Have you ever worked with married people who are having

[wildhorses]

an on the job affair with another co-worker? They are married to other people but, on the job they are acting like love sick teenagers...it is affecting their abilities and therefore their patients...what do I do? What did you do?

[crispini]

1. If it wasn't affecting their work I'd ignore it.

But since it IS affecting their work, you might think about a quiet conversation with one of their immediate supervisors. Have specific concrete examples ready, with dates and times, of how it is affecting their work. You want to be professional above all.

[wildhorses]

3. thanks for the advice...

I have my ducks in a row...so to speak
I would ignore it but, in case I need it
I have layed away the ammo...the nurse involved is bucking for a promotion and she does not care who she steps on to get it...she has already got one person fired
life in the ER can be soap opera city!!!

[In_The_Wind]

2. Yes, I have.

However, nobodies life was depending on their attention so I did nothing about it.
You may have a far different situation on your hands.

[wildhorses]

4. truly...it is getting harder to ignore..

I am all for live and let live...
I hate to sit in judgement...
but, if the shit hits the fan
I refuse to be the only one to get smeared by it
know what I mean?

[LaurenG]

5. Try to ignore it

That happened here. I had a hard time not feeling hate toward the two of them due to some personal pain over the same issue. I just tried to ignore it, besides these two ended up together. (both left their spouses and families behind) It's their deal, their mess and their karma. Try to ignore it and leave it alone.

Try not to judge it as you never know; it could be us losing our minds over "love" some day too. lol

[wildhorses]

6. thanks....I am not judging...could really care less

but she feels threatened by my knowledge ....so I am just ignoring it but I am prepared in case she comes after my job like she did the other employee...

[LaurenG]

7. Wow that is interesting

It sure sounds like she goes after what doesn't rightfully belong to her. I'd put a foot up her backside at the first sign that she came over my boundaries.

Like I said, that happened to me when a sweety like the one you're referring to made anything she wanted hers without having the "qualifications" to do so. Stand up firmly for yourself and I hope she leaves, what a trouble maker.x(

[wildhorses]

8. thanks...other people are starting to get "onto" her ways

it is the patients who are the ones who suffer at this person's attitude...I think the rest of my colleagues have gotten hip to her tricks and are closing rank on her. I just don't want to be the catalyst.

[Mutley]

9. I did work with a man who had a major crush on one of our cowokers.

They never did anything that I know of, but he did say something to her once to the effect of, "If I weren't married I would be in love with you." I just ignored it. I didn't know them very well and didn't feel it was any of my business.