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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:26 PM
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So, my supervisor at work killed himself on Friday.
I am still in shock. He was always friendly. He was planning things far into the future, not something one usually does when considering suicide. A situation came up, alcohol was involved, and I guess due to the alcohol, he didn't see a way out.

He has a family, who my heart goes out to.

:cry:
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:28 PM
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1. OMG.
It will be a tough day for everyone where you work tomorrow. His family must be devastated.
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:30 PM
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3. I can't imagine all they are going through.
Guilt, confusion, anger, ambivalence. I worry about them financially, as well.
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Danger Mouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:28 PM
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2. My high school principal committed suicide.
A couple years after my graduation, he moved down to Long Island.
He'd been having marital problems.
He hung himself.
When I was in high school, we always made fun of him for his rumored drinking problem (he even got his hands on a drawing i had done of him passed out at the local bar)...
I felt so guilty afterwards, when I realized how troubled he had really been...
It can be so sudden...
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:32 PM
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6. It is, very sudden.
When my co-worker called, I couldn't believe it. I thought he might have been joking. I hoped he was joking, so I could just be mad at him for joking like that. He wasn't joking.

I am still a little numb. I imagine his family is, as well.
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Danger Mouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:47 PM
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19. Yeah...I remember those feelings too...
not being able to believe it.
I hope you are doing alright :hug:
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:30 PM
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4. Man, that's a tough one to deal with.
So many threads lately with stories of people committing suicide.
Sorry, dude. That's gonna be intense.
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:34 PM
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8. TY graywarrior.
I am a dudette, but your comment is still very much appreciated.
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:35 PM
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12. Better tell RevActs. She calls me dude all the time.
Let us know how this turns out. I've know a few people who killed themselves and it leaves a mark your can never erase.
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:37 PM
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14. It does leave a mark.
I will post later. I hope we will be setting some sort of fund up for the family.
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graywarrior Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:38 PM
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16. Great.
:hug:
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flamingyouth Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:31 PM
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5. I'm very sorry to hear it.
My heart goes out to his family, and to you and his other friends as well. :hug:
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:35 PM
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10. Thank you.
Much appreciated.
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jus_the_facts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:33 PM
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7. That's so sad...my condolences....
....may he rest in peace now. :hug:
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:38 PM
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15. I hope he does
Thank you.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:34 PM
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9. that's very tough stuff, i do think it lays bare how thin this veil of tears can be...
future plans or no, he must have been very sad; now many people are sad :(
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:36 PM
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13. I suppose we will find out some tomorrow
Seems so incidental and pointless to me, but I do not know what he was thinking.
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mvd Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:35 PM
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11. Very sad
My condolences, nytemare, and my heart also goes out to his family..
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:39 PM
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17. I am hoping our employer will provide good counseling for them.
And, TY for your kind comment.
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Rhythm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:43 PM
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18. I had a co-worker kill herself about 10 years ago...
Two days after her 40th birthday, she found out about the long-time affair that her husband had been having, and i guess she just couldn't cope.

She and i had been close friends for a couple of years, but i was off that week (technically 'on vacation', but stayed in town). She didn't call me all week, which was unusual, and when i called out at her place, her sister told me what had happened.

The store where we worked (sports retailer, but independently owned... roughly 30 employees) closed down for 3 days, so that all of the employees that wanted to could go to the wake and funeral and such.
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Radio_Lady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 10:53 PM
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20. My high school drama teacher, whom I adored, killed himself right before our graduation.
Edited on Sun Mar-04-07 10:54 PM by Radio_Lady
May 15, 1956.

He was a gay man who apparently was wrongly accused of stealing some money from one of the school offices. The money was being gathered to buy a new rug, and it went missing... I never learned the real details. He lived alone in a small apartment, snuffed out the pilot light, turned on the gas oven,and put his head in it.

I still remember that day more than 50 years later. He is buried somewhere in his hometown of Johnson City, Tennessee. That is all I know.

RIP, E.B.M.
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 11:00 PM
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21. such a sad story nytemare
I am truly sorry, my condolences to you and your fellow workers. My sympathy to his family. Who could ever know such a thing would happen...

I hope the company is able to deal with the emotions come Monday morning.

:hug:

aA
kesha
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Shine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 11:16 PM
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22. I'm sorry to hear this tragic news, nytemare.
My heartfelt sympathies go out to you and his entire community, but esp. his family. :(

May his soul find Peace.
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 11:21 PM
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23. Thank you everybody for your responses.
I am going to try to get some rest.

:grouphug:
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merh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-04-07 11:27 PM
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24. Prayers for all that knew and loved your boss.
May he know peace.

Please rest and take good care.

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RFKHumphreyObama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 03:40 AM
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25. Words are inadequate at this time but I'm so, so very sorry
My deepest and most profound and sincerest thoughts, prayers, condolences and sympathies are extended to you, your work colleagues and the family and friends of your supervisor :hug: :hug:
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spiderpig Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 06:41 AM
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26. 35 years ago
I was working in an investment office. One of the sales managers drove out to a lovers' lane, propped a shotgun against a fence, and killed himself. I'd heard he had gambling debts. He had grown sons and a daughter who was about 12. We drove out to the funeral - small town in Ohio. Meeting the family ("We know it was an accident") is something that haunts me to this day.

It's very hard to deal with. You tell yourself you can't imagine doing this on your worst day, and then think about how they must have been feeling.

It's awful. But there's nothing you can do except hope that person found the peace they were seeking.
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NC_Nurse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 07:44 AM
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27. That's awful.
I'm so sorry. His poor family....
:hug:

I hope he's at peace now.
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Forkboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 09:15 AM
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28. A lot of depressed people are always freindly to others
Part of the problem is depressed people mask it great,usually because they either don't feel comfortable talking about something they themselves have a hard time understanding,or they just don't want to burden others with their story.

While the alcohol certainly didn't help,I can guarantee that there was more going on in his head for a long time.

Depression is a major problem in this country,and sadly one that hasn't gotten the attention it should.
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nytemare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 07:23 PM
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29. Turns out, alcohol was not a factor.
Rumors can sure spread fast.

We are trying to get funds together to donate to the family.
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 07:25 PM
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30. My condolences to you and your co-workers, and most of all to his family.
Redstone
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 07:28 PM
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31. I'm so sorry, nytemare. That is awful.
My condolences to you and your co-workers, as well as his family.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 08:58 PM
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32. Wow! Sorry to hear that nytemare.
I know from personal experience the pain suicide leaves behind.

My condolences to everyone this man touched.



:hug:
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reyd reid reed Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-05-07 09:01 PM
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33. I'm sorry.
I just don't know what else to say.

:hug:
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