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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-07-05 03:44 PM
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Things that make you go

Yesterday, a bunch of us were just hanging out at a friend's house watching football and watching the kids roller blade, etc., and the topic turned to teenagers. Seems one of the neighbor's daughters had a "Pimp and *o" party where the aforementioned type costumes were required.

Then, apparently the party progressed from a costume party to an actual 'activity'. Until the police called and 12 of them were arrested for drinking underage, disorderly conduct, etc.,

Here is my :wtf: This young lady has a predilection for misbehavior on a grand scale. She is a junior in HS, has already had two abortions, has been arrested, you get the idea.

As a parent of two teens, there is no way in hell I would leave the house to go to dinner and leave that miscreant behind to wreak havoc on my home.

I don't get these parents who go out and go about their social lives while their teens are busy destroying their homes and potentially their lives. The liability alone of serving alcohol to under aged kids would give me nightmares.

Am I just old? Yes. I am. but is this type of 'hands off' parenting something new?
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-07-05 03:49 PM
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1. No you're not old
Edited on Mon Nov-07-05 03:51 PM by MissMillie
And I learned a lesson w/ a similar episode in my home recently. Though the young man in my home had been in some trouble before, It was not along the lines of parties and or illegal substances.

But I came home to drunk kids in my house.

And yeah, the liability issue is scary, but nothing is more scary than losing your credibility w/ other parents. I think I salvaged mine by actually calling some parents up and telling them that while I was out, the kids got into mischief. I suppose I could have said nothing, and then hoped that the kids avoided detection when they got home (none of the drivers were intoxicated) but instead, I took the honesty route and managed to save some face.

It's tough to think that you have to hire a sitter for older teenagers, but honestly, sometimes, you have to.

It would be especially good if parents would talk to each other about which house the kids are at and whether or not there will be supervision. There have been a number of instances when I come home to find that the kids have company, and I wish that they didn't when I'm not there. I've had to call the parents of these other kids and say, "Please don't send XXXXX over when I'm not there. You can always check w/ me by calling my cell phone."

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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-07-05 03:54 PM
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2. When I was teaching high school, back in the 80's,
I made a lot of extra money 'babysitting' teens when parents went out of town.

I would never leave my teens alone like that. I trust the two of them, but with away messages, cell phones, etc., the party can get completely out of hand.

My eldest had a birthday party here in July. There were probably 80 kids here, but my husband and I were here, two friends and my 6'4" brother. No problems. I did have to tell some of the older boys that if they went into the street to their cars, they would have to leave.
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Divameow77 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-07-05 03:58 PM
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3. You sound like a pretty cool mom
A co-worker just had a Halloween party for her 2 high school daughters and 90 of their closest friends. She went all out, and had a "Fear Factor" type competition with bobbing for spam, etc. She said it was alot of fun and she gave alot of kids a safe and fun place to spend Halloween.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-07-05 04:00 PM
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4. I don't think my daughter would agree.
Our house is the 'it' house because we always have snacks, video games, etc., Heck we put on a sunroom last year that was supposed to be MY room, but it has been transformed into a game room with Gamecube, Air hockey, foosball, you get the idea.

I prefer to have them here, because I am here. Plus, a lot of them like to listen to my talk politics, which I am hoping bodes well tomorrow in the gubenatorial race.
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