but not so easy to find one.
Peace, true peace, is a difficult and heroic thing. So much more difficult than the alternative.
It is so much easier to find an enemy and destroy him than to find a friend and live beside him.
But, some of us take the path to peace, and while we may not reach it the journey itself is worthwhile.
From a Quaker listserve, and perhaps useful even without references to a deity:
When George Fox was asked to be a captain in Cromwell's army, he reports he told them "that I lived in the virtue of that life and power that took away the occasion for all wars."
This is a testimony in the true sense - not a statement of belief but a statement about what has happened to one. Friends didn't get to nonparticipation in war primarily from a theoretical or theological conviction. They got to it by being changed from the persons they were to being people in the image of God. It's not at its root about what we do or not do, but what we are. If we truly have been transformed from within by Christ, we simply are people who can not fight with outward weapons anymore.
So don't try to understand the Quaker peace testimony. Rather seek to open yourself to being transformed by God.