There really is no point in my going out with a 32-year-old, is there?

[crim son]

I met this guy over the weekend and he seems decent, intelligent, cheerful, friendly, well-shaped and facially pretty darned attractive. He's employed, too :thumbsup: I gave him my email address and he contacted me, but I responded with a thanks anyway but no because he's so young. He has since sent two more emails saying we should go out for dinner and talk.

I shouldn't do it, should I? Oh, and he doesn't know my age. I refused to tell him.

Final consideration: the men who approach me are either in their seventies or in their thirties or younger. No man my age appears to be available in this city. Maybe I should move.

[Chorophyll]

1. Hope you don't mind my answering, since you don't know me...

But speaking as a forty-ish woman... eh, I'd give it a shot. If he seems like a reasonable person, that is. (Cute doesn't hurt either.) :)

[crim son]

7. Of course I don't mind you answering.

And you sound like you'd understand my situation. He's exceedingly cute, actually. Oh, I don't know. Maybe you're right.

[Chorophyll]

10. Besides, men go out with younger women all the time...

...and no one makes a big deal out of it! Turnabout is fair play. :evilgrin:

[crim son]

12. Yeah but men are fixated on physical

appearance. Women are more forgiving because, let's face it, we have to be! :rofl:

[Chorophyll]

15. True that. :) n/t

[crim son]

26. I'm a very practical woman.

I can't help it.

[BarenakedLady]

2. Excuse me for a moment

While I KICK YOU IN THE ASS :spank: :spank: :spank:

Don't make me drive all the way there to do it, because I will.

For crying out loud. 32 is a totally acceptable age as far as I'm concerned. WTH. I hate you. :hug: :loveya:

Do it.do it.do it.do it.

Do it for meeeeeeeeee.

[crim son]

13. It's an eleven year difference.

That's a lot of years. I told you he was better suited to you than to me!

[BarenakedLady]

37. Well obviously he is interested in YOU

I would totally go for it, if I were you. But then again I'm just a horny old cougar. :rofl:

Pffft. I've been in a relationship with a man 7 years my senior and one 9 years my junior. It's all good (well depending on the guy of course. hehehe)

Have I mentioned how jealous I am of you right now? :)

[crim son]

44. There is nothing to be jealous of.

This is very confusing. In a nice kind of way!

[BarenakedLady]

I am still green

with envy. To have a handsome young man yearning for your attention. *sigh*

[crim son]

50. He'll get over it my dear

if history repeats itself :cry:

[BarenakedLady]

Why

Are you doing this to yourself? You are ending it in misery before you even give it a chance. Don't do that. You'll never forgive yourself if you do. And neither will I because I have to live vicariously through you. :hug:

[crim son]

63. ...

I don't need to date this guy to give you a good, vicarious time. Do I? :hug:

[BarenakedLady]

68. Yes!

Yes, you do. :rofl: And then I need a long drawn out description of every word, every nuance, every glance, every touch...ok I'm totally pathetic.

[crim son]

71. I may do this thing

just for you! Or not. I'm not sure, still.

[BarenakedLady]

88. Do it for meeeeeeee

Yes! Good idea. :thumbsup:


But, don't forget to take notes. I suppose video is too much to hope for? :evilgrin:

[Sugar Smack]

105. OMG! You are too funny!

:D "Yes you do" LOL!

[CBHagman]

95. Did that stop Eleanor of Aquitaine?

Okay, okay, I won't go into the details of that union. But for crying out loud, that woman was the mother of kings and the grandmother (or was it great-grandmother?) of saints! If she'd let a little thing like age difference get in her way, we might never have gotten the freakin' Magna Carta.

WWED? What would Eleanor do?

[BarenakedLady]

120. She would plot

Her sons against their father? :shrug:

"The Lion In Winter" with Katharine Hepburn is one of my all-time favorites...

[crim son]

136. Eleanor had land and prestige.

I got three kids and a piano.

[NC_Nurse]

112. My husband is 11 years younger than I

We've been together for 11 years - 6 married. :-)

He's the best.

