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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:48 PM
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Going to my first adult wedding (sounds great eh?) on saturday I need
advice, 26yr. old, the future wife's best friend. Help! most of my socia time is spent around rugby players...not quite societies norms....how do and should I behave like a normal person?
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C_eh_N_eh_D_eh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:52 PM
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1. There *are* no normal people...
especially not at weddings.
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jeff30997 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:53 PM
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2. Agreed.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:53 PM
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3. Well put
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skygazer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:54 PM
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4. Get very drunk
Dance with old ladies and try to feel them up. Vomit in the vestibule. Do the hokey-pokey.

That's normal behavior at every wedding I've ever been to.
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madeline_con Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:56 PM
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7. Sound advice.
Anything less, and they'll all talk about you later.
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:56 PM
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8. That is my M.O. regardless, I am saying should I tone it
down. i make friends anywhere and am all about a good time, how serious are these things?
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kanrok Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:57 PM
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10. I say vomit in the middle of the hokey-pokie
you'll start a whole bunch of secondary pukes. Classy move. Or, in the alternative, watch "The Wedding Crashers" to get some tips on how to behave.
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:03 PM
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18. I was going to bring enlistment papers for all the hitler youth
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kanrok Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 10:33 PM
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35. Good idea
You'll make a HUGE impression. I like it.
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gollygee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:55 PM
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5. As opposed to children's weddings?
You've gone to weddings of children before? LOL
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:57 PM
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9. From my days in NAMBLA, asshat.
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jmowreader Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 09:37 PM
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32. You were in...
the National Association of Marlon Brando Look-Alikes?

Damn! You really DO look like Marlon Brando!
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 10:20 PM
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34. the horror...the horror.....
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grrl62 Donating Member (202 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-28-05 12:35 PM
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37. that was my first thought too
:silly:
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Sanity Claws Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:56 PM
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6. Shower and shave, first off
Make sure you do all of the other grooming basics, such as comb your hair, make sure nails are clean, etc.
Clothes should be dressy. Enlist advice on what to wear. Hint -- it's not the same stuff you'd wear to a rugby game.
Don't drink too much -- maybe two at the most. You don't want to act stupid, right?
Finally, on any occasion when you're not sure of the right thing to do, just smile at people, act polite, and wait to see what others are doing before you decide what to do. Safe topics -- how do you know the bride, groom? What you liked about the ceremony or reception... Got the idea?
One last thing, have fun.

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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:00 PM
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12. I am gonna look sharp, no questions. I want to
behave, but there are land mines every where, young GOP'ers, buddys who are catalysts and functional alcoholism on the weekends.... going t be tough....not to mention the bride and groom will be divorced in 2 years.....not my best friends...train wreck.. abstain from an open bar.....I am more likely t vote for JEB
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grannylib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:02 PM
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16. Not abstain, no, that's cruel and unusual punishment. But don't get
trashed either. Make every other a soda or drink some bottled water or something...or coffee or whatever. You CAN survive a wedding reception without a drink in your hand EVERY minute, honest! I've done it.
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grannylib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:00 PM
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13. Gees, great minds or what? Good answers, good answers!! Hee hee!
:toast:
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grannylib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 07:57 PM
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11. hee hee, don't panic, first off. and don't over-imbibe, might really
embarrass yourself. just normal good manners - please, thank you, excuse me, how are you? fine thank you...isn't this a nice reception/golf course/American Legion? May I get you a drink? Nice to meet you. It was my pleasure. Lovely weather we're having, isn't it?
And so on.

