Question for the ladies of the DU Lounge.

[driver8]

What does it mean when a woman sitting next to you puts her hand on your leg? (I'm a guy).

I was at a wedding and danced with an old friend of mine. We sat down to chat and she put her hand on the inside of my thigh.

Is this a "just being friendly" gesture?

[BarenakedLady]

1. If I did that

I would be coming on to you.

I can only speculate that that was her intention as well.

[Maine-ah]

2. no.

well, how long she leave it there? just for a second, or it was there for a few minutes?

[blondeatlast]

3. Definitely a flirtation. I do that to my husband all the time and he knows

exactly what it means when I do!

[LeftyMom]

4. Inside of the thigh

She didn't immediately remove it, as if it were accidental?

Right after dancing?

It means she's interested, and none too subtle about it.

[skygazer]

5. It's a come-on

In no uncertain terms.

[Neoma]

6. Good luck.

:thumbsup:

[supernova]

7. Hand on gentleman's thigh = GO FOR IT!!

She's wants you..... :loveya: :*

[NC_Nurse]

8. Aren't you married?

Better remind her if you are. Sounds like she's into you.

[driver8]

23. Yes -- I am married. The wedding was out of town and my wife could not go.

Nothing happened and I won't see this woman again unless I am at another mutual friend's wedding.

[hippiechick]

9. How drunk was she?

Therein lies your answer.


:shrug:

[wildhorses]

10. dude, she wanted some of that stuff

oh yeah

[Mutley]

11. Heh, I can't speak for all women, but

I certainly wouldn't do that unless I was looking for a bit more than "friendly gestures."

:P

[Coventina]

12. Ditto all the other responses.

She was looking for reception-sex in the nearest broom closet!

[La Lioness Priyanka]

13. where was she from? some cultures are more touchy feely than others

[davsand]

14. ANY voluntary touching is interest.

Touching anyplace usually covered by clothing is probably sexual.

Touching anywhere that is even REMOTELY close to his "naughty bits" is a major come on. (That would include the upper thigh, driver8.)

You got hit on and didn't realize it. Now she's out there thinking you had no interest in her and she's feeling like she made a fool of herself. Hopefully, she'd had a few to drink and isn't beating up on herself too hard.

I swear to God, men are just clueless. I WISH I'd known all this when I was still a single woman, I really do. I can't count the number of times I sat and flirted my butt off with a man and walked away thinking I'd made a complete fool of myself--only to realize now (since I'm an old married woman) that he had no clue I was even flirting.

What I also find amazing is the number of men I know who would be totally FLOORED if a woman actually looked at them and ASKED them to go and have sex. THAT level of directness would freak them out. You guys say you can't get laid and we women think you men are just not interested. Everybody goes home alone and frustrated.

Maybe we all need to wear little neon signs that light up if we want to get laid. Maybe THAT would make this easier--I dunno. Might be just the thing to combat dropping birth rates...


Laura

[driver8]

24. It definitely caught me off guard. First of all, this woman has a boyfriend.

Second...I am married. (Neither of our SOs were at the wedding.)

Also, we have been good friends for a long time and there was never anything sexual between us.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

25. You said it

Many were the times (especially in graduate school)that I felt that I'd done everything but flash green lights at a guy and he'd be totally oblivious. I'd assume that he just wasn't interested, but I'd find out months or years later that he'd had a crush on me at that very time.

What was I supposed to have done, jump out from behind a tree and wrestle him to the ground? Would he have gotten the message then?

My roommate actually had a male classmate come to her for advice on how to tell if a woman liked him.

[Cabcere]

15. Putting her hand on your leg...

is most likely flirting. On the inside of your thigh? Definitely - at least in my book. Let us know how things turn out! :hi:

[SarahB]

16. I've never done that unless...

1. I wanted some man action now.
2. I was thinking about him lustfully and I wanted to explore the possibility of man action at another time.

I'm not the touchy feely type though unless it's with my partner (or potential partner in a prior life). Some women are.

[KitchenWitch]

17. I only put my hand on a person's leg if I am seriously flirting with them.

[undeterred]

18. Did she drop her crutches and she's trying to get her balance?

If its anything other than that, its a move.

[lildreamer316]

19. Whooo-hoo!

Hookup time!!
Damn--you go!

[electron_blue]

20. LOL. I'd say it means she wants you and probably had too much to drink.

eta: cool username.

[tigereye]

21. no. On your arm, maybe. On your thigh, I'd say it was a come-on.

[NewWaveChick1981]

22. Ummm....no.

It's a big hint. :)

[Omphaloskepsis]

26. Can I put my hand on a girls inner thigh?

Ya know.. If I want to do her.

Isn't this bad behavior regardless of gender?

I would need some nipple action before I went for the inner thigh.

[libnnc]

27. She wants yer hot bod.

[Skittles]

28. means she is a horndog

means you are one naive sob :7