[Samurai_Writer]

131. My parents were 11 years apart in age

My grandparents were *22* years apart in age! Go for it, woman, you never know, he might be just the guy you're looking for.

Age is just a number.

[Taverner]

140. so?????

Unless you just can't hang with younger guys....

[Deja Q]

29. How about 34 (plus 6 months)?

:D

[crim son]

31. I told you... you've got to move up here!

That's another thing... Maine is sparsely populated. I may not get many chances :(

[BarenakedLady]

40. Perfectly acceptable

So when you coming over? :evilgrin:

[SPKrazy]

64. I Think You Are Right

dinner


dinner?

I agree, she'll never know what she's missing or not unless she takes a chance?

But then, well, ...

hmmmmmm


:hi:

[BarenakedLady]

89. I am always right.

No really, I am.

Quite frightening really.

:hi:

[SPKrazy]

93. That's Good To Know

I might have a question I need answers to soon.

:rofl:


or not


:hug:

[LeftyMom]

3. Well, it's good that he's persisting. He must be really interested.

My thought on age is this: the last person I was in a relationship constantly remarked how much younger I was and that we had nothing in common. My current boyfriend and I constantly wonder at how much we do have in common.

Last boyfriend and current boyfriend are less than a year apart in age and both most of a decade older than me.

Commonality of interest and perspective happens when it happens. It might happen with somebody near your age or somebody nowhere close to it. Don't rule somebody out on age alone.

[crim son]

11. I don't want to.

The thing is that these young guys always hit on older women, I've noticed. This is one guy who is interesting beyond his youth and beauty which of course means v. little, ultimately. I do have trouble with men who are more than fifteen years older than I am.

Interesting, what you say about the two boyfriends. It's all in the perception.

[Nicole]

4. Yes, there is a point

:)

[crim son]

14. Laughing.

I'd thought of that one consideration, naturally. He has many fine qualities :evilgrin:

[Nicole]

27. Laughing as well

It sure was _____ fun! Yeah, fun is the word I was looking for. :evilgrin:

[u4ic]

5. I was 39 and dating a guy of 27

We weren't compatible in the end, but I wouldn't disregard the fellow; you never know...

[crim son]

19. I've had a 26-year-old pursue me too, u4ic.

No, not Starbucks Anarchist! I think that's why I'm wary... because I don't know what these guys want.

[u4ic]

54. He's an individual

and I would take him as such, not lumping him in with 'other guys' (who are also individuals).

Are you concerned he wants a mother rather than a partner? (which is a concern, but it's not limited to age difference, either)

The only way you'll truly know is to get to know him. ;-)



Perhaps your reluctance is just not being quite ready yet...?

[crim son]

56. I think it's that - not being ready.

In the middle of reading the responses I realized that's what it must be.

[TOhioLiberal]

6. Crim son...

...I'd go for it. Seriously. The age gap is not that big, you're both adults, so why not?

[crim son]

20. I can't think of a good reason

except, I guess, I'd hate to be rejected because I suddenly get too old.

[TOhioLiberal]

25. don't let the fear of rejection...

...keep you from happiness.

[crim son]

28. Hmmm.

Fear of rejection is the guiding principle of my life right now. Maybe it's not his age but too soon for me to be looking.

[TOhioLiberal]

34. It may be too soon.

Only you can answer that question. Don't let the fear keep you saying 'it's too soon!' for the rest of your days. Loneliness sucks giant donkey balls!

[crim son]

43. So true.

I'd rather be lonely than hurt however. Any. Freaking. Day.

[TOhioLiberal]

true dat...

...:hug:

[some guy]

73. lonely

is just a different type of hurt.

I will guess you already have at least some of the lonely hurt, else you (presumably) wouldn't be available to the guy at all, and your original query would be moot.

If yoy pass on this guy, you don't risk being hurt, but you also don't risk the chance at being happy.

