original message |
75. no n/t |
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OPERATIONMINDCRIME (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 08:35 PM Response to Original message |
76. Cheating Is Never Ok, And Is Always The Act Of A Selfish Coward. |
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Adsos Letter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 08:57 PM Response to Original message |
77. No. |
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MilesColtrane (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:07 PM Response to Original message |
79. Better question: if you do "fuck up" and cheat on your partner... |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:51 PM Response to Reply #79 |
88. That is an interesting question indeed. |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 10:16 PM Response to Reply #79 |
92. I've been both cheater and cheated on |
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Adsos Letter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 12:34 AM Response to Reply #92 |
94. I respect your opinion as someone having been there; however, |
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Tuesday Afternoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:13 PM Response to Original message |
80. NO. Essentially, you are cheating on yourself. |
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Sultana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:20 PM Response to Original message |
83. Hell No! |
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Generic Brad (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:41 PM Response to Original message |
85. In my marriage - no |
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Yavin4 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 09:44 PM Response to Original message |
86. Short of Murder And Violent Assault, Cheating Is The Worst Thing You Could Ever Do In A Relationship |
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TrogL (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Feb-17-08 10:26 PM Response to Original message |
93. If they're allowed to watch? |
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Deep13 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 12:37 AM Response to Original message |
95. No, all receipts and expenses must be on the record. |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 12:42 AM Response to Original message |
96. Cheaters suck. Always. There is no excuse. |
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asteroid2003QQ47 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:15 AM Response to Original message |
98. PeaceNikki is a breath of fresh air. |
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LeftyFingerPop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 05:51 AM Response to Original message |
101. I know plenty of situations where it is "okay" |
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TZ (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 06:01 AM Response to Reply #101 |
102. Not when children are involved |
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LeftyFingerPop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 06:08 AM Response to Reply #102 |
103. Then in your particular situation... |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:25 AM Response to Reply #103 |
121. Then the father is dealing with the situation immaturely and isn't helping matters.... |
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LeftyFingerPop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:59 AM Response to Reply #121 |
127. I have no idea if the problem would be solved by... |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:12 AM Response to Reply #127 |
130. I was making a judgment based on the information presented... |
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LeftyFingerPop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:17 AM Response to Reply #130 |
134. again.... |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:28 AM Response to Reply #134 |
135. Like I said before, I'm offering judgment based on the information presented... |
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LeftyFingerPop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:29 AM Response to Reply #135 |
136. and i'm saying.... |
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KansDem (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:42 AM Response to Reply #103 |
140. "And we never know the full story until we walk in the shoes..." |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 09:35 AM Response to Reply #101 |
111. no shit. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:13 AM Response to Reply #101 |
116. Well said. (nt) |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:41 AM Response to Reply #101 |
137. I guess it depends on how you're defining 'okay.' |
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Phillycat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:47 AM Response to Reply #137 |
142. What a great post. |
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Crabby Appleton (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 06:24 AM Response to Original message |
104. Cheating is never ok. nt |
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Joe Bacon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 07:11 AM Response to Reply #104 |
105. Sure it is. It's OK if You are Republican |
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asteroid2003QQ47 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 07:12 AM Response to Original message |
106. Hypocrites please stand. |
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Ellen Forradalom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 08:07 AM Response to Reply #106 |
108. John 8. |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 08:33 AM Response to Original message |
109. i don't do monogamy. |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:56 AM Response to Reply #109 |
126. same here |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 09:30 AM Response to Original message |
110. yes i do. i am disappionted that you of all people dont understand that people |
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TZ (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 09:43 AM Response to Reply #110 |
113. Maybe some of us are judgemental because we have been DAMAGED by this |
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Solon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:13 AM Response to Reply #110 |
117. Cheating is ultimately an act of cowardice and selfishness on the part of the cheater... |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 01:49 PM Response to Reply #117 |
147. Excellent post. And I feel regardless of how much |
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EstimatedProphet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 09:37 AM Response to Original message |
112. No, it isn't |
