"She may not have been perfect, but she was the best one we had."

[bertha katzenengel]

My grandma is in the hospital. She's possibly had a stroke. Although she collapsed at her nursing home around six this morning, she still hadn't been seen by a doctor as of an hour ago. She's in CA; my sisters are keeping me updated.

My grandma was one of four parent figures in my life: her, my dad, my mother, and my mother's husband. Of the four, Grandma was by far the best. She showed the best love - in action. She wasn't perfect but because of the things she did for us, we know she loved us.

She's been in the home for four years. Her dementia is so advanced that she can no longer speak coherently.

I want to go home but I've been assured that Grandma would not know I was there. I should wait.

Florence, my grandmother

[RetroLounge]

1. ...

:hug:

RL

[crim son]

2. I like her face.

So sorry, Bertha.

[Haole Girl]

3. If you want to go home, go home!

You shouldn't let anybody talk you out of it, if it's something you feel you must do.
I wish only the best for your Grandma...hugs to you and your family. :hug: :hug:

[Richard Steele]

7. Hear, hear!

Hell, I'm a socially awkward moron, and even I know that!

If you wanna go, then you really need to GO!

Grandad Steele didn't know I was there the last time
I ever saw him, but I'm still glad I went.

[Left Is Write]

4. Sweetie...

:hug:

My heart goes out to you.

[bigwillq]

5. Thinking only good thoughts for grandma.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. I'm so sorry, bertha.......

:hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

8. What a beautiful woman.

What a difficult time. I'm sorry you're going through this... and I'm really pissed off about the care she's (not) receiving! God I hate that!


My advice: If your heart is telling you to go to her now, I say go to her now. I say that because the biggest regrets I've had in life all arise from occasions in which I did not follow my heart/intuition.


Best to you and grandma.


:hug:

[haf216]

9. I say go.

When my grandfather died (almost three years ago) I had just started a new job and was unable to see him, to say goodbye. (I did get to go to the service.) He would not have know who I was, my brother and sister did get to see him and he kept call them by his children's names. To this day I still wish I could to say goodbye. I think that is important for the living.

So if you want to go, go. Your grandmother may not know, but you will.

I'm so sorry you are going thought this.

[asthmaticeog]

10. I'm so sorry.

For what my opinion's worth, I think you should visit. Even if she doesn't know you're there, you'll know you were.

:hug:

edit: seplling

[u4ic]

11. Oh, bertha

:hug:

Her spirit really shines through in that photo...one sees a loving and wise woman.

She'll know you're there, and most importantly...you'll know you're there. It seems like it would be of great comfort to you, especially.

She hadn't been seen by a doctor for how long? :wtf:

[HarukaTheTrophyWife]

12. ...

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

13. Sending hugs and good vibes...

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Hope she's better soon! :hug::hug::hug:
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[China_cat]

14. It doesn't matter if she wouldn't know you're there.

YOU would know that you had a chance to say last words to her. If it isn't a question of money, go. Please. You'll regret it if you don't.

[rockymountaindem]

15. Best wishes to you all

I hope this works out for the best, whatever the best may be.

[bertha katzenengel]

16. thank you to you all - I have read all your posts and appreciate them

very much.

I just can't go home. If I learn something definite, like death is absolutely imminent, I'll go. Otherwise, I must wait. Thank you for all your good wishes:

RetroLounge
crim son
KC2
dicksteele
Left Is Write
bigwillq
CaliforniaPeggy
Dangerously Amused
haf216
asthmaticeog
u4ic
haruka3_2000
GoddessOfGuinness
China_cat
rockymountaindem

[tjwmason]

17. I can remember you posting pics of the two of you

You looked so good together.

:hug:

[bertha katzenengel]

18. Here's one. This was a year and a half ago.

During this visit, first she thought I was my mother, but later I just became "the fat one." :)



Thanks :hug:

[barb162]

25. Oh what a swewet picture!

[wildhorses]

19. go--bertha, for your sake GO!!

my granma had dementia also--you do this for you as much as for her--you will NOT regret it:hug:

[sarge43]

20. Go and see her.

It doesn't matter that she may not know you're there. I sounds like you need to be there.

[Ken Burch]

21. My best wishes to you.

This must be a deeply painful time for you in ways only you yourself can understand.

And I join those who say if you want to go see your grandmother, Do go see her!.

[Maestro]

22. Sorry to hear the news.

It is tough. I recently lost my last grandmother and grandfather in less than a year. It's hard but I find solace in the fact that they lived full lives. I'm sure your grandma has as well.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

23. I'm sorry Bertha

My thoughts, prayers and best wishes and peace and light to your grandmother, you and the whole family :hug: :hug:

[fortyfeetunder]

24. Sorry to hear about your grandma

I hope healing and peace will come soon for her.
She has a lovely gentle face.

[SeattleGirl]

26. She looks like such a wise woman, bertha.

:loveya: