If you don't like it, do it your damned self! (my rant of the day)

[xmas74]

I'm a room mother. I have a co-mother who is supposed to assist me but hasn't done jack all year long except take credit at parties. I tend to be a very organized person, sending out info to all parents weeks in advance and making additional follow-up calls closer to the party.

Well, this time I dropped the ball. I began calling two weeks in advance and was able to reach exactly two on my list. In the past 17 days I've had one day off of work-one day!-and have worked a number of 12 and 14 hour shifts during that time. On my one day off during this time I had to go to the prosecutor's office to talk to them about a child support case. (My ex was picked up on his warrant and I will probably have to make a statement-if he shows.) I've had a busy time of it.

I've tried to contact the parents but to no avail. Finally I made contact with one parent tonight. Instead of saying "No problem" or "Do you need any help" she chose to bitch me out for contacting her so late. When I stated that I've been quite busy at work she stated that we're all busy and that it's no excuse.

Look here you sack of shit-you have one child, schoolage. You are a stay at home parent who spends her days getting massages, manis and pedis and hanging out at the country club. You do nothing but send a snack to school and then act as if we should all kiss your feet for doing so. Don't act as if I'm interrupting something so much more so important. I'm not.

I've worked 14 hours today. I'm exhausted and I'm not in the mood. Don't fuck with me and quit treating me like white trash. If you don't like the way things are then run the party your own damn self!

(And a message to the other bitchy mother: you manage a bakery, for fuck's sake! Don't act as if you have to go out of your way to get a snack for the classroom. You can order it when you go in for work in the morning and take it out with you in the afternoon!)

[joneschick]

1. I heart xmas74!

when my kids (3 of them) were little I got such shit for not volunteering enuf! never mind going to school just short of FT and working 3 PT jobs most semesters. I mean really, I was only a PT student--why wasn't I taking care of their kids too? grrrr.
Rant on gurl. You're doing more than your share, know it. :hi:

[xmas74]

2. Thank you.

I work a full time and a part time job. I'm currently taking a few classes. And I have all kinds of personal crap going on at home.

I'm just so sick and tired of the shit.

[fortyfeetunder]

3. Sorry you have to go thru that

Too bad some parents don't understand we are stronger if we work together....

Hang in there, you are appreciated (at least here on DU!) :hi:

[xmas74]

6. Thank you.

This is one of the parents who doesn't understand that there might be something else going on in my life besides a party. Everything is about her and her kid.

[MorningGlow]

4. Oh lordy I hear you

My son goes to a cooperative preschool and I have had it up to HERE with all the crap I have to do (and pay for the privilege, no less). Maybe it's the week or something--I nearly threw plastic gallon containers of fingerpaints at the other mommies who were "assisting" in the classroom at the same time I was, last Wednesday. Guess who was doing all the required cleaning of the classroom while the other two sat on their asses with their kids and listened to "storytime"? :grr:

You're doing fine, xmas74. Phk 'em.

[xmas74]

7. Oh,

I know that routine quite well. I volunteered with another activity a few years ago where I was the one who cleaned everything while the others "supervised".

That pisses me off. You writing it out brings back some very unpleasant memories of a few other moms.

Wait-I believe she was one of the moms who pulled the cleaning stunt on me a few years ago, now that I think about it. Now I'm really mad.

[BlueIris]

5. Dontcha just hate SAHMs who...aren't?

Aren't mothers, that is. My mother stayed at home with us for the first seven years of my life. So she could, you know, spend time with and care for us. Not just...stay home.

[xmas74]

8. I wanted to stay at home.

That was the original plan-I'd stay at home and he'd work. We had the budget figured out-car payments, insurances all around, house, utilities, groceries, etc. We had the first three years figured out and then-well, it didn't turn out.

I still feel guilty about working when she was a baby. (Well, working her entire life.) I do everything I can to make it up to her but in this case I just want to scream. I can't stand it when I get everything thrown at me.