Do you ever feel...

[SPKrazy]

insecure?

I mean I'm 46 fucking years old!

Yet sometimes I feel like a 15 year old in terms of feeling insecure.

I don't like this about myself. I've worked to change it over the years and yet, there is a core issue in there that haunts me and it really pisses me off that it does. I get to feeling insecure about myself sometimes and it makes me a little crazy.

Anyone else like that?

:shrug:

[Heidi]

1. Yes. I feel insecure

every time I have to wear grownup shoes. x(

Nice to see you, my Arkansas friend. :hug:

[SPKrazy]

3. nice to see you too

Heidi, my Arkansas by way of Oklahoma now in Switzerland friend :P

:hug:

[Heidi]

8. Thank you for the hug, smartypants.

I have to wear grownup shoes tomorrow. Got anything for _that_? :rofl: :spray:

[SPKrazy]

10. Well...

I go for the least grown up kind of shoes I can get away with wearing :rofl:

:hug:

:hi:

[Heidi]

13. High-heeled flip-flops for both of us, then!

[SPKrazy]

15. oh yeah, cool indeed!

look very spiffy on me I'm sure Heidi :eyes:


:rofl:


goof! :spray:

[Heidi]

18. That's the thanks I get

for my deft attempt at making you the most well-dressed man in the Ozarks?

Hrmmmmmmmph. :P

[SPKrazy]

19. Wow, now I feel really horrible...

NOT!!!!!





:hide:














:hi:








:hug:

[Art_from_Ark]

2. I'm about your age

and I'm going through some big-time insecurity issues myself.

Otherwise known as "mid-life crisis"

[SPKrazy]

4. Oh... no doubt that's gone on since I was about 40

one would think I'd get over it... I think that the insecurity is the thing that my mid life crisis is about...

thanks

:pals:

where in Ark are you?

[Art_from_Ark]

9. I used to be in Wal-Mart Land

just a few blocks down from the original store, and next town over from their World Headquarters.

Now I'm in the Land of the Rising Sun. :hi:

[SPKrazy]

11. Okay, well...

you escaped, good on ya!

:hi:

I'm a transplant here myself
in Ft. Smith

[Art_from_Ark]

16. Ahhh, Ft. Smith

Home of funny vote counting in the '74 Congressional race, when Bill Clinton tried to oust long-term Congressman John Paul Hammerschmidt.

Clinton was in the lead until they got to the Ft. Smith votes. Then, as if by magic, Ft. Smith seemed to get a whole lot of new, Republican voters all of a sudden. And John Paul was able to squeak by that upstart Bill by the narrowest of margins.

As for escaping, yeah, that's pretty much what I did. :hi:

[SPKrazy]

17. Hmmm...

well I didn't live here then but that doesn't surprise me at all...

Been here since 89... don't know if I'll stay here much longer, but may for a while.

:hi:

[Heidi]

5. ART!!!!!

:hug: :pals: :)

[Art_from_Ark]

12. Fancy bumping into you here

By the way, was that you I saw in those Swiss glacier pictures?

Inquiring minds want to know!

[Heidi]

14. No, if I had been in the photo,

the lowlands would have been flooded by morning and we'd now be mourning the glacier-that-was. :rofl:

Seriously, did you notice that all of the people in that nekkid photo were buff, super slender and had six-pack abs. :scared:

[Art_from_Ark]

20. I think that might have been a requirement for getting into the pics

Non-buff, non-slender persons with one-pack abs need not apply!

[Heidi]

21. One-pack abs!!!!!!!!

:rofl: :spray:

I do believe you've contributed a wonderful new word to the DU lexicon, my friend. :rofl: :spray:

[Art_from_Ark]

23. Always glad to be of service

Here's to one-pack abs!
:toast:

[Art_from_Ark]

6. By the way

How 'bout them Hawgs?

[SPKrazy]

7. yeah!

go hogs go!

woo pig souie!!!!!

[Art_from_Ark]

22. According to sports interviews on 40/29,

the Hawgs are lookin' to be winnin' at least 10 games this year, and maybe more.

It was too bad about the Whatever Bowl earlier this year. I got a bad feeling about it when the Hawgs ran the ball down to the Wisconsin 9 on the first play of the game, and couldn't score from there.

[lost-in-nj]

24. HUH??

woo pig souie????

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:


:hug: :hug:

no need to feel insecure.......


lost

[SPKrazy]

27. ...

:hug:

:hug:


it's "calling the Hogs" (Arkansas Razorbacks)


thanks!

:loveya:

[cobalt1999]

25. I'm 46 too.

I do, at times, wonder about how I'm doing as a father & husband. Whenever I get start feeling a "mid-life" crisis, I just buy a new boat. :)

BTW, Go Gators!

[SPKrazy]

26. Go Hawgs!

:D

:rofl:

[LeftyFingerPop]

28. To be insecure...

is to be human.

Don't beat yourself up over it...I'm older than you, and I feel insecure all the time.

It's weird...sometimes I feel very confident and in control, and sometimes I feel like everything I do is wrong.

It is just part of the human experience my friend.

:hi: :pals:

[SPKrazy]

36. hey old man...

i know what ya mean, i do i do...

i often find myself feeling the same way

[soleft]

29. 44 and insecure here!

[SPKrazy]

39. Hey!

well, I feel less alone knowing you are feeling that way too! :hi:

[raccoon]

30. Yes, and I'm about a decade older than you. nt

[SPKrazy]

41. Well, then I guess it is just the human condition

that we never really feel like we've mastered things :shrug:


I go to work wondering truly how the world ever works as it seems that there is always the human factor and it gets in the way of true pure productivity.

