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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 04:58 PM Original message |
What do you do with a 19 yr old who has no job and is not motivted |
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indigo32 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 04:59 PM Response to Original message |
1. DO NOT |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:02 PM Response to Reply #1 |
10. Its on my account. Cingular "add-on" plan. |
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indigo32 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:05 PM Response to Reply #10 |
16. Hmmm |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:06 PM Response to Reply #16 |
20. Its on a Contract. It would cost me more to get out of it. |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:24 PM Response to Reply #20 |
44. I had the same issue with my 15yo. |
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ronnykmarshall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:06 PM Response to Reply #10 |
19. Take the phone. |
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ronnykmarshall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:05 PM Response to Reply #1 |
14. Unless it's in Maveric's name |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:08 PM Response to Reply #14 |
22. He was a contractual "add-on" to my Cingular account. |
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ronnykmarshall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:09 PM Response to Reply #22 |
24. Good ! |
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seriousstan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:00 PM Response to Original message |
2. You have a 19 yr old MAN bumming off of you. |
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ronnykmarshall (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:07 PM Response to Reply #2 |
21. No shit. |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:11 PM Response to Reply #2 |
27. I know, I should. He is an adult. |
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teach1st (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:00 PM Response to Original message |
3. Don't pay the bill... |
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salinen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:00 PM Response to Original message |
4. How cute |
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SmileyBoy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:02 PM Response to Reply #4 |
9. LOL |
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neuvocat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:01 PM Response to Original message |
5. Have the Marine recruiters stop by for a little chat. |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:10 PM Response to Reply #5 |
26. He was set to go into the US Navy, but they keep putting him on hold. |
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caty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:18 PM Response to Reply #26 |
36. Try the Coast Guard. |
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ole_evil_eye (93 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:32 PM Response to Reply #36 |
68. coast guard's gotta hell of a boot camp |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:46 PM Response to Reply #26 |
71. Fascinating. Does he know what's going on in the world? |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:53 PM Response to Reply #71 |
72. He knows what going on. Hates bu$h and is somewhat politically savvy. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:01 PM Response to Original message |
6. The traditional thing is to send him to college |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:04 PM Response to Reply #6 |
13. He's not the college type. ADHD and dyslexia have always been |
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tjdee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:06 PM Response to Reply #13 |
18. Do his learning issues bother him? |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:13 PM Response to Reply #18 |
29. He's always been very self conscious of that. |
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tjdee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:22 PM Response to Reply #29 |
41. Yeah, that's what a parent would say--I worked McD's for two weeks... |
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Midlodemocrat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:25 PM Response to Reply #13 |
45. How about community college? Even part time? |
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YellowRubberDuckie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:13 PM Response to Reply #13 |
58. Vo-Tech |
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MsUnderstood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:22 PM Response to Reply #13 |
63. I totally disagree |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:41 PM Response to Reply #63 |
69. I've been dedicated for years... (in other words, I totally disagree...) |
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Deja Q (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:25 PM Response to Reply #13 |
65. Coming from a person WITH ADD, Asperger's, and am about to be tested FOR |
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tjdee (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:01 PM Response to Original message |
7. Tell him you are NOT paying for for that cell phone bill. |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:05 PM Response to Reply #7 |
17. I confiscated his phone, but the bill has to be paid. Its on my account. |
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knowbody0 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:15 PM Response to Reply #17 |
33. good luck maveric |
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indigo32 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:20 PM Response to Reply #17 |
39. Good for you |
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LastKnight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:02 PM Response to Original message |
8. get his ass up at 7 am. |
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Commie Pinko Dirtbag (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:15 PM Response to Reply #8 |
31. Since much job hunting takes place in the Internet |
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LastKnight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:19 PM Response to Reply #31 |
38. best way to do it is get out there in person. |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:17 PM Response to Reply #8 |
35. Did that this morning (before I got the bill), gave him trolley fair. |
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LastKnight (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:22 PM Response to Reply #35 |
42. its a start. |
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BikeWriter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:45 PM Response to Reply #8 |
51. Good advice! |
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caty (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:03 PM Response to Original message |
11. You have to put the responsibility on him. |
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WCGreen (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:12 PM Response to Reply #11 |
28. 19 years and 9 months..... |
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Droopy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:03 PM Response to Original message |
12. I saw one person who had the same problem |
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sasquatch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:05 PM Response to Original message |
15. Tell him Bush is going to draft all people under 25 that are jobless |
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LeftyMom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:08 PM Response to Original message |
23. College or job. |
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RPM (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:32 PM Response to Reply #23 |
49. or Army |
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Debi (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:09 PM Response to Original message |
25. 19? |
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kcwayne (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:14 PM Response to Original message |
30. Tell him to register as a Republican, and he could be the next President. |
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bj2110 (802 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:21 PM Response to Reply #30 |
40. Too damn funny.... |
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rwheeler31 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:15 PM Response to Original message |
32. Contact your local Vocational school, |
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BikeWriter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:16 PM Response to Original message |
34. Ground him off the phone. Tell him you're considering... |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:22 PM Response to Reply #34 |
43. When he was working I did charge him rent. He got fired from A&W |
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BikeWriter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:39 PM Response to Reply #43 |
50. He needs to be actively searching for something that does work out... |
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MsUnderstood (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:19 PM Response to Original message |
37. more like what do you do with an adult . . . |
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hickman1937 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:26 PM Response to Original message |
46. Let me know what you decide. |
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Ariana Celeste (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:31 PM Response to Original message |
47. My mom is facing the same dilemna right now |
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LynneSin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:31 PM Response to Original message |
48. Here's my advice from years of reading "Dear Abby" |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:24 PM Response to Reply #48 |
64. His mother is in her own world of marrying and divorcing soulmates. |
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roguevalley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:47 PM Response to Original message |
52. Make a deadline and have him meet it. Then enforce it. Short term |
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SOteric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 05:56 PM Response to Original message |
53. First, swap his cell phone out for a pre-paid phone |
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China_cat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:00 PM Response to Original message |
54. You say he's ADHD and dyslexic? |
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ksilvas (310 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:08 PM Response to Original message |
55. Line Cook at Denny' |
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maveric (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:12 PM Response to Reply #55 |
57. He does love to cook. Took classes in HS for culinary arts. |
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YellowRubberDuckie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:20 PM Response to Reply #57 |
61. There are some Vo Techs and community colleges with great culinary schools |
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ksilvas (310 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:29 PM Response to Reply #57 |
66. Seriously, about the Cooking. |
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XemaSab (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:10 PM Response to Original message |
56. No more cell phone |
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Vuem (70 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:18 PM Response to Original message |
59. Move his ass out. Period. |
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ismnotwasm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:19 PM Response to Original message |
60. I had similar problems with a couple of my kids |
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Saphire (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:21 PM Response to Original message |
62. Kick his ass out, its time. |
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Democracy White (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:30 PM Response to Original message |
67. I am a 25 year old living with my father |
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Samurai_Writer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jul-11-05 06:41 PM Response to Original message |
70. This is what I told my two when they were 19 |
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