Why do women think that geeky, pencilnecked dorkwads are sexy?

[Bucky]

Trust me, 10 years from now none of these guys are going to have time to sort their dragonball cards.

[redqueen]

1. I think intelligence is sexy.

Sue me.

[fudge stripe cookays]

12. Yep, me too!

:D

[Tyler Durden]

17. Bless you.

Never helped me until lately...

[redqueen]

20. I like the sound of...

"until lately"

:)

[Tyler Durden]

23. Well....7 years lately.

Deb is my SO and bud. She searched for ME specifically; very flattering to geeky/dweeb type.

[redqueen]

28. Recent or not, it's good news...

and I'm happy for ya. :)

I'm ALWAYS the one doing the seeking out... so... yay me!... or... something. :P

[Tyler Durden]

30. Guess when you're pushing 55, 7 years doesn't sound as long as it is!

Meaning ME of course, not YOU.

I have this image of you in my head as another potential member of my DU Crush List.

[redqueen]

31. Awwww

:blush:

Thanks for saying how long it took... I feel so lonely sometimes... I need to settle down and just relax.

:hi:

[Tyler Durden]

41. Throw a flirt this way anytime you want.

I'll just add you to my "DU Crush List."

[billyskank]

2. Geeky awkward kids often grow up into handsome adults.

The story of the ugly duckling has a kernel of truth to it.

[SOteric]

7. So true.

The geekiest, most awkward fellow in our prep school grew into quite a handsome and debonair young man. We'd never have guessed when looking at him in school. His features were too large for his face, his shyness got in the way of his personality, and he was hopelessly enrapt in subjects too esoteric for the average teenager. At our reunion he was elegantly dressed, athletically built, ruggedly handsome and a delight to speak with.

I would add that I think his wife, a beautiful woman who managed to see a diamond in the rough in that awkward fellow, had a great deal to do with the self-confidence that helped him blossom.

[JVS]

9. Or they often grow into geeky awkward adults

[redqueen]

21. Who are just as adorable...

MHO of course :)

[TZ]

3. Smart is sexy

really. I usually am attracted to that smart geeky type (my current interest is a self-described nerd actually)

[CrownPrinceBandar]

4. They do?........

Hell, that's news to me. I wonder if one will play some D&D w/ me?

[MysticalChicken]

5. I am so attracted to skinny geeky guys

I love that look. Glasses are very, very sexy to me.

[DarkTirade]

6. Because of the size of their...

bank accounts.
:evilgrin:

[ghostsofgiants]

8. In my experience, they don't...

x(

[JVS]

10. Testify brother!

[Omphaloskepsis]

13. Yeah, the skinny, geeky guy with glasses thing isn't working out so well here.

Luckily my award winning personality attracts the ladies. It must be that or copious amounts of alcohol.

[LeftyMom]

11. Smart is sexy in any package.

I'm biased though, I did debate and academic decathlon in school.
:)

[skyblue]

14. Alot of 'em grow up to be musicians? Or they're just challenging.

[Lethe]

15. because they get a stable job earning over $100,000 a year?

well, thats the first thing that came to mind :D

edit: and i find your word "dorkwad" to be offensive hate speech, u asshole

[Manifestor_of_Light]

16. Was Carl Sagan a geeky, pencilnecked dorkwad? I like intelligent life.

And somebody to fix my computer when Windoze shits its pants, make a color-coded breaker schematic of my house, be my audio engineer when I record music (we're both musicians), burn my CDs, design the cover art, print the CD labels, write music, check the oil, mow the lawn, air up the tires, spackle the holes in the wall, change all my bulbs to squirrelly fluorescents to save money, explain relativity to me and why gravity is so important to it....(duh), squeeze my buns, tell me I'm gorgeous........

and he doesn't spend any time playing computer games or watching sports! He'd rather read H. P. Lovecraft.


For a religious experience, we watch the third episode of COSMOS where Johannes Kepler searches for the structure of the solar system in despair, using perfect solids, and finally hits on elliptical orbits!


Engineers/programmers ROCK! Even unemployed ones!

[HughBeaumont]

18. 1987 vs present day:

That's why.

[distantearlywarning]

19. I married a geek.

He's good in bed!

(Also, I'm pretty geeky too, so we are a well-matched pair)

[redqueen]

22. It's not about money, that's for sure.

SALES guys make more than nerd / geek types... ask any engineer. :7

[NewWaveChick1981]

24. Because beef does not equal brains.

:P :rofl: I'd rather be with an intelligent guy who doesn't necessarily meet Chippendale's standards that a dumbass beefcake guy any day. :D

Of course, intelligent beefcake is welcome anytime too....:D

[skygazer]

25. What is it you think women should find sexy?

I often find that men think certain things are attractive to women that, to a lot of women, aren't. Or at least not as much as the men think.

Take athletic prowess, for instance. Men seem to think women must be all over a guy who's a star athlete - and a lot of women are. But a whole lot of women could care less and even find it rather juvenile and boring.

Or bulging muscles. Some women love 'em. But a lot of women don't care one way or another - they're not looking for some musclebound Adonis to protect them.

See, men are very often (I don't say "always" - I'm not going to generalize) focused on looks. Women certainly notice looks but we also notice actions and minds. And a lot of time, those you describe as "geeky, pencilnecked dorkwads" are interesting, funny, smart, polite, gentlemanly and not so into themselves that they can't appreciate the person they're with.

That's sexy.

[redqueen]

26. Kinda like women thinking men like certain things...

someday we'll ignore the media's take on it (since they're just trying to sell things) and just talk to each other. :)

[NewJeffCT]

33. talking to each other would be a novel idea!

better not let people hear you say that! :silly:

But, while I think plenty of men notice things beyond a woman's appearance, I do think men (in general) tend to be more oriented towards appearances in the opposite sex than women. Though, I think there are plenty of exceptions among both men and women.

[redqueen]

34. Yeah... that's what makes it so hard...

the obviousness that as a rule, guys are more about looks. *sigh*

I hope that changes... I really do. :(

[NewJeffCT]

36. I do think it is changing

but, it's changing at a slower pace than most people want.

Sort of like women in the workforce. 30-40 years ago, most women in office environments were secretaries or did lower level clerical or customer service type of work. Women executives were very few and very far between, and it was rare to even have women in middle management. Nowadays, women executives are still an exception, but they are far more common than even 10 years ago, and there are many women in middle management. I'm guessing that in 10-20 years, nobody will blink an eye at a female CEO, CFO or similar. It is something that should have changed faster, but it hasn't. It's been more of an evolutionary change, not a revolutionary one.

And, I think as more women get more common in those senior roles, it will affect relationships and male-female dynamics, in a positive way.

If that makes sense to you.

[Ariana Celeste]

27. I love geeks

I can have conversations with them that doesn't have to include cars, sports, or lesbian twins.

[redqueen]

29. Eh... I like geeks who like sports and cars and... well...

Sports and cars works for me! :)

[Ariana Celeste]

37. Lol.

Okay, let me rephrase: I love sci fi, fantasy, video game, rpg geeks. I can talk to them about my interests! :D

[NewJeffCT]

32. I'm a geeky dork, yet I've managed to marry two intelligent and attractive women

And, I'm still trying to figure out why... the best I can tell is temporary insanity.

I was shyest in my class in both junior high and high school. I didn't have a date until my sophomore year of college, didn't even kiss a woman until I was a senior in college, and didn't get laid until a few weeks after college...

I played D&D from junior high on through my mid to late 20s, then picked it up again in my mid 30s. I was even in the D&D club in high school.

I collected comic books from elementary school through 1990 or 1991, and read of ton of sci-fi and fantasy novels, too, and those were my favored types of TV shows as well.

I'm pretty geeky overall.

[redqueen]

39. Pfff... temporary insanity my arse end.

Shy guys are often nice guys. :hi:

[NewJeffCT]

40. I cover my evil nature under a cloak of niceness

But, I do honestly sometimes pinch myself and think about how lucky I am...

[Richard Steele]

35. I blame Bill Gates- he's skewing the curve! nm

[Seashell Eyes]

38. awwww

These look like the guys I had crushes on in middle school. Nerds tend to be nicer than hunky meatheads, in my experience.

[CraftyGal]

42. My husband is geeky...

You all know TrogL. He the man for me. He is very geeky and he has other charming quirks to his personality. So there you have heard from a woman who thinks that a geeky man is sexy.

Crafty

[Mythsaje]

43. Uh...since when? n/t