$.02 (for you, free - such a deal...) :)

:hi:

[crim son]

76. I appreciate it...

both the deal and the words of wisdom. :hi:

[Nickster]

8. Oh c'mon, what are you 75? If he's a decent guy and mature, what does it matter? Have a nice dinner

with him and see if you click. Life is too damn short to lock yourself out of possibly having a nice relationship because of something silly like age.

[Deja Q]

16. Seconded!

:)

[crim son]

22. ...

:hug: You know I have problems with this concept :)

[crim son]

21. Okay, you may be right.

So, nobody wants to tell me it's a crappy idea?

[RetroLounge]

9. Well, at minimum there is ONE point

:evilgrin:

RL

[crim son]

23. Yeah, somebody did mention that.

And you're right, I can confirm that. :evilgrin:

[RetroLounge]

53. ...

:9

:hi:

RL

[unsavedtrash]

17. As long as you are not pushing up daisies, you are not too old. From my understanding

from my straight girlfriends the 30's man described above is a nice find indeed.

[crim son]

24. Are your straight girlfriends in their early forties?

Because if it weren't for that, NATURALLY a handsome, kind and employed man in his thirties would be a good find!

[Chorophyll]

32. As women...

...we collectively need to DITCH the notion that we can't age and still be attractive. The hell with that. It's corporate b.s. designed to get us to buy products.

(Somebody remind me that I posted this tomorrow, when I'm feeling pitiful.) :)

[crim son]

38. I'll be there for you, Chlorophyll

because you're right. Now, somebody tell the men!

[Chorophyll]

46. It appears that some of them already know! ;)

As for the rest of them, when they figure it out, it'll be too late. (For them.)

[unsavedtrash]

36. three of them are.

go for it!

[Generic Brad]

18. There is a point

You can attract younger men? Bravo! :applause:

[crim son]

30. I don't know any normal looking, unattached women

who cannot. It makes me very suspicious!

[Generic Brad]

39. But how many normal unattached men are there who are the same age as you?

I say, go for it. But I'm married and attached, so what do I know? (And incidentally, my wife is consideranly older than I am).

[crim son]

47. Like I mentioned,

there seem to be a lot of young men and a lot of much older men. Maybe I need to start cruising the hospitals or something, to find somebody my own age. But, you are the voice of experience here :)

[Whoa_Nelly]

33. Come out here, crim son, and we can hunt for age appropriate males together

:evilgrin:

[crim son]

52. I still think I'm going to make it out there one day.

And when I do, we're going to shake up the town! :pals:

[Oeditpus Rex]

35. There's never a point

to going out with someone who's decent, intelligent, cheerful, friendly, well-shaped and facially pretty darned attractive, and employed, too.

[crim son]

55. Lol. I guess you make sense. :)

Somebody had me completely fooled once, though. I can't go through that again.

[idgiehkt]

41. hmm...

I don't know what to think....

You should be open to all possibilities...

Let me complete my thoughts on this...

or maybe not...

[crim son]

57. Listen to me...

You know I value your opinion...

You're a dear friend...

I want to touch your knee...

:7

[idgiehkt]

99. roflmao

:rofl: ...

:rofl: ...

[Kixel]

42. It's trendy to date younger men!

Look at Demi Moore!

Go for it. It's only dinner, not a lifetime.

[crim son]

58. Good answer.

I don't really have to decide tonight, do I? Imagine his horror if he knew how seriously I was debating the whole idea!

[Kixel]

94. He'll never know!

Dating is meant to be fun. Go for it and worry more about what your going to wear than what tomorrow brings.

[flamingyouth]

45. I'm marrying a guy 15 years younger than me.

This guy sounds great. Please don't write him off just because of his age. At least give him a chance - you never know. :)

[crim son]

59. Are you?

Wow, that is wonderful! I mean, it's great that you're getting married, and the fact that he's a younger man... well, it's encouraging. :)

[Telly Savalas]

48. My wife is nine years older than me.

I don't see what the problem is.

[crim son]

61. I am perhaps grossly insecure?

Lucky wife, yours.

[philosophie_en_rose]

49. Why hold his age against him?

:)

[crim son]

62. Wen I can hold something else against him?

Bon question.

