Dumped again and I am numb. These Saturday nights... good or bad?

[crim son]

[w8liftinglady]

1. Is it ok to know-You aren't alone?

[crim son]

5. I guess I'm not.

Thanks!

[Adsos Letter]

2. It has been years since a certain Christmas Eve...

...but whenever I think of it, it still causes pain...

Hang in there

:hug:

[crim son]

7. Certain Christmas tree.

God, but what those word conjure. You have my greatest empathy, however imperfect.

[Adsos Letter]

9. And you, mine...

[Fire Walk With Me]

3. Bring it to the Lounge and we'll get you through it.

[crim son]

8. I believe it, my friend.

But I've been dating a repuke and a man who, when he despairs, shows it with somewhat violent actions. Naturally, people mistrust. They aren't wrong.

Too much wine. Thanks for posting, Peake -L

[Fire Walk With Me]

12. You need not find another like him.

Know that you sometimes let people like this into your life for whatever reason, and that you don't have to any more. You are complete as a human being and infinite value and uniqueness to share. Allowing people to damage you in hopes that they'll come past the damaging actions and see you and your worth, can be left behind.

You have some work to do in order to see and release whatever experiences and self-judgements have brought you into this place, but they can indeed be seen and released, and there are plenty of people out there who will help you to see yourself.

I wish you the best and look forward to hearing what happens in your life.

[crim son]

14. Peake. You make me think.

Tthank you for that. :hug:

[patricia92243]

20. Wow! "Allowing people to damage you in hopes that they'll come past the damaging actions and

"Allowing people to damage you in hopes that they'll come past the damaging actions and see you and your worth, can be left behind."


Great food for thought. That thought can be slightly reworded to fit each person's particular situation, but the main essence still remains - and is so true.

Thanks for the post.

[Fire Walk With Me]

22. There must be a reason you're allowing yourself to be injured by others.

The reason has to go, and then they will.

I've seen enough people go through this that the first question in my mind is "what are you hoping for" regarding the situation. What do you want so badly that you allow it to continue? No one wants to be beaten or abused. People want to be recognized and accepted and appreciated. Those with a history of abuse may find abuse, and seeking appreciation from those who abuse, normal. But as always, impossible.

We can only make decisions from the experiences we've had and those we've learned of.

[regnaD kciN]

16. Well, there's your problem right there!

And it should be a simple one to fix...

I think everybody, at least once in their lives, finds themselves getting involved with someone who is completely wrong for them on many levels -- philosophical, emotional, intellectual. The worst of it is when we (and I'm not specifically including you in this) get either emotionally-dependent or just plain stubborn to "show the world they're wrong about us" that we can't let go even though we know it's necessary.

It sounds like, in your case, it was necessary.

Anyway, try to avoid the Publicans from now on, won't you? And let this be one more reason why DU needs its own singles/dating board! ;-)

[Starbucks Anarchist]

4. No idea.

:hug:

[crim son]

6. Well, you cannot let my life be any guide.

SA. Thanks for the hug.

[Inchworm]

10. Saturday nights suck or not

I'm rather disjoint atm if thats even a word. I'm happy and not at the same time. Bifurcated like a yolk with egg white...

But for you...

:hug:

[crim son]

11. Dear friend, if I could be bifurcated then I'd find some ease.

Thank you for the hug. :hug:

[johnnie]

13. I'm sorry

I find it better to be single myself, I love people, but they can be a pain. I used to be bummed out because I had no one to share my life with, but as time went on I realized that my time spent alone was just too friggin' good.

I wouldn't take his "dumping" personal, I would just look at it as he hasn't gotten his shit together and it's better for you because you don't need to be a mommy to him.

It's easy, if someone doesn't dig you for who you are, fuck 'em. Life is short and there's not enough time to please fuckers. Be selfish.

[crim son]

15. I think it's harder because I don't take it personally.

I get where he's coming from, I really do. But I can't change me and all I can do is be an example to him. I'm so scarily new to this being single shit, at my age. People have their groteque insecurities while I am on fairly solid turf. Give me time and I wil question myuelf as everybody else does...

[Ellen Forradalom]

21. Amen, brother

I am starting to enjoy my time on my own more than ever.

[Guava Jelly]

17. That just means you are free for a new torrid love affair

Hey cutie :D
:hug:

[billyskank]

18. I'm sorry to hear that.

You must live in a desert devoid of decent men. :(

[regnaD kciN]

19. I don't think Maine qualifies as a "desert"...

...but it can be thinly-populated in places. And cold, starting around this time of year.

[TK421]

23. I'm sorry

:( wish there was something I could do

[Maestro]

24. Sorry to hear that.

Good or bad? I really couldn't tell you, but the guy is a repuke and you have described a few things about him that do not seem well so it is probably for the better. You are a gorgeous woman. You just need to find the right one. It may take time, but enjoy the buffet while looking. :hug: