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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:07 AM Original message |
What's the difference between being polyamorous and being slutty? |
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ZombieNixon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:13 AM Response to Original message |
1. Well, I'm not an expert, being neither polyamorous, nor a slut, |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:19 AM Response to Reply #1 |
5. Well put |
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ZombieNixon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:22 AM Response to Reply #5 |
7. I win! |
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gmoney (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:50 PM Response to Reply #5 |
62. does that make you "stereogamous"? |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:57 PM Response to Reply #62 |
80. hehe, i guess so.... |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:58 AM Response to Reply #1 |
19. Despite not being an expert... |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:10 AM Response to Reply #19 |
24. So do you then "give your blessing" for your partner |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:17 AM Response to Reply #24 |
27. Well, I'm not polyamorous myself, but... |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:29 AM Response to Reply #27 |
31. That's why in the OP I tried to qualify it but I think it came off badly |
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Nickster (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:51 PM Response to Reply #1 |
63. Makes perfect sense to me. n/t |
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crim son (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:14 AM Response to Original message |
2. Judgement, I believe. n/t |
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Oeditpus Rex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:16 AM Response to Original message |
3. If you're polyamorous |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:18 AM Response to Original message |
4. Um....if you have to ask, then.... |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:26 AM Response to Reply #4 |
10. Sent pm |
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Lethe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:20 AM Response to Original message |
6. its the same definition as alcoholic |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:26 AM Response to Reply #6 |
9. Wow, dumbest example ever. Yeah, seriously...what are you talking about? nt |
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Lethe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:09 AM Response to Reply #9 |
23. ? |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:20 AM Response to Reply #23 |
29. How does that relate to the difference between being "poly" and being a "slut?" |
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Lethe (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:37 AM Response to Reply #29 |
33. there is no difference |
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Left Is Write (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:20 PM Response to Reply #33 |
90. No difference between polyamory and promiscuity? |
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Squeech (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 09:56 AM Response to Reply #23 |
48. Wrong |
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Sapphocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:08 AM Response to Reply #6 |
21. As I recall... |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:25 AM Response to Original message |
8. Here is my definition |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:28 AM Response to Reply #8 |
11. But why would someone be up front about that? |
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KitchenWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:33 AM Response to Reply #11 |
13. Who knows |
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Common Sense Party (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:32 AM Response to Reply #8 |
12. So, a person can only be "slutty" if they are in a nominally |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:37 AM Response to Reply #12 |
14. I guess a lot of it depends on what you consider "committed" |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:29 AM Response to Reply #8 |
39. not necessarily true...a lot of people i know identify as slutty...and everyone they are sleeping |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:41 AM Response to Original message |
15. emotion....for those who truly are poly |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:50 AM Response to Reply #15 |
17. I don't care if the guys I date |
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Sapphocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:15 AM Response to Reply #17 |
25. May I ask you about that? |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:32 AM Response to Reply #25 |
32. I know, as soon as I posted that I realized that it's probably |
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Sapphocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:46 AM Response to Reply #32 |
35. Eh, you could call it a snap judgment, or not... |
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Fleshdancer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:28 AM Response to Reply #17 |
30. I do think more people are monogamous than not.... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:30 AM Response to Reply #17 |
56. you may personally get irritated but many people dont care or enjoy the freedom |
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Tyrone Slothrop (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:51 PM Response to Reply #56 |
91. "Many people don't care"??? |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:54 PM Response to Reply #91 |
92. However, if everyone involved is aware of the situation then it's not cheating. |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:57 PM Response to Reply #92 |
93. Great Book! |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 05:24 PM Response to Reply #91 |
95. this is not about cheating...its about people being very upfront about what they do and dont do. |
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mykpart (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:46 AM Response to Original message |
16. Don't say "slut." |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:51 AM Response to Reply #16 |
18. I'm realizing now that maybe the term "player" |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:29 AM Response to Reply #16 |
40. she is being gender inclusive..not just pointing to women and saying slut |
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unpossibles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:59 PM Response to Reply #40 |
65. well, technically the male version would be a "satyr" |
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Sapphocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:07 AM Response to Original message |
20. Anyone want butter? |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:09 AM Response to Reply #20 |
22. Only if it's real. I worked in a movie theatre and trust me... |
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Sapphocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:16 AM Response to Reply #22 |
26. Ugh! So did I. |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:18 AM Response to Reply #26 |
28. Actually, ours was always fresh-popped, at least. |
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FuzzySlippers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:40 AM Response to Original message |