[philosophie_en_rose]

74. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. . .

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? It is
not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let
our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our
own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

(from A Return To Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles, Harper Collins, 1992.)

[crim son]

77. Beautiful words.

I was a believer, once!

[Karenina]

108. That quote is from Nelson Mandela n/t

[Connonym]

51. What's the worst that can happen trying?

Have dinner with him and see if he engages you mentally. I know a lot of men who prefer older women and have had successful relationships with them. If it's too soon for you to date, that's perfectly valid but I think it would be a damned shame to pass because of age. Would you blink at dating a man 11 years older than you?

Come on! You owe it to all us other hot-blooded 40-ish women!

[crim son]

66. No, I have an upper age limit perhaps

but it isn't eleven years. I'm still going to think about it but thank you for your input!

[SPKrazy]

60. 70's Or 30's- Or You Could Move

well I could suggest where you could move...

:evilgrin: (but that's because you are ha.., I mean, uh, ;-) )



but then again

you might be missing out on a chance in a lifetime date

Shoot, go to dinner, figure out if he's a goober underneath his attractive face, and if he's not, then you've found someone that you enjoy being with.

:hug:

[crim son]

67. Maybe.

I wish I could move.

Maybe. I don't know. I think I'm going to sleep on the image of Redstone in feathers in the hope that it'll clarify things. :rofl:

[BarenakedLady]

72. Wait....what?

Redstone in feathers? WTH did I miss?

[crim son]

79. read from here:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=show_mesg&forum=105&topic_id=5937796&mesg_id=5938060

Please, help me to remind him!

[BarenakedLady]

84. Oh my....

Oh yes I will help you remind him. I'd love to see that!:evilgrin:

[crim son]

86. Goodnight sweetie!

I'm outta here because this has been one hell of a day! :hug: :pals: :loveya:

[BarenakedLady]

92. Night night babycakes

I hope you have a wonderful Tuesday. :loveya: :hug: :yourock:

[SPKrazy]

80. Redstone In Feathers?

Ya never know about moving.

Stranger things have happened.

:shrug:


:loveya:

[crim son]

85. I posted the link in BNL's post above.

This is a Redstone I don't know!

[SPKrazy]

91. Good Night

sleep good

:hug:

[Redstone]

148. Oh, shit. You didn't forget, did did you? Just don't tell them the other part of the outfit, OK?

Please. Feathers I'll do, but I'm WAY too old for the other part.

Redstone

[reyd reid reed]

65. Why refuse to tell him your age?

Especially if his bothers you. And I don't see why it should...it obviously doesn't bother him. Go for it.

After all, why should youth always be wasted on the young?

:evilgrin:

Besides...men do it all the time. What's good for the goose and all that, y'know...

:shrug:

[crim son]

70. Initially I thought that I would just enjoy the great night I was

having and not let age interfere. As he became more... interested... I decided to keep it to myself for the same reason. If I go out with him I would definitely tell him right away. Y'all know I have no problem speaking the ugly truth, normally.

[ThomCat]

69. Dinner is usually a safe bet and a fun evening.

It rarely does any harm to at least go to dinner. :)

[crim son]

75. Especially if I pay for my own meal.

I find a man becomes very hopeful after just buying me a drink. A whole meal and I'd owe him my firstborn son.

[ThomCat]

97. Paying your own way is definitely a good idea.

And if that bothers him that gives you some signs about what kind of person he is.

[Lex]

78. People are interesting.

It's always nice to go out and meet people just for the heck of it.

Maybe no love-connection, but you might find an interesting person to enjoy a meal with.

We only go 'round once in this crazy life, ya know. Have fun. Enjoy people.

[crim son]

82. You are right, Lex.

One dinner can't hurt and it might help :)

[GoddessOfGuinness]

81. I'm not sure how old you are; but my feeling is,

as long as those involved are consenting adults, and you can communicate on the same level, age should not be a factor.
Tell him your age; and don't be ashamed of it, my friend. :hug:

[crim son]

83. I'm going to continue to think about it.

Everybody here has given me something to think about. I'm going to go to bed now. Thanks, GoG! Oh, I'm 43.

