OK ladies -- what's most important in a guy's online personal?

[struggle4progress]

Poll question: OK ladies -- what's most important in a guy's online personal?

[havocmom]

1. Sense of humor - subtle and sophisticated

works for a lot of women

[struggle4progress]

9. Um yeah. So what's that really mean? Like, I don't get slapped every time I'm in a bar?

[TheBaldyMan]

2. apart from being under 200lbs I qualify (fail?) for the rest

I think you forgot the clincher - solvent.

[Dangerously Amused]

3. Is mostly not a pathological liar.

According to his mother.






















If she were still alive.





















That he knew of.






















Recently.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

4. What are you implying?

;) :hi:

[Dangerously Amused]

6. Nothin', babe.

Tell your mama I say "hi."


:7


:hi:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

8. I will... aw, shit.

:P

[struggle4progress]

10. Well, you can't prove I am, anyway!

[wildhorses]

5. you forgot---drinks like a fish

smokes like a train...

[struggle4progress]

11. Would "Can't remember ever passing out drunk" be a more positive take on that?

[wildhorses]

13. honest more so than positive--

and honesty being the rare thing it is on profiles...i would say it puts you slightly ahead

[struggle4progress]

14. What! That's not a positive thing?

[wildhorses]

15. are you positive that you want me to answer that question

honestly:P

[struggle4progress]

17. Point taken. I'll just try to find the washer and drier manuals.

[wildhorses]

25. good lord--you ARE turning me on

forget the washer and drier...on seconed thought 'have you ever done it on the washer in spin cycle?':evilgrin:

[struggle4progress]

27. Thanks! I had completely forgot I dropped the manual behind the drier

[MoseyWalker]

7. that

he was honest and didn't portray himself as a serial killer.

[struggle4progress]

12. I can report that "Hi! I'm really not a serial killer!" never worked well for me as a opening line

[crim son]

16. Number one: is he able to write in complete sentences?

I'll forgive a common spelling error but expect more than basic writing skills in my man. In fact I won't look twice at the profile of a man who uses numbers in lieu of words ("2" for "to") or who apparently struggles to express himself in written form.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

18. Seriously?

1. A photo that doesn't make him look like a dork. (Trying to look like a cowboy when you live in Minneapolis, not effective)

2. Originality--His ad doesn't sound like a bunch of clichés from every other guy's ad

3. No obnoxious physical requirements for a potential partner. (I've actually seen "a petite redhead dress size 6 to 8" and "under 35"--from a guy who's over 50, and "Asian or Latina women only") That kind of content makes women wonder whether he has matured emotionally since age, oh, about 13.

4. Not trying to arouse pity. ("Shy, lonely" makes most women think, "Oh no, one of those whining whipped puppy types." "Initially shy, but worth knowing because of..." is a much better way to indicate that he won't initially come off as the life of the party.)

5. Not bragging about his material possessions or his finances. It attracts gold diggers and makes a non-greedy woman wonder whether that's all he has to offer.

6. Self-knowledge revealed with honesty and humor.

[AllegroRondo]

19. what about bare-chested pics?

my wife said that was the one thing she really couldnt stand about on-line dating profiles. every guy would post a pic of himslef shirtless.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

20. See point #1

I don't know a lot of women who are attracted to a guy's pecs. Maybe Ms. Gym Rat would be, but most are not. In fact, the Mr. Universe look is a turnoff in most cases.

I've had numerous discussions over the years with women friends, and we're pretty much agreed that we like eyes (with wicked glints that indicate intelligence and humor), sweet smiles, and cute butts. :evilgrin:

[Pierre.Suave]

21. Sweet

Check

Check

and

Check...

Where do I get my girl?









jk, I already got one.

[Brewman_Jax]

22. Same thing say the magazines

I have a pic of me in tights. :evilgrin:

[Connonym]

23. I completely agree

Not that I have anything against a male chests but it seems sleezy somehow. The essay part has to indicate that the man has some concept of the rules of language. The mention of Harleys, Nascar, Corvette (or what ever car they're trying to show off with). God, actually the list of repulsive things in personal ads is so lengthy I don't think I could even mention it all in one day... I used to believe that most of the people on dating sites were normal people who just had difficulty meeting singles. I still believe there are normal people there but they're few and far between.

[struggle4progress]

28. So I should drop the "I have a big car/house/boat/whatever" section?

[noamnety]

24. You know you're an activist when

you see "reasonably short arrest record" and think "what's impressive about that?" :)

[struggle4progress]

26. A long arrest record might just mean I wasn't good at "catch me if ya can, copper"

In these things, you only get one chance to make a first impression