Silverware - go from the outside and work your way in, course by course, if it's that fancy of a do. Watch others, take your cues from the sober ones who seem to know wedding etiquette (the Bride's Mother May Be A Good Role Model If She's Not In The Bag Herself.) Whisper sweet nothings occasionally to your Future Wife, and take mental notes of things you DON'T want at your upcoming festivities :D

Congratulate the Happy Couple and any family members you meet in the receiving line, and thank the appropriate people (follow Future Wife's lead in this) for the lovely afternoon/evening. And have fun!
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:03 PM
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17. the good thing is I am
like a Gremlin at formal affairs. I am good untill mid night, and the happy couple is leaving at 11.....just worried...being a 6'4" 255lbs angry dem can set the wrong tone. sure I will be fine if I listen to Jinmeny Crickett....thatns for the advice, DU rocks.
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grannylib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:20 PM
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21. It surely does, doesn't it? I love this place. *lol* at Jiminy Cricket,
hee hee :rofl: Just picturing a guy your size at a formal do with an animated Disney thing on your shoulder, singing...
You'll be fine! Have a good time :hi:
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:29 PM
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26. Yeah I know, at bars I make friends with the bouncers, here
make friends, charming friends, with the older women and they will take care of me in case of a faux pas. I think I will have to actually try to screw up, just be myself in a good mood and limit my beer intake to to ten instead of 30(American lite beer is horrible, no offense). thanks again...fill you in on monday!
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MissMarple Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:01 PM
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14. Look pleasant, dress well (Banana Republic like) hug the bride...
congratulate the groom. When all thumbs...talk with the old people, ask a granny or auntie to dance. Just be quiet. Relax. And DO NOT drink to a state of stupidity. Other wise, there may be a pretty, unattached little missy... or some folks you may know. Remember sit up straight, shake hands, smile and manners, manners, manners. And have fun. ;)
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Misunderestimator Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:01 PM
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15. Go see that movie "Wedding Crashers" and act just like that.
:D
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MissMarple Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:04 PM
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19. Brilliant, simply brilliant.
:bounce: But don't act stupid.
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:08 PM
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20. Grew up watching MrsMarple, Lrd P. Whimsey, H. Poiroit, etc
on PBS....yeah my folks were teachers....
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MissMarple Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:23 PM
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22. Well.... what can I say?
;)
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datasuspect Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:24 PM
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23. i thought you meant this was an "industry" wedding
at first glance.

porn industry that is
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:25 PM
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25. Behavior for that would make an awesome thread!
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Spinzonner Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:24 PM
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24. Don't do or say things because YOU think it will be halarious

Take a thought about the bride's point-of-view of things before 'having fun'

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fishnfla Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:47 PM
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27. I know a thing or 2 of rugby player behavior
I could rip out a dozen great rugby dirges right here and now.

But listen: do evrything mentioned above, especially the looking your best part. Be polite and interested in other people. Compliment the women.

As for the drinking; ever go out on New Years Eve and party with a bunch of amateur drinkers? Those who cant handle it? Many times weddings are like that. So just sit back and let some asshat make a fool of himself by drinking too much( there is always one there).

late in the night, you'll rule.
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 09:09 PM
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29. Words to live by, my thoughts exactly...especially the
clocked young GOP'ers......A rugby player will survive...
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barb162 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 08:49 PM
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28. If you are a rugby player, first put your teeth in to make a
good impression....
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 09:10 PM
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30. Front two are fake and screwed in and the other six are horribly capped
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barb162 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-28-05 12:25 PM
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36. Did you lose them playing rugby?
It's a rough game and the few people I know who play it all have lost their teeth. Like ice hockey I guess
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JohnnyBoots Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 09:13 PM
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31. your going from the bumper sticker.."Rugby Players eat
their dead", it is based of of the movie "Alive" Where a south American team crassehd in the andes and had to eat thier dead
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crispini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jul-27-05 09:45 PM
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33. If you need conversation just ask people about themselves.
People like to talk about themselves. What part of town do you live in? Oh, and how do you like it? How long have you lived there? What do you do? Oh that sounds interesting tell me more about it. If you can get someone started on their hobbies or about how they are remodeling their house or something it will be good for hours and hours of polite conversation. Not that it will be interesting, mind you, but it will be polite.
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