[Left Is Write]

87. I'm married to one. I don't know how old you are, but I'm 40.

[crim son]

90. 43.

How much can a girl age in three years?

You give me hope :)

And now, off to bed. Goodnight, Left Is Write!

[wildhorses]

96. two words--

HOT SEX...

[cwydro]

116. Yep,

I'm with you WH.

And when I was in my 30's I dated a woman 13 years younger than I. We did eventually break up, but it wasn't because of the age difference. Go for it Crim! It's just a date after all. I think age is only as big an issue as we make it.

[FedUpWithIt All]

98. Interesting...

I am 34 and the people who seem to be interested in me are either 20's or mid 40's+. Perhaps we should switch.

:hi:

[lildreamer316]

100. GO!

Sheesh, woman. It's probably free dinner, and you never know.
:hug:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

101. I wouldn't discount him because of his age.

Age is just a number.

[LostinVA]

106. Haruka is right

If I've learned anything lately, it's that, depending on the people involved, an age difference means nothing. It's nothing but an artificial societal barrier.

[Anarcho-Socialist]

102. My S.O. is 14 years older than me

It shouldn't matter. As long as he's mature, and has a personality you like you should go for it.

[hfojvt]

103. move here

I'm 44 :evilgrin:

Tell him your age and let him decide.

[Orangepeel]

104. I don't see a problem. My husband is 12 yrs older than me. Few people think that's weird.

For long term relationships, what's important are shared values and shared interests. For dinner, all that's important is a mutual desire to have fun. IMO, once both parties reach adulthood, actual age is pretty much irrelevant.

[Lochloosa]

107. Go for it. My wife is 5 years older than me.

Works for us.

[billyskank]

109. So you would turn me down too?

I'm only 30. :cry:

[Karenina]

110. Crim Son!!!! WAKE UP!!! It's DAYTIME!!!

GIRLFRIEND, don't make me jump through this screen to smack you upside the head. :spank: I've had 2 relationships with guys 15 years my junior and am still good friends with both. Don't tell him your age until you feel like doing so, it's JUST A FUCKING NUMBER. If you're not posting about your adventures in dating a 32 year old in the next few days I'm gonna be JUST. SO. ANNOYED. !!!PLUS!!! 32 is a great age for men (21 being the WORST). I thought so at 20 and still think so now. These days the rare occasions I get hit on, the guys are not quite 30. :eyes: The rule now is they have to be AT LEAST a decade older than my kids... ;-)

[kwassa]

115. A S.O. a decade older than your kids? you are just so picky.

[emmajane67]

111. Do it.

Age doesn't matter.

You've had a rough time surely some attention is a good thing.

Saying it's too soon might be valid but go in to it with your eyes open. You are going to spend some time with another person.

Shop around, fill your needs, maybe your need isn't a big relationshippy thing right now, maybe you need some flattery or just to hang out and rememeber you're alive.

Who cares? Enjoy his company, you might end up having a great time, you might end up with a new friend, you mind end up with nothing but at least you tried.

[mainegreen]

113. Wha? That's not a huge age difference. One of my parents was 20 years older than the other.

That's a big age difference, and you know what? It worked, and no one thought is was weird.

It's really about mental age and interests, not physical age, (and in IMHO physical age is meaningless as none of us know how close we are really to death, so how old are you really?).

If you think he's cute and you think you might hit it off CALL HIM!!!!!!!

Start out your new life with style!

[miss_american_pie]

114. Don't make me drive up there

Go on the date with the hottie. :hi:

[ChickMagic]

117. Oh, for Pete's sake

My hubby is 15 years younger than me. Take a chance!
Age is all in the mind.

[blondeatlast]

118. Mr. BAL is several years my junior and we've just celebrated 10 years of marriage

after 4 years of courtship.

Have fun and let things happen as they will. You may be very pleasantly surprised.

