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so like someone else said, it's a nice buffer zone.
Last year, I was accepted to a nursing school about 3 hours away from where we lived at the time. Obviously, we had been planning on potentially having to move depending on which school I got into. I had been taking pre-requisites for the program for a year and a half. We KNEW what was coming.
When I found out I was accepted, hubby told his mom and she's all like "Oooh....do you KIDS have enough money to do that?"
No, Sally. We're stupid and didn't realize that if I applied to a school 3 hours away, I'd have to MOVE to that city. I was really hoping that I could do a 6.5 hour commute to and from school every day :eyes:
And it pisses me off that she refers to us as KIDS--I'm 29 and my husband is 32. Hardly kids, and she only calls us "kids" when we're doing something that goes against HER grain of what 'normal' people will and won't do.
When my husband decided last year to go back to school for nursing (he already has a bachelor's degree), she was all "ooooh...you kids...I hope you know what you're getting into. School isn't easy, you know..."
WE KNOW SCHOOL ISN'T EASY. HE SPENT FOUR YEARS GETTING A DEGREE BEFORE, REMEMBER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She never gives us the benefit of the doubt. It doesn't help that his 2 sisters are older, more affluent, wealthy, and live the Jane and John Smith predictable lifestyle. THey get new cars every year...our current car is 5 years old, and the Honda we had before that was 10 when we sold it. We're not materialistic, we live a simple life, we don't strive to live what the Status Quo says we should do in our life. We don't wear our annual salaries around our neck for everyone to see, and (most importantly), we don't have kids (unlike her perfect eldest daughter, who did teh proper thing and had a child to save her loveless marriage).
Luckily, most of our conversations are limited to phone calls on Sundays and seeing her in person every few years. We have learned to just nod our heads and say "yes yes, we never thought of that" and then laugh hysterically once we're out of earshot. She never has given her son (my husband) the benefit of the doubt, never once thought that perhaps he HAD thought through a major decision before making that decision. Never. To her, he's a 5 year old in a 32 year old's body, and will never be a fully functioning adult. His sisters, on the other hand, are reincarnation of Saints, who can do no wrong. Even though their lives are in shambles, they hate their jobs and live miserable lives, they MAKE ALOT OF MONEY, and that, my friends, makes them automatically good and grounded people :eyes:
I remember when we moved from the East Coast to the West Coast. We were originally going to drive a van across country lickety-split and make it 3200 miles in about 5 days MINIMUM. She wanted us to make a 1500 mile left turn and see her FOR A FEW DAYS at her house, in the middle of the country and COMPLETELY out of our way to Seattle. Mind you, we would have been driving a huge van, using incredible amounts of gas AND having 2 cats with us. But she wanted us to drive 1500 miles extra to see her for a week. WHen we decided to fly out and have our stuff shipped out, she had the BIGGEST shit-fit imaginable. We were greedy and selfish and how DARE we not want to spend inordinate amounts of time and money to see her ON OUR DIME. The nerve.
All that being said, I love my MIL like she was my own. She has her quirks, as we all do. I'm sure my nerves would be a bit more grated if we lived within a few hours drive, but as it is, we're several hours flight time away, and I like it :) :) :)
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