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chromotone (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:05 AM Response to Original message |
114. Don't call it "cheating;" call it "Enhanced Personalizing." |
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IndianaJones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:12 AM Response to Original message |
115. only one outcome...public stoning. nt. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:17 AM Response to Reply #115 |
120. strongly agreed ... |
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IndianaJones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:26 AM Response to Reply #120 |
122. its part of my strong judeo-christian traditions. no gray areas for things I deem to be evil. nt. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:28 AM Response to Reply #122 |
124. its part of my high horse religion too |
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Iggo (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:15 AM Response to Original message |
118. NOPE !!!!! |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:15 AM Response to Original message |
119. Okay? That's a judgment call. Understandable? I say yes. |
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IndianaJones (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 10:28 AM Response to Reply #119 |
123. amen...this subject seems to bring out some very judgmental, narrow thinking. nt. |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:05 AM Response to Reply #123 |
129. I think that's because people imagine it happening TO them, out of context. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:14 AM Response to Reply #129 |
131. are you sure public stoning isnt in order? you know the boy who cheated on you when he was 15 |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:15 AM Response to Reply #131 |
132. Who the fuck would dare cheat on me? |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:15 AM Response to Reply #132 |
133. ... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:00 AM Response to Original message |
128. It's not "okay". But it happens, it can be forgiveable. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 01:45 PM Response to Reply #128 |
146. "The only people who can really judge are the people involved." |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:42 AM Response to Original message |
138. Having been on both ends of the equation.... |
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mondo joe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:45 AM Response to Reply #138 |
141. Good, wise post. I've been told cheating doesn't ruin marriages, ruined marriages lead to cheating. |
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SacredCow (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 12:20 PM Response to Reply #141 |
143. I can get on board with that.... |
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NewJeffCT (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 01:13 PM Response to Original message |
144. I can understand it, but I don't think that makes it okay ever |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 01:42 PM Response to Original message |
145. sure we can all think of circumstances where it's okay |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 01:56 PM Response to Reply #145 |
148. Er, no. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 01:58 PM Response to Reply #148 |
149. bullshit. you know your partner the best and sometimes things are unsaid between people |
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Chovexani (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:06 PM Response to Reply #149 |
152. Eh, maybe I'm bizarre. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:09 PM Response to Reply #152 |
154. no, i wouldnt want to hear about it. what works for you doesn't for others |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:23 PM Response to Reply #154 |
157. Why are you assuming relationships have these "gray" areas? |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:13 PM Response to Reply #149 |
155. That is you. And she should probably know that about your relationship. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:30 PM Response to Reply #155 |
159. yeah that is me, and this is my point. different people have different desires |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:31 PM Response to Reply #159 |
160. Well if the standard of your relationship is not to cheat (which |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:02 PM Response to Reply #148 |
150. Exactly. |
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redqueen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 03:57 PM Response to Reply #148 |
163. It's not that it's just you... but everyone is not like you. |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 04:56 PM Response to Reply #148 |
164. you discuss it first? why? to be cruel? |
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Scout (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:03 PM Response to Original message |
151. NO, it is not ok. n/t |
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Shell Beau (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:07 PM Response to Original message |
153. It is never ok. Intentionally causing someone else pain that can be helped |
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GoddessOfGuinness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 02:24 PM Response to Original message |
158. "I'm sorry I cheated." "Oh, that's ok." |
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LanternWaste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 03:16 PM Response to Original message |
161. All other things being equal... |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:22 PM Response to Original message |
168. Only if it's out of spite! |
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greenbriar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Feb-18-08 11:28 PM Response to Original message |
169. NEVER EVER is it okay |
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Orsino (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Feb-19-08 06:56 AM Response to Original message |
171. By definition, it's not okay. |
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LuckyTheDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Feb-19-08 07:33 AM Response to Original message |
172. No (nt) |
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ILovePizza (31 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Feb-19-08 07:35 AM Response to Original message |
173. No, no, no! |
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sendero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Feb-19-08 07:43 AM Response to Original message |
174. I did once... |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue Feb-19-08 08:00 AM Response to Original message |
175. if you were doing it to prevent from freezing to death |
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