[graywarrior]

119. I would. In a heartbeat.

[NewWaveChick1981]

121. Don't discount him because he's younger.

:) No harm in dinner. And you just might find out that he's a great guy. For whatever reason, younger guys seem to be attracted to women in their 40s these days. ;)

[billyskank]

122. I don't know what you mean

O8)

[NewWaveChick1981]

127. ....

:rofl: :hi: :loveya:

[BarenakedLady]

123. That's good news.

:evilgrin: Hopefully that will still be the case in a few years when I hit 40.

[NewWaveChick1981]

126. I'm sure it will.

And since you're 29, you have a long way to go til then. :rofl: :hi:

:evilgrin: Judging from the number of "Hi, I love older women!" messages I get on myspace, that phenomenon won't go away anytime soon.... :P

[BarenakedLady]

128. I never get those!

*pout*

Well I recently changed myspace to private. But for all that time it was public, not once did I get hit on randomly. :cry:

Yes, I'm 29 *cough cough*

[SPKrazy]

139. Well

as long as you have those eyes

and the rest

you'll have your pick of guys I'm certain of it!

:evilgrin:

:loveya:

[ceile]

124. Nothing wrong with at least one date before you make up your mind.

He's cute, friendly, etc......why not? Good dinner, good conversation-I can think of worst ways to spend an evening.

[haele]

125. My husband is 6, almost 7 years younger than me...

He was actually born a year to the day later than my only sibling (I was the oldest) which is rather weird when it comes up in family conversation.
People still think we're either the same age or he might be a bit older (Ex-wife and disability has turned him grey).

It's all in the attitude. You're only as old as your 'tude. Now-days with all the "retro-media" hype and (IMO) the fact that in the US, social trends didn't really change that much during the 80's and early 90's, 10 to 15 years isn't much of a difference.

Have fun.

Haele

[skygazer]

129. Why the hell not?

He's what? Ten years younger? Big deal. My SO has always dated older women - he likes them. Now that he's 46, he still checks them out - he's attracted to women about 8 or 10 years older. Why? Who knows? Who cares? (Of course he's stuck with me and I'm 6 months younger than he is)

Age is relative. Go out with him. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I'm afraid that's the way it works, no matter what the guy's age is. When you date, you're taking a chance. There are no guarantees that it's going to be the right guy - you just have to give it a shot. Scary but true. :hug:

[In_The_Wind]

130. Go out with him.

You might find that the two of you won't care about age differences if you can find common ground for conversations.

The older I get :shrug: it seems like all of the single people in my age group have dropped off the earth.

[Chorophyll]

132. Wow, this turned out to be quite a hot topic!

Nice to see all these older woman/younger man folks checking in, too. Just goes to show you that the media really doesn't reflect real life. Real life is better!

Ah, give the dude a date, crim son. :)

[av8rdave]

133. I wouldn't know why there would be a problem

My wife is a few years older than I, and it has never been an issue.

[Maestro]

134. Go out with him.

He is obviously interested. You are NOT too old for a 32 year old by any means.

[redqueen]

135. Of course there is!

It sounds like you enjoy each other's company... so why not see where that leads?

If you avoid pleasure to spare yourself possible pain, consider all you might miss out on after all those chances have passed you by. Is that trade off worth it?

[Rosco T.]

137. Age is simply a question of Mind over Matter...

if you don't mind, it don't matter (and that goes for him also)

[YellowRubberDuckie]

138. IF you like the guy and his company, then go for it.

Who cares about the age difference! Enjoy your life while you're here. That's my vote. GO FOR IT!
Duckie

[huskerlaw]

141. Honey, go for it!

If he's that interested, he obviously doesn't give a crap how old you are. Besides, it's not like you're talking marriage. Go! Have fun!

[Redstone]

142. Why not? You might enjoy it.

Redstone

[SPKrazy]

143. No Damned Point At All

just stay home and have no fun!

:pals:


Kidding

GO FOR IT!

[GalleryGod]

144. No there isn't. Save yourself a lot of time and final frustration.

A young guy, twelve years younger is, alas, like dating a woman 20+ years younger. Men/Boys are way more immature than women and developmentally challenged.