:hi:

[CBHagman]

31. "We are always the same age inside." - Gertrude Stein

I remember hearing one of my university professors say that when he looked in the mirror, he still saw the same 17-year-old boy he had once been. I think that comment had less to do with his appearance (though he did have a youthful appearance) than it did his inner life.

I'm now about the same age as that professor was (late 40s), and I think I understood what he meant.

I suspect we all thought we were going to feel more authoritative, more in control as we grew older. The reality is that we're all making this up as we go along and take all our strengths and weaknesses. Look around at a party or a bar and see the uncertainty and awkwardness in people's stances.

We're all in this together. Thanks for checking in and laying out the issue the way you did. :hi:

[SPKrazy]

37. That's a great quote...

I always feel that way myself.

I feel young but my body tells me otherwise year after year...

:hi:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

32. Insecure? Me?

Never.


:P :P

I AM 15. My LIFE is insecure.

:silly:

[SPKrazy]

38. No offense meant...

I'm 46 and I may feel no different than you do just more experience trying to hide it maybe? :shrug:

:hi:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

58. Ah nah, I didn't take any offense.

Been in a silly mood of late. :D

[SPKrazy]

60. okay cool!

good to see ya!

ya Mainer :D

:hi:

[WritingIsMyReligion]

61. Yeah? Whatcha gonna do 'bout it?

:P

[SPKrazy]

62. nothing...

I like mainers

some good ones on DU!

:D

[WritingIsMyReligion]

63. Mmmhmmm, you know it.

Where would lobster-lovers be without my state, eh? :D

[SPKrazy]

64. and as a friend from Maine

said

where would the fleece makers be without it :D

[WritingIsMyReligion]

65. Haaaaaaa!

:rofl:

[SPKrazy]

66. well it is true...

and where would Stephen King be? :shrug:

In Vermont?

[Left Is Write]

33. Yes.

[BarenakedLady]

34. Oh dear...

do you even have to ask?

My insecurities have held me back countless times during my life. It pisses me off. I'm trying so hard to get over it. I'm going back to college in two weeks. I'm scared to death. What if I'm not good enough? What if I fail? Who am I fooling? Blah, blah, blah.

It's never ending.

:hug:

[GOPisEvil]

40. Yep. My insecurities held me back for a long time. Still do occasionally.

I've gotten better, but it's still a struggle. What sucks is that when I've been forced to take something on, I usually handle it well. It's hard to make the heart do what the head knows it should.

So, I hear ya. I've been there.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

42. I'm excited for you though BNL!

I think that will be a confidence booster because you will find that you are a serious student and I bet that a few of those younger students will be eyeballing you too saying "hey, check her out" :D

:hug:

[skygazer]

35. Sometimes I think a little insecurity would be good for me

I have to say, my friend, that I very seldom feel insecure. I'm not sure that's a good thing. I have a tendency to bull right into things without thinking them over too awfully much and that's gotten me in trouble more than once (though I do have to say I have an amazing knack for landing on my feet).

I guess what would be best would be a nice balance - enough insecurity to cause us to weight things carefully with enough confidence to recognize our opportunities.

At any rate, c'mere and let me give you a hug - :hug:

[SPKrazy]

43. thanks for the hug

i'll give you some of my insecurity and you give me some of your lack thereof! :hug:

[Parche]

44. Well Gawd Damn

I feel your pain, sometimes I feel the same way..................do we start an over 40 but
under 46 insecure group? :shrug: :shrug: :hi:

[SPKrazy]

46. hey, why limit it?

just an over 40 insecure group :spray:


:hi:

[Deja Q]

45. Guess.

:P

[SPKrazy]

47. well,

but you aren't over 40...

but you are just human apparently like me...

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

48. ....

:hug: :hug:

lost

[Zookeeper]

49. I was more insecure as a teen and young adult....

now I'm a stubborn old broad who doesn't overly care what people think of me and that helps a lot. :P

You're a great guy, friend, I think you'll regain your stride at the other end of that mid-life thing.

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

51. he he

where is the other end?

:shrug:

[Taverner]

50. It is only the nihilism of life itself that comforts me when I feel that way

[SPKrazy]

52. interesting

and deep

yes the nihilism is a comfort in a sense to me as well...

:hi:

[Taverner]

68. And it puts everything into perspective

:)

[av8rdave]

53. I'm 49. I can at least tell you it won't change much in the next three years

[SPKrazy]

54. well...

it just may be the human condition, but who knows...

a lot has changed since i was younger in some ways

so maybe ... just maybe....

[Wapsie B]

55. I've got ya beat by 4 years and I still feel that way

some of the time anyway. In some situations it's worse than others.

[SPKrazy]

57. yeah there are some situations that are worse than others

right now i'm in a situation where i feel a lot like i'm a kid who is leaving an environment that may have been "secure" in some ways, in other ways it was not and I found that I had let myself begin to suffocate... now I don't know what it will be like but it will be different and strange.

:hi:

[BlooInBloo]

56. Better question: Do I ever NOT feel insecure? lol!

[SPKrazy]

59. awww...

:hug:

:hug:

yeah, there are many times I feel like I have no idea what the hell I'm doing or that anyone out there could understand me or find me appealing in any way.

[Shine]

67. Yes, and usually it's very hormonally-based.

for me the trick is to remember that the insecurity I feel is temporary and fleeting.

Everything changes....this, too, shall pass....It's all part of the ebb and flow of life.....

The challenge is to be loving and compassionate with ourselves even when we don't have our shit together and we feel weak and insecure.

Perhaps there's NOTHING you need to do to "fix" yourself....just allow yourself to be who you are, which is GREAT.

:hug: :loveya:

[Norwood]

69. Me insecure? At certain times of course!

I use to be much worse up until a few years ago