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My SO's cat is 12-ish, but has had some chronic health issues (I'm not sure exactly what, but her conditions do make her more of an elderly cat than her age suggests).
The cat will be going to the vet tonight for loss of appetite/lethargy/etc. (The kid, oddly enough, noticed the cat was "sleeping again" on Monday, but the adults didn't see anything too different -- but it got precipitously worse today, and she also soiled outside of the litterbox, which is unusual.)
Now, there's a good chance that the cat just has a bug, and will get an exam and meds and feel better soon. But, like with any cat (especially an older or chronically ill cat), there's a chance it could be something long-term but treatable, or it could be her way of signaling it's her time to go. We won't know until we know.
Question: I will be looking after the three-year-old tonight while the SO is at the vet with the cat. And I KNOW she'll be asking questions. I don't want to say "kitty's at the doctor and she'll get some medicine and be fine" if that's not necessarily the case. But I also don't want to say "kitty's at the doctor and she's very sick and she may even die" because, well, that's a lot for a three-year-old (especially one who isn't mine) and her concept of death is dinosaur bones at the museum (and she's convinced that they play together at night when people aren't watching). She is fascinated with the idea of death, though, and will likely ask me 10,000 times if the cat is going to die, even though she doesn't know what that means.
I also don't want to do what I usually do when trying to explain something complex to her -- I use an analogy that's relevant to her life (i.e. "you know how you were sick and you went to the doctor and he gave you medicine and it helped you feel better? That's where your dad is with the kitty.") I don't want to do it now because, well, I don't want to draw parallels between her and the cat in case the cat doesn't make it. Any advice on how to deal with this delicately would be appreciated. She's such a precocious-yet-innocent little girl, and I don't want to confuse her, or make her any more upset than the situation already will.
Thanks.
(When the cat does pass, which hopefully won't be for a long time, her dad will be the one to break it to her, but I'll be alone to answer questions tonight.)
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