I understand the "she's not my mother" sentiment. I really do.

[Bouncy Ball]

I've heard husbands say they aren't getting their wives anything for Mother's Day because "she's not my mother."

And I understand that. She's not. BUT. She did make you a father. Gave birth to your children and all that.

So in that respect, I think a small tribute is in order.

I mean, I carried a child for nine months (and then some), went through 26 hours of agonizing labor and had a nine pound baby with no drugs AND got a few fingers fractured in the process (long story). And that is Mr. Bouncy's only genetic progeny on earth.

Yeah, I think that deserves at least a kiss and a card.

And on Father's Day, I will recognize the great sacrifice he made to make me a mother: erm.....that rainy night in the early spring when he said it was too late to go to the drugstore and just this time, nothing will happen.

:rofl:

[LibertyLover]

1. Several years ago

Several years ago I was at a friend's house on her first Mother's Day. She and her husband had adopted a little boy in February. When I made plans to visit her, I hadn't realized it was Mother's Day weekend and luckily had not gotten her a card or anything. I walked into the kitchen that morning and over breakfast wished her a happy day. She thanked me than turned and glared at her husband, a psychologist (!?!) who was behind a newspaper reading. However he felt her glare, put the paper down and said what, what do you want? I don't consider you mother - you didn't give birth to him. From the glares he got from both of us, he realized that he had said something Really Stupid (tm). So of course, he decided to compound the stupidity with a follow-up whine: So do you want something, a present or something?

I realized several things right at that moment: 1. their marriage was not going to last (it didn't - they divorced a couple years later); 2. it was a lucky thing I hadn't compounded the problem by giving my friend a card; and 3. how happy I was not to be married to that cretin.

My own husband was amazing. On the first Mother's Day after our marriage, even though I hadn't met his children from his first marriage yet (another long story - short hand version - parental poisoning by his ex) he gave me a Mother's day card because I was a stepmother. Now that we have our own little girl he delights in taking her to the card store to pick out Valentines Day cards, Mother's Day cards, birthday cards, anniversary cards.

[scarlet_owl]

2. Gee. I don't have any children and I still get a mother's day

card from my husband. It's because I'm a "ferret mom".

[RubyDuby in GA]

4. Ha! Me too

I get cards from my baby - the dog - for all holidays.
He's so thoughtful. :)

[blue neen]

3. Honestly, I think it's just a respectful thing to do to get your wife

a card for Mother's Day. Same goes for husbands for Father's Day.

[grace0418]

5. I don't know about anyone else but

I'd like to hear the long story about your fingers getting broken while in labor. My curiosity is piqued!

[Bouncy Ball]

9. I'll try to do the short version:

I labored for 26 hours and finally her head was delivered, but in the labor room (I hadn't been moved to the delivery room). The nurses freaked out (heads are apparently NOT allowed to appear in labor rooms) so they started to roll my bed into the delivery room.

No one told me to take my hands off the bed rails. And I was a bit distracted. When my fingers were smashed between the bed rails and the door frame, the nurse at the head of the bed panicked and figured maybe if she hit the bed really hard, it would just go on through. So she body slammed the bed, smashing my fingers further.

Remember, I have a HEAD delivered. I am in so much pain from both ends I can't make a sound. The nurse at the foot of my bed screamed and told the nurse "BACK IT UP! BACK IT UP!" They pulled hard on the bed backwards and got my fingers out.

They were already swelling and purple. They wheeled me into the delivery room where the doctor asked "what's wrong with her hands?" and the nurse didn't answer him.

I looked over at her and choked out "That's ONE way of getting me to forget the pain."

After my daughter was born, I was sent to x-ray.

[tigereye]

12. oh my God BB

that is incredible! I am shocked that they could be so UNAWARE.
( polite way of saying it.)

Shit.

And I thought I had it bad having 2 epidurals ( the first one only worked half-way) and a forceps delivery!

Happy Mother's Day!

[bigwillq]

6. My neighbor's hubby says that!

It makes her really upset. She's such a caring, loving person too.

[jpgray]

7. They should call it Guilt Day and have done

:D

[Bouncy Ball]

8. I wrote a note to my husband telling him

I wanted a date with him for Mother's Day.

My PS on the note included the gory details of our daughter's birth. In case he had forgotten.

So I agree. Guilt Day.

:D

[enigmatic]

10. My wife told me flat out when we first got together..

"Don't ever buy me a Mother's Day card; I'm not your mother, I'm your wife and your soulmate". And she was absolutely right, and another reason why I love her so much.

I don't need a greeting card company or flower company telling me or my wife when we should buy flowers or cards for one another, especially when those same companies are the one reaping the profits from this to begin with; we tell each other we love each other every day, and we buy each other cards when we want to; it's not contingent on what holiday the greeting card and flowers companies tell us it is.

[Bouncy Ball]

11. We boycott Valentine's Day for the same reasons.

But we don't boycott Mother's Day or Father's Day. Go figure.

[tigereye]

13. the guys -

husband and son - usually take me to the garden store and I get what goodies I like. :)

[evlbstrd]

14. I get to pay for the brunch. n/t