Ever have a day when you REALLY miss somebody??

[ScreamingMeemie]

I woke up this morning thinking of my Aunt. She died of cancer just before Christmas two years ago and for some reason she was on my mind the first thing when I woke up. We used to talk to each other every day just about. She was in Milwaukee, and I--here in Detroit. It's also funny (I'm not sure if that is the right word) how people lose any of their negative traits upon leaving us. I think that's a really good thing.

I miss talking with my Aunt everyday, but I'm glad that I did.


Have a great day DU! :hi: :grouphug:

[reyd reid reed]

1. Yup...I have days like that.

I enjoy the memories, though. Makes the person feel that much closer to me, whether they've died or just faded out of my life for one reason or another. Sometimes it hurts but the hurt reaffirms the love that I feel. You can't hurt over missing someone that you didn't care deeply for.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

9. The memories are good, aren't they?

:hug:

[reyd reid reed]

26. The memories are what keeps the person close

and that's always good.

:hug:

[Guava Jelly]

2. I sure do!

And I am sorry :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

8. Hi GoP...

I am not so very sad as melancholy... I miss my talks with her. :hug: She cared more for me than I realized at the time.

[Guava Jelly]

13. Nothing like a loss to make one fully realize what they had

Tons of these for you :hug:

[billyskank]

3. A friend of mine died a few weeks ago

I learned about it by email. It was a sad surprise.

[reyd reid reed]

4. Oh, sweetie

I'm so sorry.

:hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

10. billy....

:hug: I'm so sorry. When you learn of things in that manner sometimes it makes it so much harder. :loveya:

[jus_the_facts]

5. Not a day goes by that I still....

....want to pick up the phone and call my Dad.... :hug: :loveya:

[ScreamingMeemie]

11. jus_

:loveya: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:

[Skittles]

6. I miss oneighty

:(

[ScreamingMeemie]

12. Me too...

He was one of a kind here. I've been reading some of his stories to BabyG because he used to so look forward to his posts.

:loveya: :hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

27. Me too.

:hug:

[buddhamama]

7. yes.

Oct. is an especially 'hard' month. my Mom passed away Halloween night, 20 yrs ago this month.

i am sorry for your loss, Mrs.G

peace to your Aunt. peace to you as well :hug: :hi: :hug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

15. That has to be so very hard on you buddhamama...

:hug: :hug: You were too young for that. :loveya:

[Random_Australian]

14. I've only ever missed one person, and that was for just a little while.

I'm not sure if it was even missing, but it seems to fit the description. It was because of a rare meeting had become habitual and was terminated. This means the change in habit created some discrepancy in my mood.

I don't really know how to miss people. I don't know how everyone else learned. Perhaps there is something wrong with me? :shrug:

[ScreamingMeemie]

16. I don't think there is anything wrong with you.

My father doesn't so much "miss" people as he treasures their memories. Although what you described sounds a lot like missing. :hi:

[Random_Australian]

17. Only happened once is the problem.

Apparently, we're supposed to miss people more often than once per 18 years. I mean - I moved out of home to a place very far away, with one of my parents ill enough that I might never see them again, and what did I feel? Pretty much nothing. :shrug:

Has led to some strange conversations though... like one that went (them) "So people go away, or you are a long way away from people you know, and so you feel bad"

...

...

...

(them) "Is this somehow troubling to you, R_A?"

(Me) "I don't feel that. Am I supposed to?"

:shrug:

But as far as my brain goes, one thing missing isn't enough for me to lose sleep over, compared to what has gone missing in the past.

[wildhorses]

18. sure I have days like that...got something to do with love I

suspect. And isn't funny a funny word? Hope you have a great day, too MrsG.:hug::hi:

[miss_american_pie]

19. Oh yes, lots of them

:hug:

[xchrom]

20. i miss my partner -- my dogs --

friends lost in the night{i lost just about every one i knew}.

the surprise to me as an adult was my dogs -- they really were{i had written 'like'' -- i took it out} children to me.

i miss my sporty boy so much. he came along right after my partner died.
i don't think that was accident.

[schmuls]

21. Yes, I miss my partner of 24 years. He died last February (long story)

Surprisingly, I'm doing better as a single person than I thought I would. But a few times a week, something comes up that reminds me of him so strongly, that I usually start crying. I'm lonely, not so much for friends but to have someone I can tell just about anything to and share with on a deep level. It hurts.

[LostinVA]

22. Yeah, I do -- I had a bad one last week

[Blue Diadem]

23. Yes, a lot lately,

My son's wedding is coming up. I wish both sets of his grandparents could still be here.

[BarenakedLady]

24. Yes

Some living and some dead.

:hug:

[lizziegrace]

25. Days?

Oh yes. Sometimes weeks. I miss people dear to me who've passed away. I miss my sweet, gentle dog who gave us unconditional love. I miss people who've come into my life and for whatever reason, left. Those are the hardest to deal with for me.


:hug:

[Dangerously Amused]

28. All the time.

::hug:

[datasuspect]

29. i often miss my grandmother

she died in 1999.

but she visits me in my dreams.

[merh]

30. my mom

today is the 25th anniversary of her death :(

[skygazer]

31. Yeah, and sometimes it hits unexpectedly

I mean, there are days I really, really miss my mom and she died over 30 years ago. But every now and then, I think about my friend Bill and I'll think, "Gosh, I wonder what he's up to these days" ...

and then I remember he died back in '81. Every time I do that, it feels like the first time I heard it. :(

On the other hand, I'm glad I do remember so vividly. It would be bad to forget those we love. :hug:

[Broken_Hero]

32. All the time...

and it usually hits me out of nowhere, like a dream of the person, or a reliving a past event, played out in my dreams...