Thought you should hear the reverse side of the page.:crazy:



Your man in the Faculty Lounge:hangover:,,,gradin' bluebooks.
G.G. :smoke:

[WCGreen]

145. See the movie Prime....

[NNadir]

146. By all means give him a try.

My wife is 11 years younger than I am and I love her very much and she loves me in return. After more than 21 years together, there's almost no barrier at all connected to our respective ages.

Try it. It might be wonderful.

[mentalsolstice]

147. You've got a lot of responses here I haven't read, but...

...there is 14 years difference between my husband and I (we've been hokey-pokeying for 16+ years), and it has worked fine. I don't think it's much different turned the other way. We also have a nephew that is 16 years younger than his wife (she's 3 years younger than me and I'm 46) and they have 2 year-old daughter, and are contemplating going for one more. AND her daughter, from her first marriage, our nephew's step-daughter, is 22 years old. We've watched her grow up from jr. high age (her father isn't involved at all). Although there is no blood relation between her and us, we're closer to her than anyone else on that side of the family. She house-sits for us all of the time, we have dinner with her about once a month...and we've set her up to be the executor of our wills (she's a kick-ass, liberal, very smart kid). We don't have kids ourselves, but we've really enjoyed watching her grow up to be the adult she is.

That's just my take on how May-December relationships work...not only for the couples themselves...but other family members, as well.

[Starbucks Anarchist]

149. Go for it.

;)

[crim son]

152. After you've rebuffed me,

I haven't got the heart :cry:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

153. I'm sure that guy will be much more suited to your tastes.

:D

[crim son]

154. No way.

You are close to perfect. It's just that youth thing... you have to outgrow it!

[Starbucks Anarchist]

155. ...

:blush:

Damn my youth! :evilgrin:

[crim son]

156. Nah.

Damn my advanced years! :hug:

[Starbucks Anarchist]

157. "Advanced." HA!

:hug:

[crim son]

158. Okay. I won't talk about being old and gray if you won't

talk about your germ phobia. Deal?

[Starbucks Anarchist]

160. Deal.

:rofl:

[WestHoustonDem]

150. LOL I'm 49 and went out with a 30 year old guy last week

Had a fantastic time. May or may not see him again as he's clearly looking for something serious and long term and it's obvious that's not where we're headed, but that didn't stop us from having a great time that night and seeing each other again. No strings attached.

When I we finally told each other how old we are and I said I'm old enough to be your mom, he said, "If that's how you want to play it, but I prefer to play babysitter."

Enjoy!

[JVS]

151. How old are you?

[Robeson]

159. Did you like him? Did you have fun? Did he seem like someone you'd...

...like to know further? If so, go out with him. Leave the age stuff at the door.

[mcscajun]

161. Go. Out. With. Him.

So, he's eleven years younger than you; so what?

Have a dinner with him and see what happens. A dinner isn't a lifetime commitment, and if it blossoms into a relationship, wonderful! Even if it doesn't "last forever", you may just have fun!

Required Disclosure: I had a fling with a guy similarly younger than me. It only lasted a year or so, but damn, it was good!

I believe in the end, we have more regrets over things we haven't done than over things we have.

[LaurenG]

162. Why wouldn't you

My husband is in his thirties and I'm 16 years older. We've been married for 13 years and it is the best relationship I have ever had.

30 something year old men are sexy, besides he'll still be a youngish punk when I need help up the stairs. :evilgrin:

[Blue Diadem]

163. Why not? Two of my brothers married women older than them.

It just depends on the couple involved. You really might be surprised. A 10-12 yr difference never bothered either of them. I've known other couples with the female being older too.

[Arkansas Granny]

164. I don't know your age, but since my divorce I dated younger men

almost exclusively. My only rule was that I wouldn't date anyone who was younger than my children or under the age of 21. If you think you would enjoy his company, go for it. Age is just a number.

[MissHoneychurch]

165. Why not?

go out with him, he is attracted to you? Why bother about the age???

BTW, my mom is 56 and dates a guy in his late 30s. They are together since years.