34. Do I have to point out the obvious? |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:48 AM Response to Reply #34 |
36. Well then you answered my question: |
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lukasahero (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 09:36 AM Response to Reply #34 |
46. Ding ding ding - we have a winner! |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:13 AM Response to Original message |
37. oi oi oi |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:27 AM Response to Original message |
38. whats wrong with being slutty or poly if you are honest about it? |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:32 AM Response to Reply #38 |
41. weLL... |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:43 AM Response to Reply #41 |
44. i am too...but part of why i am is because slutty is used in a very perjorative sense |
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REP (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:32 AM Response to Original message |
42. Polys Tend To Be Committed Trios, Not Casual |
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buddhamama (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:41 AM Response to Original message |
43. i am confused really with the term 'slut'. |
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Debbi801 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 08:58 AM Response to Original message |
45. The poly families I have known in real life... |
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eyesroll (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 09:36 AM Response to Original message |
47. Poly = Someone who seeks, has, or is otherwise interested in multiple relationships. |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:17 AM Response to Reply #47 |
51. This is a good explanation. |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 10:48 AM Response to Original message |
49. If you really want to know... |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:24 AM Response to Reply #49 |
54. I'm really sorry? |
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gmoney (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:07 PM Response to Reply #54 |
68. The guy is trying to use "polyamorous" to smokescreen his behavior |
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swimboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:14 AM Response to Original message |
50. Past experience is not a predictor of future results |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:18 AM Response to Original message |
52. It's like Lenin says, you just look at the one who benefits and....you know |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:22 AM Response to Original message |
53. ''slutty'' -- didn't that term go out with the dark ages? |
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yellowcanine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:25 AM Response to Reply #53 |
55. Actually "slutty" is a very good term, either in casual conversation or in |
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xchrom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 11:39 AM Response to Reply #55 |
57. yeah -- if you're busy body -- w-a-a-a-y too worried about |
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yellowcanine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:12 PM Response to Reply #57 |
58. Lighten up. One can use the term for more than just gossiping about people. |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:36 PM Response to Reply #58 |
59. the way it's used in this thread |
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hedgehog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 12:46 PM Response to Original message |
60. Easy - Use it in a sentence correctly - for example: |
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Dastard Stepchild (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:38 PM Response to Original message |
61. Wine and beer... |
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MadAsHellNewYorker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 01:54 PM Response to Original message |
64. the men you are referring to are NOT polyamorous. |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:02 PM Response to Reply #64 |
66. indeedy |
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MadAsHellNewYorker (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:17 PM Response to Reply #66 |
69. very sad but true... |
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jonnyblitz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:41 PM Response to Reply #66 |
72. i don't see anything wrong with sluts either, though... |
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SmileyBoy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:06 PM Response to Original message |
67. The day has come to an end... The sun is over my head... |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:29 PM Response to Original message |
70. A "slut" is a polyamorous individual with an STD? |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:39 PM Response to Reply #70 |
71. ... |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:41 PM Response to Reply #71 |
73. i thought you'd like that about as much as i did... |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:49 PM Response to Reply #73 |
76. Good heavens, I was being facetious. Chill the fuck out. |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:47 PM Response to Reply #71 |
74. I said "just a guess". It's not like I use either term. |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:48 PM Response to Reply #74 |
75. Wtf are you talking about? |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:53 PM Response to Reply #75 |
78. Socially "acceptable" differences in terminology? |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:52 PM Response to Reply #74 |
77. The "socially acceptable standard?" |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:54 PM Response to Reply #77 |
79. "Socially acceptable" doesn't mean I find it acceptable. |
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HarukaTheTrophyWife (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:57 PM Response to Reply #79 |
81. I'm sorry. |
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Alexander (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:03 PM Response to Reply #81 |
83. So I guess the smileys don't work for you? |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 02:58 PM Response to Original message |
82. Polyamory vs Slut |
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sniffa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:03 PM Response to Reply #82 |
84. thank you muchLy |
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ThomCat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:18 PM Response to Reply #84 |
89. I'm not sure I deserve any thanks for stating the obvious. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:05 PM Response to Original message |
85. the difference between sniffa and me. |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:05 PM Response to Reply #85 |
86. ha! |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:06 PM Response to Reply #86 |
87. that was a good one, right? |
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bicentennial_baby (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 03:07 PM Response to Reply #87 |
88. of course they will |
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Raffi Ella (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Nov-20-06 04:02 PM Response to Original message |
94. after reading through the thread |
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