Democratic Underground Latest Greatest Lobby Journals Search Options Help Login
Google

I had the stupidest fight with my boyfriend this morning

Printer-friendly format Printer-friendly format
Printer-friendly format Email this thread to a friend
Printer-friendly format Bookmark this thread
This topic is archived.
Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU
 
LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:07 PM
Original message
I had the stupidest fight with my boyfriend this morning
because he called my reddish tote a 'big purple bag." It seems so dumb now, but it set me off at the time. He put something I asked him to find in my tote bag, then told me it was in the big purple bag, and I thought he meant he couldn't find it because it was in some big purple bag somewhere. I kept saying what? And he kept saying, "the softball roster!" I thought it was lost, somewhere in that non-existent big purple bag.

I don't THINK he's color blind. He just doesn't seem to want to know colors.

I feel kind of bad now, but I was mystified at the time.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
ArkDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:08 PM
Response to Original message
1. interesting
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
stellanoir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:09 PM
Response to Original message
2. Forgive yourself
apologize and I dare you to name one intelligent conflict within recorded history.

Kidding. . .sort of.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:11 PM
Response to Reply #2
3. what's that joke about most guys
Edited on Thu Aug-25-05 02:11 PM by tigereye
not knowing the "marketing" names for colors, like "eggplant, cyan, cream," etc. My husband is color blind and is also an artist type, and he sees colors totally differently than I do. :)
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
billyskank Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 03:50 PM
Response to Reply #3
21. We males recognise the following colours:
Red, brown, yellow, green, blue, purple, white, grey and black. Ok, maybe cyan as well, although we consider that and turquoise to be the same. Similarly magenta is a synonym for purple. Basically all other shades are merely the aforementioned masquerading under another name.

;)
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 05:33 PM
Response to Reply #21
23. but then again
what about all those cool colors in the big 64 crayola crayon box of youth, i.e. burnt sienna?
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
One_Life_To_Give Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 06:07 PM
Response to Reply #23
26. 64 Box was 4 of each, right?
Actually I read somewhere that women see three times as many color shades as men do.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
arikara Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:11 PM
Response to Original message
4. My husband and I had a horrible fight this morning too
we were taking the cat to the vet and he picked up the carrier. I told him I'd carry it and he asked why. I told him because he always bounces the cats around and hits the door etc. with it... which he does... and he got all furious. I bloody hate men.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:11 PM
Response to Original message
5. Yes that is a dumb fight, but my husband and I
will have those every now and then too!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
progmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:14 PM
Response to Original message
6. i thought for sure this was going to have something to do with crumbs
...and open drawers.

:hi:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:16 PM
Response to Reply #6
8. LOL!
No, not today. But that does bug me.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:15 PM
Response to Original message
7. Oh, we've had doozies before over non-relevant things
but I have been trying to be in a good mood in the mornings lately and I feel bad that this set me off. I'm glad you stuck up for the cat, though. I DIDN'T get mad at him for not honking at the carpool lane cheater.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
miss_kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:17 PM
Response to Original message
9. Did any
DU pet peeves come up in the discussion? :evilgrin:

:P
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:20 PM
Response to Original message
10. I have little arguments like this with my bf, too. And he is colorblind.
I try to be understanding, but sometimes it is very frustrating. For example, a few days ago I asked him where something was and he said it was in the closet, in the blue plastic bin, on top. Well, we have a blue bin on the top shelf of the closet, so I spent a good hour looking through it. Nothing. Turns out he meant the purple bin, and the thing I was looking for was on the top of the bin. :eyes: I know it's not his fault but sometimes it drives me nuts.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:51 PM
Response to Reply #10
16. Can you label them?
Just put a label on one that says purple, and another on the other that says blue.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 03:34 PM
Response to Reply #16
19. Hey, good idea.
Thanks!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
tigereye Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 05:34 PM
Response to Reply #10
24. sometimes I think neither my son nor my husband
are capable of seeing what is right in front of them. Maybe a thrown back from the hunter/gatherer dichotomy, eh? ;)
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:33 PM
Response to Original message
11. Kiss and make up
I hate fights. Especially stupid ones.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
The Backlash Cometh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:34 PM
Response to Original message
12. There are going to be two more stages you're going to go through
when it comes to arguing:

(1) Arguments that can go on for weeks, with only one partner knowing they're happening.

(2) Then when you're much older, arguments which get intense and go on and on until you realize that it boils down to a misunderstanding. But when you try to back track and reconstruct the original comment that set off the argument, neither one of you can remember what was said, even when it happened just three minutes earlier.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
stopbush Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:41 PM
Response to Original message
13. My suggestion: make-up sex.
Works after any disagreement.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:47 PM
Response to Original message
14. We've made up!
I just ran into him. I went out to get lunch, and I was all set to get French dip. So I went into this little deli that has it on Thursdays. But when I went in, it smelled just like his mom's kitchen used to. When I was in high school, I went there every day for almost a month and a half for lunch and she always had a big batch of egg salad made up, with homemade bread. So I ordered egg salad (even more amazing, they made it for me on the spot!) on whole wheat bread, and I started walking back to work, and there he was, not mad at all, so now I'm happy. I guess his mom interfered from above.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
1gobluedem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:50 PM
Response to Reply #14
15. Yay n/t
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
NewJeffCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 02:52 PM
Response to Original message
17. it's a guy thing, I think
For many guys, as long as we're generally close on a color, it's all the same.

Wasn't there an old joke about how men see just the 16 colors of the Windows default setting? It's red, it's not burgundy or cherry or whatnot.
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
TimeChaser Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 03:03 PM
Response to Original message
18. Actually
I read an article a few months ago that said that women could detect variations in color better than men can. :shrug:
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 03:35 PM
Response to Original message
20. As Seinfeld would say - Make-up sex is always the best....
...except for Conjugal visit sex which is even better!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
gmoney Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 03:54 PM
Response to Reply #20
22. But better still...
...is Fugitive sex!
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
LisaM Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-25-05 06:00 PM
Response to Original message
25. How do you people know these things?
Curious minds want to know.....
Printer Friendly | Permalink |  | Top
 
DU AdBot (1000+ posts) Click to send private message to this author Click to view 
this author's profile Click to add 
this author to your buddy list Click to add 
this author to your Ignore list Thu Apr 25th 2024, 03:20 AM
Response to Original message
Advertisements [?]
 Top

Home » Discuss » The DU Lounge Donate to DU

Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.1 Copyright 1997-2002 DCScripts.com
Software has been extensively modified by the DU administrators


Important Notices: By participating on this discussion board, visitors agree to abide by the rules outlined on our Rules page. Messages posted on the Democratic Underground Discussion Forums are the opinions of the individuals who post them, and do not necessarily represent the opinions of Democratic Underground, LLC.

Home  |  Discussion Forums  |  Journals |  Store  |  Donate

About DU  |  Contact Us  |  Privacy Policy

Got a message for Democratic Underground? Click here to send us a message.

© 2001 - 2011 Democratic Underground, LLC